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to have expected some sympathy.

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popmusic84 Thu 07-Nov-13 13:47:11

So I was upstairs with dc supervising bedtime for dc. Suddenly I felt the urge to vomit and was physically sick. Kids just carried on as normal but obviously I wouldn't necessarily expect sympathy from primary aged dc.
However, I went doenstairs to get water and told dh and his response was um!
No sympathy.
Aibu to be pissed off with him.

WallaceWindsock Fri 08-Nov-13 12:14:03

I don't think YABU! DP normally hears me and comes and holds my hair. I'd be hurt if he didn't even turn from the tv because in our relationship that would be unusual. Some people on this thread obviously operate differently which is fine but it think the fact that it upset you suggests that this isn't what you'd expect his response to be in your relationship, therefore YANBU.

Opalite Fri 08-Nov-13 12:07:13

Of course YANBU. Nobody likes being sick, it is absolutely horrible! I'm surprised at the YABUs on this thread

Crowler Thu 07-Nov-13 20:54:26

Maybe I'm TMI with my husband but he'd know straight away if I were sick. But I'm sick like once every ten years.

popmusic84 Thu 07-Nov-13 20:39:52

Guess I was just feeling fragile. Af going on too. So a mixed response. Thank you.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Thu 07-Nov-13 20:25:03

you have my sympathy. I am sick twice a day every time i brush my teeth.


everlong Thu 07-Nov-13 20:01:35


I wouldn't even bother telling DH that.

I mean what's he going to do with that info?

raisah Thu 07-Nov-13 19:56:07

Go and kiss him before you brush your teeth. You will soon get a reaction! grin

Men are generally not very good with the empathy when it comes to sickness.

Minty82 Thu 07-Nov-13 19:13:33

YANBU!!! I'm pregnant, so am sick quite frequently at the moment but still expect (and get!) sympathy when it happens. No reaction to your wife being sick out of the blue is bizarre. Hope you're feeling better.

Lilacroses Thu 07-Nov-13 19:04:23

YA definitely NBU. Am really surprised that some people think you are! How odd of him not to check you are ok or offer you help!

SpottyDottie Thu 07-Nov-13 18:57:49

What hoppingmad said. Vomiting is horrible, no matter if it happens regularly to,you because of an existing illness or because you have a bug or are pregnant. I'd expect sympathy every time. Luckily my DH is a very caring kind man. I'm sorry yours wasn't too bothered op. make him pay for it

DoJo Thu 07-Nov-13 17:56:22

It depends - I throw up a lot, so only mention it to my husband if he asks why I was so long in the bathroom, and don't really expect much beyond an 'oh, right' when I do. But if you don't throw up often or are a bit funny about it then I would at least expect a little sympathy.

songlark Thu 07-Nov-13 16:36:45

Yanbu, I would have expected sympathy as well even though
I know I wouldn't have got any. I think it's just common courtesy to show a bit of concern, how would he have liked it if you had took to your bed and left him to cope with everything.

popmusic84 Thu 07-Nov-13 16:27:41

That's bad ikabod.

Ikabod Thu 07-Nov-13 15:16:08

My DH would ask if I'd stained the carpet/ damaged anything. I'm trying to teach him "people over things". I was upset about something once. He came in the bedroom, then went out and got a damp cloth to wipe my mascara-infused tears off the duvet cover. Afterwards I gently explained that next time he should get tissues and mop me up, we can put the duvet cover in the wash. He genuinely didn't think about it that way until I told him. Similarly when I fell down the stairs and landed on the shoe rack, broke it (bruised my bum). Again, had to remind him that the shoe rack could be replaced and he should ask first about me, then the shoe rack. To be clear, he is a lovely sweet man, just has his priorities a bit screwed up!

SunshineMMum Thu 07-Nov-13 15:06:24

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OneStepCloser Thu 07-Nov-13 14:59:33

Aw no, your yanbu, a bit of sympathy would not go amiss. DH would have my feet up on the settee with blanket, pillow, take away and take over. have some thanks

xCupidStuntx Thu 07-Nov-13 14:53:24

YABU but I hope you're feeling better thanks

SoldAtAuction Thu 07-Nov-13 14:39:15

I can see that he wouldn't be in the phone to 911, but he could at least offer a glass if water, or a ginger snap!thanks

Mylovelyboy Thu 07-Nov-13 14:38:06

YANBU Could have asked if you were alright. brew

Crowler Thu 07-Nov-13 14:35:11

Islidur, the OP is not even supposed to mention to her husband that she was sick? shock

Some people find it really traumatizing.

Crowler Thu 07-Nov-13 14:34:07

PukingCat, do you have both a puking husband AND a puking cat?

That sounds grim.

Why does your husband vom frequently? I would not cope well with this (vomit phobe)

Isildur Thu 07-Nov-13 14:32:06

It's a bit unnecessary to have mentioned it really, as you knew you were not really ill/contagious.

What would you do in other circumstances - skip into the room trilling 'Tada! I have constipation!' or 'I have the most amazing piles!' in order to get a reaction?

'Um' seems a perfectly valid response.

PukingCat Thu 07-Nov-13 14:28:42

My dh vomits quite regularly (not through choice) and i always give him sympathy.

popmusic84 Thu 07-Nov-13 14:23:47

It has probably happend maybe 3 times so not too frequently.

CoffeeTea103 Thu 07-Nov-13 14:21:49

Sounds like this happens often with the digestive issues so I can see why your DH had no reaction.

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