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I'm 40 next year and I wanted to mark its significance doing something special.
I was originally going to away on a spa weekend and I'm dithering.
I love love love my own company ,now and again I like to do what I want , when I want , how I want. For example I take the odd day off swanning around in London , going to The Old Bailey watching a court case then having a nice meal out returning fairly early evenings . Dp is fine with me doing this now and again although he has told me its not his idea of a nice time he's supportive
We have very different views on what we class as a good time
I've decided to go away originally it was for a weekend but now my ds2 has asked to come with me , the boy asks for nothing , often being reclusive , has very few friends and hardly socialises , isn't very touchy feely with any of us and you can feel him flinch when you cuddle him , that's just his way .. So I was suprised when he said he wants to come to spend time with me
Dp has a mood on as " I'm not invited " as I said I want this break to go away , laze around , eat when I want , sleep when I want , read constantly and not be worried about the other person . I want to recharge my batteries and have some time for me He calls it boring and wants to speedboat , hand glide , go to the beach all say , eat 3 meals a day dead on feeding time , I find this all too much
He's made it clear he finds my idea of fun , doing very little very boring but is still moody he's not coming
I don't want to have to worry that he's bored , this holiday is for me . I'm saving the money , I've cutback on a few luxuries to pay for it and I'm booking a lovely villa in Spain
I also have a DD she will be 6 , so she will be coming if he goes , it will turn into a family holiday , she gets up around 6am , she's constantly on the move , needs constant attention , I just want a break .
Ds is very much like me , loves his own company and doesn't need to eat at 9.00am , 1pm then 6pm and will laze around just like me I've told DP that I will save again so I can take DD to Lapland the year after so she gets a holiday to .
Finances allow this , obviously I wouldnt do it otherwise.
Ds has asked to come that's why I turned it into a week as I don't feel anxious being away from the children that long if one of them is with me
DP did something similar a few years back . He went to Poland for a golf tournament . I stayed home to look after the children .
He knows he can go away too , he gets invited every year to go to Portugal for golf but never goes
AIBU to want this very rare trip away just for me
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To go away by myself for a week all for me
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Shinyshoes1 · 16/12/2013 11:50
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