Hi my daughter is 2 and a half years old, her father and I split when she was a year and a half old and moved to Germany! We split because he stole money from my account and could not control his canabis habit which he was lying about and smoking while I was working 5 evenings a week ( which Is why I believe he stole the money from my account ) he also missed two rent payments leaving me with £450 debt when he left! When we did split up he disappeared for two weeks and didn't go to work and then decided to move to Germany with his mum for a while! He has been there a year and is due to return at the end of this month! He has seen his child once this year on her birthday in which he turned up hungover and late! As he is coming back he has asked to take our daughter to his grandparents house ( a 5 hour drive away) for 4 day to which I have said no! I have explained that as he will need to rebuild his relationship with his child before he takes her away as the only contact the have had is face time! He needs to put effort into bonding with her first before taking her away ! He responded to this by writing a public status on Facebook saying I was using his child as a weapon and that he has the right to have his child for 6 months of the year because he pays maintenance! He has paid 4 instalments of maintenance which is £80 a month this year. I think he feels that he pays maintenance for the right to see her however as we know it's for our child's welfare! Any ways am I being reasonable in saying he is welcome too see her when he likes but needs to bond with her before taking her away? Thanks in advance
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moldingsunbeams ·
06/11/2013 09:51
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