Hi mumsnetters,
please help me with a trickly money issue, I need opinions!!
I am divorced (amicably) with two schoolage boys. I work full time in a demanding job that I love, but I don't earn an excessive salary. I inherited my house, and have a low mortgage. I have a new partner and he is living with us. My mum is living with me and is effectively running the household for us all. Sounds all great, I know.
My new partner is paying half the monthly costs of running our household (excluding the mortgage), and contributes with a bit of DIY and cooks one meal Sunday evening (he is not a natural talent for either tasks I have to say). I pay the other half, my mum pays nothing which is more than fair because she is runnning the place. I am not a money oriented person, and I have never argued about money not even with my ex-husband, but I keep wondering whether this arrangement is fair.
Here an incoherent list of facts and points to consider:
- my new partner earns about double as much as me
- because his monthly costs are so low, he can save money. I cannot.
- he has a flat to maintain for his children from his first marriage, and has to travel home regularly to see them
- if he rented somewhere, his costs would be at least double of what he pays now, and for a much smaller place
- he thinks that partners and friends should not charge rent from each other, and I agree with him on that one
- he pays more often than me for going out, concerts, etc
- I fear this is a bad deal for my mum, because she is effectively cooking and washing laundry for him.
- he is often away travelling for work
Should he pay more than half the monthly running costs?? I truly do not know the answer, and would really like to hear your opinions.
xxx