name changed for this as i don't know if i am being a bit silly
i met another mum a couple of years ago through the dcs school, we instantly hit it off and now i class her as one of my best friends. our dcs are very close as well.
we were recently talking about how we met our DHs and it transpired that she was the OW. i have to say i was (and am) shocked. as she just doesn't seem the "type" IYSWIM, and neither does her DH. she is one of the nicest, kindest people i have ever met.
friends DH is lovely too and absolutely besotted with her. they have been together 6 years, married 4 i think. they have a gorgeous little DD together and another one on the way. she was a single mum of one when they met, so he is also stepdad to her eldest. their marriage just all seems so genuine and lovely, i can't imagine them having such a horrid start, and doing such a horrible thing. according to my friend it was her DH that started things (she was single) they fell head over heels ( ) and he left his XW within weeks of meeting her, and he wasn't happy in his marriage anyway (but they all say that don't they.....) and she says its been very hard sometimes dealing with the guilt, fallout and what ifs etc.
i am possibly being biased as dh had an affair a few years ago. but i took him back and we worked through it, it wasn't easy. i never knew dh's OW, i sometimes still wonder about her tbh. i guess that, since dh's affair, i have had this image of the OW always being a hard faced nasty type and my lovely friend just doesn't fit the bill. she does seem to regret how they met but she wouldn't change anything as they are happy now. BTW my friend does not know about this.
i am not going to stop being her friend and i don't want to judge. but i just feel weird about it TBH, not sure what i am looking for but just wanted to write it down i guess.
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NonJudgementalWannabe · 18/12/2013 14:09
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