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Aibu and a bit gross or was this a twatty comment from boyfriend? (maybe tmi)

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RainbowShadow Sun 08-Dec-13 00:12:41

When I have sex with my boyfriend we don't use a condom (I am on the pill and we've both been tested etc)

Anyway after we're finished I usually like to cuddle for maximum 10 minutes (give or take) and then I'll use the bathroom, wipe with tissue and then use a babywipe. Then I'll have a shower in the morning - as I do anyway.

Last night again after we'd finished (we're talking minutes), bf asked me if I was going to clean myself, I replied yes of course I was and that I always do anyway.

He then replied - yeah you do .... but not always straight away, and I don't want you to get all horrible down there.


ladythatlunches Mon 09-Dec-13 20:39:14

Im so jealous of you all who can snuggle after and go to sleep. I get very veey nasty urine infection that turns from mild to bleeding etc in hours.

I always have a bath in evening so if nookie is on the cards that's fine, but I have to get up wee, wash, rinse dry and clean cotton pants!

Long gone are the days of sleeping in wet patches for me sad

NewtRipley Mon 09-Dec-13 19:30:35


The "sex" bit of the sex is sexy though..

happygirl87 Mon 09-Dec-13 17:12:28

TooOld and Poshfrock, me too. AMAZED (as ever) by the lengths some people go to!

runningonwillpower Mon 09-Dec-13 16:35:07

How unsexy is the post-coital hygiene palaver?

We just go to sleep.

Quoteunquote Mon 09-Dec-13 16:33:00

Start using condoms as he sounds far too immature to risk breeding with, I would add a cap just to be on the safe side.

tutu100 Mon 09-Dec-13 16:26:32

My first thought ( and you'll know whether it was said like this) is that maybe he was concerned. He may as some other have suggested got the wrong end of the stick with regards to something like thrush or cystitis. Did he sound concerned or was he insturcting you?

poshfrock Mon 09-Dec-13 16:17:12

life What happens if you have sex more than once in the same night? Do you do multiple bath/ sheet change combos?

poshfrock Mon 09-Dec-13 16:14:41

TooOld No you are not the only person who does that. Sometimes I go for a wee but not every time. Often fall asleep still "entwined" as it were.

Famzilla Mon 09-Dec-13 11:45:18

This is why we use condoms. (Well that and any other form of contraception turns me into a dragon or mother) So the lazy cow in me can just roll over and go to sleep whilst DH gets up washes his knob somewhere.

TwoShakesOfaWhiskersTail Mon 09-Dec-13 11:27:47

life you have a bath and change the sheets every time?
How often do you have sex? I couldn't be arsed with all that, had no idea you were supposed to do anything.
Don't you just cuddle up and fall asleep?

NewtRipley Mon 09-Dec-13 11:06:00

I agree about the BF by the way.

NewtRipley Mon 09-Dec-13 11:05:18


re: cystitis. If you are prone to cystitis, the advice to wee before/after is really helpful. Unfortunately I'm prone.

dontcallmehon Mon 09-Dec-13 10:54:04

This thread is actually hilarious!

natwebb79 Mon 09-Dec-13 10:46:24

I'm convinced she's seeing my ex...

FrameyMcFrame Sun 08-Dec-13 21:58:18

Oh the op hasn't returned, I hope she shows him the thread!

TooOldForGlitter Sun 08-Dec-13 21:44:16

As per my thread the sherry may have addled my posting judgement but I surely cannot be the only person who just goes to sleep after?? No wee no wipe no tissue just ta love that was grand, night.

womma Sun 08-Dec-13 21:40:08

I wouldn't be doing it with any man who referred to my delightful winky as 'down there'. Get a real boyfriend.

Jengnr Sun 08-Dec-13 21:33:38

Tell him he's quite right and therefore he can no longer finish inside you.

He can sort you out then deal with the rest himself.

meeemo Sun 08-Dec-13 21:30:46


PrincessFlirtyPants Sun 08-Dec-13 21:27:42

DoYouLikeMyBaubles my legs shake as well! I thought I was the only one though blush

XiCi Sun 08-Dec-13 21:17:27

Agree with forty doors. Sex with someone who can't wait for you to get out of bed and clean yourself must be pretty joyless. Some serious issues going on there.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 08-Dec-13 21:11:41

noArmaniNoPunani loves your name, fits in well with this thread

NoArmaniNoPunani Sun 08-Dec-13 21:08:57

as for changing the bedding I have to I couldn't sleep in a bed full of cum

Full of cum?! How many men are you sleeping with wink

DoYouLikeMyBaubles Sun 08-Dec-13 21:05:46

I lie there with shaky legs for a spell, then get up. I'd end up on my arse if I got up straight away - not only because of shaky legs but my blood pressure blush

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 08-Dec-13 21:05:03

i always thought sperm can live in the vagina for up to 72 hours, so no nooky for 3 days if he wants it free from his little swimmers.

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