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In thinking its not ok to pass negative comment about names unless directly asked?

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IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 11:50:05

No issues at all if your actually asked your opinion but if your not asked

if you are not one of the parents of the actual baby being named or recently named you should do nothing other than smile or say something nice.

Anything else is overstepping rude and hurtful.

picnicbasketcase Wed 16-Oct-13 19:15:32

So have people have been mocking the name your friend wants to use? That is quite horrible, particularly if it's after a relative.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 20:14:38

Yes, it was laughed at and ridiculed for about half an hour along with "you can't possibly inflict that on the child"

Her dh is very hurt and upset (it was his parents and an aunt) that they dd it.

And really its a very normal name fuck it its Amelia.

KateCroydon Wed 16-Oct-13 20:24:44

What on earth is wrong with Amelia?

Catsize Wed 16-Oct-13 20:43:48

I really like the name Hermione but fear the reactions, to be honest. Also like Persephone, but think that would provoke even more wrath! Perhaps bump will be a boy...
The only time I have bodged on this is when I thought a friend was joking when he told me his son was called Clive and I said 'no really, what's his name?'. blush
And Amelia is fine! but perhaps I am not best judge due to liking Hermione

Apileofballyhoo Wed 16-Oct-13 20:50:04

What's wrong with Jupiter or Clive?

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 20:52:46

I'm not sure apparently as soon as she said the name the aunt started laughing and the mil said something along the lines of it being an up itself sort of a name and she would be bullied and they all went on about it.

She was ever so upset

MarcelineTheVampireQueen Wed 16-Oct-13 20:55:22

I have a top 10 every day run of the mill name for my son. Someone in my last job asked me his name and when I told her, she sid "Thats a dogs name, you should change it" I said, thats rude, besides he is fucking SEVEN I am not going to change it!

Point is people are rude. Fuck em, name the baby Amelia (Which I like btw, not that it should matter!)

CharityFunDay Wed 16-Oct-13 20:57:11

I am responsible for a woman with the surname "Hagger" not calling her daughter "Sophie"...

Catsize Wed 16-Oct-13 21:00:57

No! Are people really that dim?! confused

FreeWee Wed 16-Oct-13 21:01:17

Amelia is very popular as is Amelie. Definitely not to be laughed at. This is why we didn't tell anyone any of our names so they couldn't veto them with smirks/laughs/comments. I liked Leo for a boy but my DH doesn't. I said "I was thinking of Leo" knowing we'd never go for it as my DH doesn't like it just to see what people would say. Lots of "Oh no. I don't like that" So I'm glad I didn't try it with names we were really going to go for.

Height of rudeness if the baby is already named, and, named or otherwise, definitely rude if it's a family name so someone dear to the couple is called it.

CharityFunDay Wed 16-Oct-13 21:10:56

No! Are people really that dim?!

She was a bit of a prize plum, to be honest. I once asked her if she could change my £1 coin for a £2 coin, and she handed it over without question.

I did wonder whether it was my place to say anything at all, but when I considered the torment that poor girl would go through during puberty, and which would follow her around for the rest of her life, I thought I had to say something.

jacks365 Wed 16-Oct-13 21:18:31

Wish someone had mentioned something before baby jacks was named. Now there's a child who will have problems with her initials as a teen. I would however think it rude if you pointed it out now.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Wed 16-Oct-13 21:31:10

What's wrong with Sophie Hagger? confused

squeakytoy Wed 16-Oct-13 21:35:08


DisappointedHorse Wed 16-Oct-13 21:37:51

S.Hagger did amuse me!

I have also been told DS has a dog's name, many times. It's not liked we named him Rover FFS. It is rude.

picnicbasketcase Wed 16-Oct-13 21:38:24

What the hell? Amelia is a lovely name! There is no reason for anyone to react violently against it other than to just be a cruel shit.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Wed 16-Oct-13 21:45:18

Oh blush

<<frantically checks that own DC have not been similarly afflicted by accident>>

I did once meet twins called Sam and Ellie at a baby group, and had to leave the room for a moment.

Nottalotta Wed 16-Oct-13 21:47:28

I love the names victoria and edward. But our surname is wood.....

Tbh i wasn't keen on my sisters name for her second child and expressed preference for one of her other choices. But she chose the one i didn't like so i shut up.

Amelia is lovely.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Wed 16-Oct-13 21:54:00

Posted too soon.

ButI would not have dreamt of saying anything to their mum as it's none of my business.

TheBigJessie Thu 17-Oct-13 14:13:58

Amelia is fine, surely. I may be biased, as I named my chair that.

Look, I was seven, alright? was weird child Our dictionary had a section for boys' and girls' names. This means I have used up most of the girls' names I like on Barbies. If I have more than one daughter in the future, this will make things awkward!

VisualiseAHorse Thu 17-Oct-13 14:21:49

Wasn't Amelia the top name last year for girls in the uk?

I would be nice in real life, but I give my honest opinion online. Because I think the world has plenty of Braydens, Kaidens and Loo-cees.

VisualiseAHorse Thu 17-Oct-13 14:22:37

What's wrong with twins called Sam and Ellie?

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Thu 17-Oct-13 14:29:52


delasi Thu 17-Oct-13 14:40:28

an up itself sort of a name

I'm coming across this more and more, some people thinking that certain names are 'snobby'. I could possibly understand that some people might think that a name like Jonty Tarquin Chalmondeley III was on the 'posher' side of things, but it's just a reflection of the parents having named the child. Ridiculous to attribute something like snobbery or 'up oneself' to a baby's name hmm

DS has a name that seems to divide people into 3 groups - it's posh, it's for an old man, it's lovely. Maybe when he retires he'll be all 3 grin

captainmummy Thu 17-Oct-13 14:43:03

I knew someone with a dd called samantha and a ds called samuel - apparently she never called them by the diminutive...

Also when I was in hospital having ds2 the cow woman girl across from me told the nurse her newborn dd was called 'Amber'. Nurse says 'oh I used to have a dog called Amber.' grin grin

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