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AIBU to think that teenagers carol singing are just begging

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Norudeshitrequired Mon 16-Dec-13 20:22:36

2 teenagers knocked on my door this evening and started singing a Christmas carol when I opened the door. I immediately sent them away.
These girls were dressed in very fashionable clothes and I don't think for one minute that they were trying to raise money to feed themselves. I think they were just after extorting some cash from the local residents.
What would you have done in this situation?
Personally, I think it is just begging and that nobody should give money to teenagers who are knocking on the doors of random strangers. We have a lot of elderly people living alone in the area and these two girls would be bigger, physically, than a lot of the elderly people and might come across as very intimidating.

riskit4abiskit Mon 16-Dec-13 20:23:52

Did you give them chance to say if they were collecting for charity?

LRDtheFeministDragon Mon 16-Dec-13 20:26:14

Erm ... I may be influenced by the thread about things you don't usually say on MN, but are you kidding?

You sent them away. They presumably went. So?

I like carol singers. Some round here are really good, good enough you want to listen. I'm not quite sure how 'Hark the Herald' could intimidate the elderly?

magicbiscuits Mon 16-Dec-13 20:27:18

Some elderly people might actually like it. Harks back to the days when all young people used to be up to this sort of thing, etc. etc. with no harm meant.

NigellasDealer Mon 16-Dec-13 20:28:45

two girls singing a christmas carol might intimidate the elderly?
how exactly?
and no they are not begging, they are door to door busking and should be commended for their initiative

stargirl1701 Mon 16-Dec-13 20:28:48

Teenagers really can't do anything right...

usualsuspect Mon 16-Dec-13 20:29:09

What would I have done?

Gave them a quid,probably.

MincedMuffPies Mon 16-Dec-13 20:29:43

Of course they are. Me and my friends used to carol sing for cider and fags money! Just be nice and give them a pound.

Norudeshitrequired Mon 16-Dec-13 20:30:57

Well if they were collecting for charity then I would have expected to see a badge or a collection box or something. What I actually saw was two 14/15 year old girls dressed in jogging bottoms and hooded tops.
My thoughts are that an elderly person might feel obliged to give some money to a teenager in a hoodie as they don't know what the consequences of not giving might be.
I must be just sceptical and mean because I don't give sweets to anyone who looks over age 13 on Halloween either.

Rufustherednosedreindeer Mon 16-Dec-13 20:31:23

I give carol singers a quid as well

But they have to sing two songs, and one of them has to be Rudolph the red nosed raindeer

And I make my children come out and watch

It's torture for just about everybody.....except me!

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking Mon 16-Dec-13 20:31:47

stargirl1701 Your post is spot on!

Norudeshitrequired Mon 16-Dec-13 20:32:48

Me and my friends used to carol sing for cider and fags money!

Well I really don't want to give money towards that, I can't even afford fags and cider for myself.

usualsuspect Mon 16-Dec-13 20:33:18

Not all teenagers in hoodies are gonna bash you and nick your handbag

Norudeshitrequired Mon 16-Dec-13 20:33:23

I like that idea rufus

NigellasDealer Mon 16-Dec-13 20:33:27

dressed in jogging bottoms and hooded tops
ah now we are getting to the crux of the matter - you should have mentioned that their tops had hoods earlier!!
were the hoods up or down?

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking Mon 16-Dec-13 20:33:36

So first they were wearing very fashionable clothes and now they are wearing Joggers and hoodies? Which one is it op?

LRDtheFeministDragon Mon 16-Dec-13 20:34:07

Why do you think they were collecting for charity, or should have been? confused

If they said so, mightn't it be true? It's just you seem to think that's the only reason they'd sing carols, and, well, traditionally people do it for booze money. Sorry if that's not terribly lovely and middle class but it's a tradition going back centuries. If you really hate it give them mulled wine with star anise in it, that's punishment enough.

pigletmania Mon 16-Dec-13 20:34:14

I agree op, it is begging, if they were collecting for charity they would have made it more noticeable, had a charity shaker, charity badge etc. I woud have sent them away too.

Norudeshitrequired Mon 16-Dec-13 20:34:56

Joggers and hooded tops are fashionable if you are 15 and they are one of the desired teenage labels (around here anyway).

usualsuspect Mon 16-Dec-13 20:35:45

This is like the Trick or Treating threads with a festive twist.

Heartbrokenmum73 Mon 16-Dec-13 20:35:45

Oooh, the utter hoodie beeyatches!

Interestingly, DD was singing locally on Friday (with school singing group, so it's allowed). Guess what some of the older girls were wearing...

CranberrySaucyJack Mon 16-Dec-13 20:35:59

Exactly how bad was their singing that you think it counts as extortion?!

NigellasDealer Mon 16-Dec-13 20:36:01

yes but you just added it in afterwards about their hooded tops to justify your attitude

Norudeshitrequired Mon 16-Dec-13 20:36:39

Thanks piglet - glad I'm not the only mean mumsnetter who sends them away fenvy

ConferencePear Mon 16-Dec-13 20:36:48

I usually give, but I do like them to actually know the

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