I possibly/probably am but I'm stewing on this so please give me some perspective.
My 3yo is very energetic. He tests boundaries all the time and I often feel like I spend the while time saying no to him. I try very hard to praise him for the good stuff and just have fun/silly time at some point during the day.
My 2mo just wants to feed all the time and is a classic Velcro baby.
My father is very authoritarian and getting worse with age. There's always been lots of shouting in our house when I was growing up but he's now becoming impossible to have a normal conversation with if you don't agree with his view point. He just cuts you off or ignores you.
The 3yo has been pretty boisterous this visit but I'm doing what I can with a nursing child glued to me to moderate his behaviour. On the whole he's been ok, few throwing incidents but nothing major. I know my parents are finding him hard work, mostly because of age I think - Dad is an old 70, my Mum a young 70. I've also had to ask my Dad a couple of times not to discipline him while I'm in the middle of doing so.
My Dad let him colour in a book today (which may or may not be relevant) while I was out at an appointment with the baby. This afternoon we were all sitting in the lounge when he picked up a yellow marker and looked as if he was going to draw on the armrest covers of my parent's light green sofa. He was looking at me so I looked him in the eye and started to say, "No, don't be silly, put the pen away, it's not a toy." I got to approximately the "N" when my parents both started shouting at him, my Mum just a couple of nos, my Dad really shouting, "No, don't you dare, don't you even dare," several times.
When I suggested this was perhaps a bit of an over reaction my Dad said he didn't want my son destroying their things. I've tried to discuss it like an adult but I've just been shouted at so maybe I am really being UR. I didn't like their reaction for two reasons
- It was not a major issue in the grand scheme of things. Yes, not great but the covers could be removed and washed if necessary and if they're shouting like that for something like that, what will they do if he tries on something really naughty?
- There's a definite implication that I am not disciplining/keeping my son under control enough. He's honestly really no different from other 3yo boys and just gets a bit carried away from time to time so throws his toy in excitement, or runs around a lot. If I disciplined him any more we would spend the whole time shouting at each other.
So AIBU? I suspect I am so please just tell me to get over myself.