Me and the SO have been fighting for awhile. I don't think he spends enough time with our son (he barely sees him at all and they live in the same house...) he says 'of course I spend time with him, I'm home all the time except this past week' and yeah, sure he's home. But he sits on the opposite side of the room and tells me 'well you're closer to him', so he doesn't have to get up and do anything for the baby.
This week... this week pissed me off. He's not supposed to be working, but he still takes mechanic jobs sometimes and that's cool, whatever, I guess, even though I disapprove. But he was gone this ENTIRE week working on cars. Gone before the baby woke up, back after the baby went to bed. I was livid. ESPECIALLY when the baby started saying 'dada dada dada' and looking around. I was heartbroken.
What really pissed me off though was he took the weekend off...TO SPEND TIME WITH HIS OTHER SON. He has a 5 year old from a previous relationship, our LO is 8 months old. His excuse was that 'he only gets to see his other son two days a week' and I pointed out that he hadn't even seen OUR son in a week. Of course that made him angry and defensive and we've been fighting about it all damn day. He decided to stick around the house today instead of him taking his son out and finally spent some time with our LO. But still, he managed to spend MORE time with his other son, completely ignoring our LO at times.
I'm too the end of my rope with this. It's breaking my heart to see him treat our son like this.
Also, Tomorrow is my birthday and HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW. This, of course, completely ruined any fun I might have had tomorrow anyway. Whatever though. We spent about an hour arguing over text when he took his son home. and he turned it from me explaining why I'm angry to him belittling me, pointing out all of my flaws, calling me lazy (which yeah, sometimes I really am but I've had PPD for awhile too, which he could care less about). Then starts telling me what I need to do in order for him to not end the relationship.
Um...excuse me? You're giving me ultimatums like I care? Leave, I'm acting like a single mother anyway.
My problem is this: I can't drive, I chose to stay home with the baby so I don't have a job and I'm planning on going to college at the beginning of the year (January, not school year lol). I'm completely dependent on him right now and he knows it.
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Firebomb · 27/10/2013 01:04
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