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Could they not just write one big letter every term or half term?

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youretoastmildred · 22/10/2013 23:24

  • these are the inset days
  • here are the times we will be asking you for money, and what for
  • these are the "special" school lunch days
  • here are the times you will be invited to the school
  • here are the extra things your child will need for school on certain days
  • here are the permission slips we need you to sign


Then you could just put all the money in an envelope, do 25 signatures on things with one of those millions-of-pens-taped-together contraptions that Molesworth probably used to write lines, put all the dates for the other stuff in your diary, (including "Monday 25th: prepare ptarmigan costume by end of week for BIRDS OF THE BRITISH ISLES day; Wednesday 27th: dc's show and tell tomorrow is on Entropy, find example of entropy") and get the hell on with your life

WHY CAN WE NOT DO THIS?
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phantomnamechanger · 22/10/2013 23:30

DDs secondary school has the whole school calendar including every trip, special event, concert, parents evening on their website from the beginning of september.

the letters don't all come home in one go though!

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Bunbaker · 22/10/2013 23:31

We used to have this. I was on the PTA, and although it wasn't really PTA stuff we raised it at a meeting. After that the head teacher did a newsletter at the beginning of each term with future events, fund raising activities etc.

So my answer is ask at the school - class teacher, secretary, a member of the PTA or even a governor (although strictly speaking it isn't really part of a governor's remit)

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HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 23:33

I thought you were going to be whining about newsletters.

Our head did a newsletter a few weeks ago with all the agreed dates until Christmas on it (including Christmas performances). I was Very Happy.

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clam · 22/10/2013 23:34

Because NOTHING works for everyone when it comes to disseminating information re: school events. For every person that wants to know 3 months in advance, there's another who loses the letter and therefore forgets.

That's why most schools give the main events (such as term dates and Inset days) up to a year or more in advance, major events at the beginning of term and ad hoc things as soon as they know about them.
And there are also last-minute reminders.

Get used to it.

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HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 23:40

I do think that any event that would involve parents needing to ask for time off work ought to get absolutely shedloads of notice. A bulletin once a term that does this, plus reminders closer to the time, would surely increase parental involvement.

It simply isn't possible for many parents to ask for an afternoon off for a carol concert (for example) with only a day week or two's notice. Asking in September would give them more of a chance.

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BrokenSunglasses · 22/10/2013 23:41

You are asking for too much information in one go.

A calendar is a reasonable request. Asking to be informed at the start of term of every little extra thing your child might need to have on exact days is not.

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BackforGood · 22/10/2013 23:52

What Clam said.

An awful lot of people like their information in bite sized chunks you know.

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Ihatespiders · 22/10/2013 23:59

Sometimes events are not organised that far in advance.

Plans change.

Parents lose the letter or deny receiving it.

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Chattymummyhere · 23/10/2013 07:36

We had the big calendar sent home.. However my child has been at school nearly 4 weeks so nearl 20 days over had over 40! Emails from school which each contain at least 2 if not 4 attachments that's a minimum of 80 news letters! Plus I get copies in his book bag

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jamdonut · 23/10/2013 07:53

There are some people who cannot take in or read all that information in one letter.

We usually have a half-termly newsletter with up-coming events, but we also send out reminders and texts etc nearer the time. And we still get people who forget or say they didn't know about it!

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NutcrackerFairy · 23/10/2013 08:05

But some parents genuinely don't get every letter!

I have compared book bag contents with a couple of other Mums of children in DSs class... and we definitely don't always all get the same stuff [which we should all be getting].

I don't know why this is... but I find it very useful to compare and then we can tell each other or remind each other about inset days, teacher strike, payment required for after school clubs, parent/teacher meetings, school concerts, dress up days, etc, etc...

My son has just started reception class. I feel quite sick thinking about how many years I have of this extra curricular school stuff which I need to firstly be somehow aware of and then do something about, whether that's provide a costume, book time off work, whatever.

Then DS will be starting nursery next year....

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AllOutOfIdeas · 23/10/2013 08:06

Our school sends out the school calendar in September. All dates- dress up days, school photo days, inset days, special assemblies, parents evenings, etc.

But we still get weekly newsletters too, with reminders and other school news.

But yanbu, it is really helpful especially for dp to plan work around the times we can go into school to watch the dc, goes in his work calendar months in advance.

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CeliaFate · 23/10/2013 08:07

Our school now sends emails and texts instead of a hard copy (which they will give you if you ask specifically).
Tell your school about Schoop. That way you don't have to rely on dc bringing home letters.

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puffinnuffin · 23/10/2013 08:18

Our school produces a little booklet with all the dates for the term for everything in the whole school. We are given it a couple of weeks before term starts. It is also on the school website should you lose the booklet.

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CMOTDibbler · 23/10/2013 08:24

We get a year calendar with all major events on it (and term dates 18 months in advance), then a term calendar with more detail. Letters about specifics, weekly newsletter etc. Weekly newsletter has a list of 'letters home this week' so you know if you've missed something
All newsletters, letters, calendar are on the website, and some events get a text reminder too.

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marriedinwhiteisback · 23/10/2013 08:31

Its 2013. Why do you need paper letters - it should all be on the website. This is the digital age. Nobody should forget anything because it should all be there. Perhaps they could get an App too.

Agree about the notice for working parents though

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ballstoit · 23/10/2013 09:13

Not everyone has constant internet access Confused

My DC school have dates on the website for the next academic year for the main events eg nativity, sports day. They also send weekly newsletter to remind about dates and moan about remind parents about uniform, term time holiday requests procedure, not to bring dogs/cigarettes/spliffs into the playground.

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freddiefrog · 23/10/2013 09:17

Our school gives us one newsletter at the beginning of each term with a list of all the planned activities/trips/fund raising events/dressing up days/etc.

Which is massive and I get bored of reading, I then stick it on the fridge. 2 days later it's fallen off and got kicked underneath never to be seen again.

Fortunately, they also post it all up on the school website and send out reminders

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NoComet · 23/10/2013 09:19

The senior school can, lovely bright coloured Callander for the year comes home and sits on the Website for when you lose it.

Primary, we asked nicely, we moaned, we even got down in our knees and begged. No joy. We still got incomplete 1/2 newsletters and last minute notes and texts containing everything that wasn't in the newsletter.

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NoComet · 23/10/2013 09:20

1/2 termly

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HappyMummyOfOne · 23/10/2013 09:23

Celia, that link is fab. Our service costs more than that and doesnt give discounts for small schools. Its also not unlimited.

Some parents dont like emails but given the majority of parents have smart phones and tablets it could be a great idea.

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youretoastmildred · 23/10/2013 09:24

There is nothing on the website.

I am rocking too, NutcrackerFairy - same sitch, dd1 in reception, can't believe how easy it is to be wrongfooted or on the verge of being wrongfooted all the time by a constant not-quite-clear flow of bitty communications and requests. And the awful fact that if you miss one, you don't know, because if you haven't had it you don't know you haven't had it.

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thestauntonlick · 23/10/2013 09:25

We get newsletters AND individual letters. The school are VERY good at communicating with parents, which suits me because I do nd to forget things.

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