Was just seating on sofa with DH relaxing together. Both of us with our laptops on our laps. DS who was in bed then cries and DH reluctantly gets up to see to him after a little argument as to whose turn it is... Anyway I need to use his laptop to print something as mine doesn't connect to printer and so I open it only to find a very odd conversation with some much younger girl on Facebook. I read it quickly... Get the impression they met on FB recently and she started to chat to him tonight but it all got a bit weird when he started to ask her about what pajamas she was wearing tonight and she started to respond in a similar tone....nothing much more than that but the potential for it was there and I am sad that he seemed to have initiate the conversation about this in the first place. Anyway I then just replied to her that DH has gone to bed and to wear whatever the hell she likes! He then gets back, his laptop is closed and I explain I went on it to print something. He opens it quickly and sees what I had just replied to her and just laughs it off trying to justify that he doesn't know her and just wanted to see where she would go with this... I did say that I thought he seemed to be the one who was teasing and that I did wonder why he has come to this point, whether he is feeling that much the need for attention? He didn't say anything. It was all kind of amicable he hasn't done anything but...
I do wonder whether this could just be the beginning of the end. We have only been married for 4 years. Has he lost interest in me? He seems to be looking elsewhere. Maybe he thinks he can have it both ways (definitely not by my standards). We have a young family and things are pretty tough with an eight month old and a toddler. Time alone for us is limited and our sex life is almost non-existent but I was sure this is just a phase. I miss it just as much as he does but the kids are always in our bed... He is not the only one who is affected by this and it's not our fault. Anyway AIBU to be thinking these thoughts? I feel angry at him for even making me worry about our relationship in this way, whilst he is currently fast asleep. If this is the way things will go I would prefer the end came sooner rather than later somehow though it hurts. Has anyone with young kids been through similar phases and how did you recover from it?
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dreamsicle · 29/10/2013 23:47
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