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AIBU to think that a child with suspected chicken pox should not be attending nursery?

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coldteaforme Fri 18-Oct-13 15:17:32

Whilst dropping ds off at nursery this morning I over heard another mother saying to a member of staff 'oh I think dd has chicken pox- look at her spots'. Staff member agrees that the spots look like chicken pox, and tells the mother to make an appointment to see the doctor to confirm. The little girl then skips off into nursery and the mother tells the staff member to call her if there's any problems.
AIBU to think the child shouldn't be in nursery with chicken pox even if it's only suspected? I felt really uncomfortable leaving ds but I wasn't sure if this was normal practice?

mrscog Sun 20-Oct-13 08:21:32

I think you should mention it to the nursery, but assuming everyone in your household is otherwise healthy etc don't stress too much about your DS - it's better to have it younger and they all get it eventually anyway. I know some people end up seriously ill with it (I'm not minimising the lines) but this is impossible to predict and rare so try not to worry.

Peanate Sun 20-Oct-13 08:15:38

My DD had had chicken pox a couple of months ago. I sent her to daycare with a spot or two - I thought they were flea bites! Gave the dog a treatment and all.

Daycare rang me two hours later and I collected her immediately. I was worried she would have infected the whole pre school, but apparently no one else caught it.

Personally I'm glad she has had it now (and it was v mild). I still felt bad though...

Pawprint Sun 20-Oct-13 03:41:22

Oh I know CP can be v dangerous for the immune paired etc - my sister's death was hastened (she was immune suppressed) when she caught CP in hospital sad

I just meant that one can't always protect kids from CP. It was foolish of the nursery to let the child in.

Actually, I am quite glad my son had CP early on in childhood because it can be more severe in older children and adults.

pastelmacaroons Fri 18-Oct-13 19:38:46

Its not general publics fault that they do not treat CP with more respect usually reaction from HCP over it are relaxed, so relaxed they do not care about suspect pox going into surgery, full of elderly pregnant etc.

I think its disgusting.

Our DC were very ill with it, it was awful and I know of others who have had a nasty time with it also.

LucyLui25 Fri 18-Oct-13 17:51:40

Ask the manager what the policy is on this, in relation to the governments HPU guidance which states that a child should be excluded until the spots have crusted over.
The nursery worker may not know the nursery policy which is a whole other issue, and needs to be brought the the managers attention

quoteunquote Fri 18-Oct-13 17:23:25

Totally unacceptable, and very dangerous.

Ask to see their policy on infectious children, and inform ofsted they accept infectious children

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 18-Oct-13 17:23:22


Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 18-Oct-13 17:23:10

I would be well pissed off with the parent as the nursery staff, you have to say something!

giraffesCantGoGuising Fri 18-Oct-13 17:00:42

People undergoing chemo (including children - so siblings of nursery kids) can catch cp again after their chemo even f hadd it before. It can be really dangerous to someone with a low immune system. So people need to be really careful and act quickly so the person can have a vaccination. CP can kill the vulnerable - same as flu can.

Gileswithachainsaw Fri 18-Oct-13 16:05:50

My dds pre school stuck a notice board outside the building warning us that CP was doing the rounds. People had a choice then.

Everyone expects their kid to get it, however it's courteous to warn people for obvious reasons and deliberate exposure is not on.

Icelollycraving Fri 18-Oct-13 16:00:59

I'm suprised the nursery allowed her to drop the child there. I would be pissed off.

ChristmasPixie123 Fri 18-Oct-13 16:00:59

Its ok saying "some kids get it anyway" - I'd rather my DD avoided it thanks as it is still a horrible thing for a child to go through.

Sirzy Fri 18-Oct-13 15:56:38

Most kids may get it at some stage but for some (and for some adults) it can be very dangerous, generally people who are more vulnerable anyway. To deliberately expose people to it is wrong.

Pawprint Fri 18-Oct-13 15:55:42

Reminds me of a very tiresome woman who took her pox ridden toddler to the Baby Clinic where loads of pregnant women and newborn babies were grrr

Pawprint Fri 18-Oct-13 15:54:41

Well, most kids get chicken pox at some stage. It's hard to completely avoid. Having said that, it was pretty silly of her to let her child go to nursery. If the child has the pox, then surely she won't be feeling very well? Why is she going to nursery?

ChristmasPixie123 Fri 18-Oct-13 15:51:48

I would not be happy with this OP and I would be talking to the nursery staff about it!

giraffesCantGoGuising Fri 18-Oct-13 15:47:56

I am not meant to be around people with cp as I am on high dose drugs that lower immune system. So dangerous to some people.

coldteaforme Fri 18-Oct-13 15:41:20

I will definitely complain, this has made me feel really uncomfortable all day and I'm angry at myself for leaving ds and not finding alternative care for him.
I think I was just shocked as he has been going for over a year and this place has been fantastic, has really good OFSTED reports etc and I wrongly presumed that they would follow the correct procedures

PennySillin Fri 18-Oct-13 15:37:40

Your not hour sorry

saintlyjimjams Fri 18-Oct-13 15:37:12

While I was never that worried about chickenpox exposure except during my first pregnancy (I hadn't had it - but blood tests after exposure showed I was immune anyway) - and it did take my kids a few exposures before they 'managed' to catch it - I would be dumbfounded by a nursery allowing this. Chickenpox can be nasty to certain groups, and no they should not have accepted her.

Definitely clarify/complain

PennySillin Fri 18-Oct-13 15:37:10

Santiago if that is hour nurseries policy they have been misinformed. CP is definitely contagious both before and after the spots have erupted. Maybe you could refer them to the current NHS guidelines, there are up to date guidelines for the nursery setting, I think you can print it out as a poster. smile

Gileswithachainsaw Fri 18-Oct-13 15:30:08

I would complain about the nursery worker tbh. She shouldn't be telling people to waste drs time and infect vulnerable people over something that requires no treatments that aren't available OTC unless there are complications.

She shouldn't have let the girl on either or what else are they allowing.

PedlarsSpanner Fri 18-Oct-13 15:28:37

yes nursery should have refused to take the child

and omg at advising parent to take to GP! No, fgs, all those sick people, ghastly possible consequences

coldteaforme Fri 18-Oct-13 15:27:16

Thanks for the replies, I didn't think it was right. I really really regret not saying anything now- poor ds is going to get it now isn't he sad .

I would be concerned if the nursery does not enforce their own exclusion policy - what other safety rules do they ignore? And chicken pox is always excluded.

The parent shouldn't have taken them, but mostly the nursery should have refused to take the child.

When your child comes home with chickenpox, or d and v, don't be surprised.

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