Am I bring a spoilsport?

[WooWooCaChoo]

DP wants to do loads of fireworks in our garden for halloween and bonfire night, I've said a firm no.

1. we have just enough grass space but it's all overshadowed by lots of trees. There really isn't any bit of our garden that doesn't have trees hanging over.
   
   
2. next door has about 5 dogs and I know that at least 2 of them don't like fireworks, 1 of them is still young and hasn't experienced them yet.
   
   
3. DP isn't well known for his safety skills. He gets very excited around fireworks and thinks he is the exception to the rule.
   
   
   So AIBU to say no? Him and his friend think I am.

[squeakytoy]

yanbu for all the reasons stated at all..

there are plenty of organised displays, and there is no need for fireworks to be on sale to the public, especially nowadays considering that the fireworks available to buy should only be let off by skilled people

[MurderOfBanshees]

YANBU, sounds like you've thought it through quite thoroughly.

[YouTheCat]

Restrict him to sparklers. He sounds like a menace.

[5Foot5]

YANBU for the reasons you stated. But I do disagree with squeakytoy about there being no need for fireworks being on sale to the general plublic. OK there is no need but then there is no need for lots of things which are otherwise fun.

Not everyone will be irresponsible and annoy people. I think there are occasions when it is lovely to have some firworks to celebrate. One of these is New Year. Personally I love to go outside at midnight and see all the firworks going off all over the town and contribute an odd rocket or two to proceedings.

[AlexaChelsea]

I think you are being a spoilsport.

Maybe ask him and his friend to go to a local park, instead of using your garden? I wouldn't care about the neighbours dogs though

[CoffeeTea103]

What Alexa said

[Fakebook]

We have fireworks almost every year for Dd's birthday as it falls around the same time as bonfire night. We let our neighbours know so they can put their dogs inside. We make sure we follow instructions so the rocket fireworks aren't aimed at trees. Things like Catherine wheels or fountains wouldn't be dangerous even with trees.

I think YABU. You can oversee the safety can't you?

[festered]

YANBU
Dogs are generally terrified of fireworks, you're caring about their welfare and with your garden, your own safety. I would say exactly the same as you in that situation.

[AlexaChelsea]

Do other people genuinely not do things based on how other peoples dogs might feel?!

[OvaryAction]

YANBU

I once had the misfortune of going to a friend's bonfire party in her garden. Most of us spent the whole night cowering in the conservatory as the fireworks rained down on the roof and punctured the lawn where we would have otherwise been standing. I still can't comprehend how nobody got hurt.

I also know a man who lost a hand to a firework and he was trained!

[MurderOfBanshees]

Some people like to get on with their neighbours and like to take other people's feelings/problems into account. Is that really so odd to you Alexa?

[MonstrousPippin]

YANBU with the circumstances you describe. Some gardens just aren't safe for fireworks even when they are quite big.

Fireworks are nice thought and I wouldn't ban them completely but people need to be sensible about it.

I don't actually know, but I'd be careful about setting off fireworks in the local park. Is that allowed? It's the kind of thing I'd expect would be prohibited and some police might turn up to spoil your fun if someone calls them. Perhaps worth checking out.

[YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan]

What i dont get is why he hasnt realised these 3 points himself

Surely he knows there are lots of trees and 5 dogs next door? Why hasnt he decided himself that those are reasons enough not to do it? Is he quite immature?

[AlexaChelsea]

Erm, no.. I get on with my neighbours

But I don't make decisions about whether or not I will 'allow' my DH to do something he wants to do in our garden, based on whether or not it might bother a neighbours dog. It's a dog.

I can't see any reasonable person being angry and deciding they would no longer get along with their neighbour because they had some fireworks and their dog was upset. It's fireworks night. It will happen.

[TooMuchRain]

Of course people think about their neighbours - it's part of being a functional member of society.

[Optimist1]

Another one who thinks YABU ... the small-scale charm of a garden fireworks event is such fun, and as Fakebook says, there are plenty of fireworks that don't require lots of space. Invite some local friends, put yummy supper in the oven to cook whilst you're oo-ing and aa-ing and when the last sparkler has fizzled out you can all troop inside to have a warming or .

Agree you should oversee his purchases though - you don't want those Surface-Air Missile type things!!

[AlexaChelsea]

Goof point pippin - you are allowed around here (loads of people do it, every year) but might not be the case in every jurisdiction. So yeah, maybe check before you go off to the park!

[YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan]

And at op having to oversee another adult in possession of fireworks. If he intends on having them he should be responsible enough not to need supervised by anyone else! Op isnt his mother and who is to say she has any better knowledge of fireworks than he has?

[edwinbear]

YANBU. I love fireworks and bonfire night, but the thought of anyone setting them off in my garden terrifies me as I worry about them going off in someone's face or setting fire to the roof/shed/next door neighbour's tree. We will take sparklers to an organised display which is far cheaper (fireworks cost a packet) and are far better quality being professional, display fireworks. When I remember my dad setting off the odd random catherine wheel, which spun round limply before falling off the fence accompanied by him muttering under his breath, I can't imagine schoosing a home display over a professional one.

[BigOrangePumpkin]

A massive YANBU from me too. I am absolutely terrified of fireworks though so I don't think you could pay me enough money to let DP set off fireworks in our garden!

[SkinnybitchWannabe]

We have fireworks in our garden and go to the local display. Its great.
My db sets them all up and is very careful with them.
Have a look at the ones on sale..theres loads of smaller ones so your trees will be safe.

[MrsApplepants]

Yanbu. Go to a display and buy him a packet of sparklers

[WooWooCaChoo]

Ok so a mixed bag of opinions here. I suppose some of the smaller ones would be ok, just no big whooshy ones as there really isn't the air space for them.

I just worry for his safety, he always thinks it will happen to someone else and not him. He's not safe with them, stands too close etc. maybe I'm just too much of a worrier!

I do think it would be unfair on our neighbour though, we get on really well and I'd hate to upset the dogs.

[Floralnomad]

If your garden is as described I think I agree with you as its a waste of money but TBH some of the funniest home videos we have are of my DH lighting ( or attempting to light fireworks) when my children were small , its been hysterical . I also wouldn't worry about the dog as he's going to hear fireworks be it yours or someone else's . My neighbour always has a garden display and my dog sleeps through it .