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am i the only one who dislikes christmas

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FortyDoorsToNowhere Mon 09-Dec-13 22:27:00

bah humbug alert.

I never get in the Christmas spirt, the christmas decs are already bugging me and I am glad to be working all over christmas.

CarolineDeWinter Fri 13-Dec-13 13:52:50

Love - so sorry about your DD.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 13-Dec-13 09:22:06

No I work in a hospital

comingintomyown Fri 13-Dec-13 08:54:07

Love sad

I agree about how you are marked as a figure of pity if there's any suggestion of being by yourself on Christmas Day and it's quite hard to not get drawn into that. I capitulated and I am joining a friend and her family for lunch but really what am I doing there except not being on my own ! I considered lying but felt bad in case my DC ( who will be with XH) found out because they would then feel bad

Fortunately next year they will be with me and I won't have to think about this

Golddigger Fri 13-Dec-13 08:41:06

Do you work in a shop op?

Forty. Happy Birthday for 2 days time!
That is awful that people forget or are to busy.

Golddigger Fri 13-Dec-13 08:40:15

Love sad

PaulSmenis Fri 13-Dec-13 08:37:07

I actually enjoy Christmas eve and Christmas day, it's what comes after that really grinds my gears.

The days between Boxing Day and New Year seem to endlessly drag on. It's like some sort of twilight zone of endless bank holiday Mondays - only you have to visit relatives you see once a year who force feed you mince pies and you end up with constpation and heatburn.

If I had got my shit together earlier in the year I would have made sure that I was working apart from Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Years Day.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Thu 12-Dec-13 21:24:06

Bless you Love.

I can't even book a holiday due to work.

There are parts I do like, but I can cook a storm anytime

Lottapianos Thu 12-Dec-13 21:19:28

Oh Love I'm so sorry to hear that x

autumnsmum Thu 12-Dec-13 20:01:16

Love and that is so sad

LucyLasticKnickers Thu 12-Dec-13 19:32:35

it is SO stressful, i was wondering about going to church, to actuallyh remember what its all about.
we have forgotten what it is all about.

LoveAndDeath Thu 12-Dec-13 19:32:11

I used to love it till my baby daughter died.

Now I dread it but have to pretend to love it for my sons.

Dollslikeyouandme Thu 12-Dec-13 19:29:52

You're not the only one, I don't hate it, but it's always such a chore, the true meaning is often lost and replaced with a greed fest, I have to socialise with people who I don't really want to, and then there's a big anti climax.

I do make a big effort for ds, and I'm quite looking forward to this year as we're eating out so I don't have to cook.

I really hate NYE and completely ignore it.

Bah humbug.

LouiseAderyn Thu 12-Dec-13 18:43:11

I love my Christmas tree and all yhe fairy lights and I enjoy the school nativity and carol concert.

But I hate the financial pressure and the obligation to be sociable and see people I am quite happy not to spend hours with. I am really scared about the amount of money I have spent and this year I was trying to cut down and not spend the equivalent of the national debt on gifts!

BreakingGood Thu 12-Dec-13 18:32:57

I like some aspects of it but hate others.
I loathe the 'tick list' gift giving - exchanging tat or stuff you could have easily got yourself...I only want to buy for my own DC. It is just plain silly. Hate the fact opting out of it is such a big deal.
I don't like Christmas cards - would much rather give and receive birthday cards.
I do like the decorations (but for a couple of weeks max), the parties and just staying at home all warm whilst it is cold outside.

PaulSmenis Thu 12-Dec-13 18:19:07

I don't appreciate being plied with alcohol. People can get very huffy when you refuse. Same with Mince pies, Christmas pud and Christmas cake. Why? They are totally minging.

Mim78 Thu 12-Dec-13 17:51:32

I like it in many ways.

However don't like culture of excess and over spending / gettin paralytic either.

Feel for emergency services having to deal with all the extra unnecessary crap. Also for people going through difficult time as Xmas makes it all worse.

Lottapianos Thu 12-Dec-13 17:25:36

I'm pretty much a refuser. No cards, no decorations, no wishing anyone a 'happy Christmas', I just say 'have a good break' instead. DP and I not doing gifts this year, will get gifts for PILs as we will be staying with them. The only Xmas things I do are eat mince pies, Christmas cake and Christmas dinner. Coz I'm a pig.

mrsjay Thu 12-Dec-13 16:45:11

mrsjay you should definitely go away!

we probably will in a few years but then there might be grandchildren and it starts all over again might just leave the dds to it grin

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Thu 12-Dec-13 15:27:51

I could so easily give the whole thing a miss. It would suit me just to have a few quiet days at home, pottering about and going for a few walks in the countryside.

However, DC would be hugely upset, so I do enough to make it seem as though I've made an effort. I'm not doing any special cooking though, it'll be Sainsburys mince pies and pudding.

Yes, once every few years as several previous posters have said. Once a decade anyone?

CarolineDeWinter Thu 12-Dec-13 14:22:28

I'm like the Ghost of Bleeding Past Present & Future at Christmas! I pine for departed loved ones especially pets. I fret about the future when DD (who's only 8 ffs) might decide to spend Xmas Eve with her in-laws! And I yearn for a stylish low key Scandinavian Xmas but without the snow confused

I don't do cards, DH has to buy and wrap his own presents blush and I grind my teeth throughout visits to and from relatives.

However, I love that DH and DD are much more easy-going and fun-loving than me and I know how bloody lucky I am to have them and the means to enjoy whinging in warmth, comfort with enough food and money to go round. Were that we were all so lucky, eh?

Just don't get me started on New Year's Eve ...

Lazysuzanne Thu 12-Dec-13 12:55:36

How many actual christmas refusers are there on here? (I'm one)

NuggetofPurestGreen Thu 12-Dec-13 12:49:16

Exactly ephiny I don't care if people think I'm weird (it's them who are weird I think if they can't accept other people's choices) but sometimes I get sick of explaining myself and it's easier just to pretend I'm going to someone's house and then just stay on my own in my own house secretly!

mrsjay you should definitely go away!

Ephiny Thu 12-Dec-13 12:41:41

Yes it's difficult to opt out when people won't accept your choice. You can do it if you're very stubborn and don't care if people think you're weird (that would be me then smile) but it's not easy.

Just look at the post above where the poster calls her partner 'misery guts' etc just because he doesn't want to join in her 'fun'. Why can't people just get on with it if they want to, and leave the rest of us alone? I don't expect the rest of the population to share all my hobbies and interests, or think it makes them 'miserable'.

mrsjay Thu 12-Dec-13 12:34:52

you are right opting out isn't easy me and Dh would love to sit in the house and not go anywhere but convention is you need to celebrate in someway I said to adult dd the other day Oh i think when you and your sister move out me and dad wil go on holiday or something she was horrified

NuggetofPurestGreen Thu 12-Dec-13 12:32:11

It's all well and good if you have some sort of traditional family set up but I hate the pressure and stress Christmas creates for people that don't. I'm perfectly happy to spend Christmas (which is just another day) alone in my house and eat Pringles and watch the telly but other people hassle me about that and think it's some kind of terrible tragedy and you "can't spend Christmas on your own!!!" etc etc. I've ended up lying to people about what I'm doing so Ty don't try and pressure me in to coming up their houses for dinner. Opting out isn't actually that easy.

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