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to hide all threads about depression which pop up on Chat and Aibu?

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Mintyy Sun 27-Oct-13 20:52:56

I always feel guilty, but I come on to Mumsnet to look for proper chat (ie. a two-way kinda thing about matters relatively trivial), practical advice, and a laugh.

This is why I have the mental health topic hidden and I would hide relationships if I didn't want to lurk on brave babes.

But aibu?

TEErickOrTEEreat Sun 27-Oct-13 20:54:26

Of course YANBU. Why would it be U to hide something that doesn't interest you?

I am mentally ill. I talk about it all the time. But I don't offer others advice on it other than 'go to your GP'.

I also have the MH topic and the Relationships topic hidden.

MurderOfBanshees Sun 27-Oct-13 20:54:28

YANBU I've had to hide Bereavement because I just cannot deal with it. I figure if I'm finding it hard enough to read the thread titles then I'd definitely be no use to the people looking for help. Better for me to hide the threads.

SPsTombRaidingWithCliff Sun 27-Oct-13 20:55:52

Do what you like Mintyy

I can't hide topics on mobile site but always accidently hide threads I what to read

manicinsomniac Sun 27-Oct-13 20:56:23

hide what you want, nobody can read every board on here. YANBU

LRDtheFeministDragon Sun 27-Oct-13 20:57:47

YANBU at all, but it's a bit unnecessary to mention it.

HeadsDownThumbsUp Sun 27-Oct-13 20:59:59

Why mention this? It doesn't seem to have any purpose other than to stigmatise mental illness. I'm sure that's not intentional, but surely it's a good thing that people can talk somewhere about mental health, even if it's only online.

Do you feel similar about physical illness?

MrsWolowitz Sun 27-Oct-13 21:01:06

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trish5000 Sun 27-Oct-13 21:01:17

If you cant help, or if a person finds it upsetting, then YANBU. The only time I would disagree with myself, is when it is late at night, and there are not many posters about. It would be horrid to think that no one replied at that time. Even if just a hand holding. A hand holding is a lot better than nothing.

Vivacia Sun 27-Oct-13 21:03:15

YANBU but YABU to start a thread about it. Why did you feel the need to do that? How did you think that would make posters who start these threads feel?

RedBlockGreenBlock Sun 27-Oct-13 21:03:42

Stealth boast that you don't need practical advice about MH.

Half joking but pretty unnecessary thread.

AgentZigzag Sun 27-Oct-13 21:04:10

The OP said she she feels guilty about not going into the threads HeadsDown, surely she's asking whether she should be/whether other people feel the same.

I don't see any stigmatizing of people with mental health problems at all, I wondered whether she had experience of depression herself and didn't feel up to supporting anyone else because I've felt the same sometimes.

Mintyy Sun 27-Oct-13 21:04:44

So its yanbu but yabu at the same time then?

AgentZigzag Sun 27-Oct-13 21:05:24

That can pile on the guilt as well RedBlock, when you've needed and valued other people's support in the past but aren't in a place where you can offer it back just yet.

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TEErickOrTEEreat Sun 27-Oct-13 21:09:16

Why shouldn't she start a thread about it if she wants to know if she should read them? She's not bragging, just asking.

I am mentally ill. I don't feel stigmatized by knowing Mintyy wouldn't read my thread if I started one.

LRDtheFeministDragon Sun 27-Oct-13 21:09:27

YANBU to hide them.

YABU to say so.

What did you want people to say, I'm not being narky, just don't follow?

AgentZigzag Sun 27-Oct-13 21:11:18

Have you had any mental health problems in the past OP?

Sparklingbrook Sun 27-Oct-13 21:12:57

Perhaps point the OP in the direction of the Mental health topic before hiding?

Feminine Sun 27-Oct-13 21:13:44

You are sounding very frivolous op

Strumpetron Sun 27-Oct-13 21:25:19

You can hide what you like but it's a bit dismissive.

TEErickOrTEEreat Sun 27-Oct-13 21:30:54

Sorry, I seem to have lost a sentence in there.

I meant to end with: but I don't speak for all mentally ill people.

BasketzatDawn Sun 27-Oct-13 21:32:55

I haven't worked out how to 'hide' topics, but I have worked out how not to click on things I don't want to read. But I don't feel guilty about it, nor would I tell anyone. If I could maybe I'd hide half of Mumsnet, just so I can do something else with my time .....grin

Mintyy Sun 27-Oct-13 21:36:28

In the same way that depressed people are advised to avoid the news if it just has a bad effect on them, aibu not to get involved in the threads where people are threatening to self harm or kill themselves?

And if ianbu, then does that mean that there are others on Mumsnet with the same attitude as me?

And if so, wouldn't it be better if people posting with extreme cries for help are directed to a section of the site where people actually are willing to listen and be involved?

I have had severe mental health issues in the past - well documented on Mumsnet - (infact they are ongoing, as these things always are) for those of you who have decided I must be stigmatising mh problems.

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