Actually its is my nan being U?
My sister can be, 'funny' as in sometimes she is all happy and 'normal' but other times she is just off with you for no reason. No SN or personality problems or anything like that. She is exactly like her our mum in that she just gets 'off' for no reason.
She loves my kids, I know she does and she says she likes having them and would do it anytime (but she won't ever offer, I have to ask which I don't like doing), but my nan thinks I shouldn't leave them with her, not because she will hurt them, she would never do that, but just her general attitude towards them.
She is fussy, I don't know why, she isn't house proud or obsessively clean and tidy, but heaven forbid if they touch anything in her house. She has a table with a few bits on, not arranged in order, just coasters, candles (unlit) and stuff like that. They are never allowed to touch it. There are some boxes underneath, they get told off for touching them. When they stayed, she texted me to tell me that they had moved something and she couldn't find it (something trivial). Something got spilt on her carpet and she made a massive deal over it, I got texts about how she couldn't get it out and how she wasn't happy. They play with her kitten which she doesn't mind, but then she expects them to switch off immediately when she says so and leave it alone (they are young children, I always give a few minute warning for stuff as I don't expect children to stop something immediately when someone says so). I always tell them to stop touching/leave kitten alone when sister says it, I don't let them carry on but I am made to feel that me and my kids are an unwelcome imposition in her home, even though she wants us to come over (she doesn't come to mine because of not driving).
Last week we were there and DD was fiddling with a cushion. After a little while, sister snatched the cushion off DD and slammed it down with an air of 'leave my fucking cushion alone' type thing. DD looked at me bewildered and I just gave her a smile.
The back door was open recently because the cat went out and the kids went out as well, then sister was complaining because they were outside and she wanted to shut the door, they had been out for about 2 minutes. Then she was complaining because they moved some small stones (again, garden is not some sort of show garden, just normal garden). I just got the kids to come in as it wasn't worth the constant comments from my sister.
I know its really trivial stuff but my nan thinks that if she is like this when I am there, then what's she like when I am not there (probably exactly the same I imagine) so she thinks I shouldn't leave them there with her. I don't really know. I know my sister likes my children, although to an outsider it really may not seem like it. I also half jokingly said that she wouldn't want them to stay again then (after complaining about the spilling) and she said no, she really liked having them there.
Do I just think that my nan is being over cautious or does she have a point?
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HmmIDontKnow · 11/11/2013 11:34
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