My OH is very sociable when out and about,,, he goes to the local every day but he NEVER wants anyone to come back to our house. I always knew he was a bit anti social and doesn't suffer fools gladly.
I like to get out and about and since we sort of semi retired we have worked out a system that works for both of us. At first I found it hard to join in things on my own in a new place (we moved abroad) but now I have lots of friends and belong to different things. Some of my friends are in couples some are single. Some know my OH some have never met him.
This is where it gets difficult. I can't invite people for a meal becaue he won't join in and lurks about, noisily, in the background and that makes even the most thick skinned of my friends feel uncomfortable.
My friends always invite me to there houses for dinner etc and I always insist on providing something substantial or even doing the whole meal on occasions because its more comfortable than being at my house. When I am invited they always say and bring OH too but they know its not going to happen.
I must say he is never resentful of me going but often makes little comments that remind me of the kid in the school playground that just longs to join in but can't quite summon the courage.
AIBU that just once in a blue moon, however uncomfortable it might make him feel (I know that for all his bluster he is very shy when cornered in social situations) he could make the effort to come along with me? I just find it so tedious explaining all the time and making excuses, especially to new people that I meet and who genuinely are interested to meet OH too. I feel that they feel insulted that he just wont do it.
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isme10 · 22/11/2013 11:29
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