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To refuse to host Xmas dinner for 16 when I will be 40wks pregnant?

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pinkjumper1 Sun 13-Oct-13 18:45:54

I discovered today that all the in-laws were planning to come to us for Xmas dinner. DH is horrified that I said no. I had invited my dad, sister and her boyfriend (a chef!) as we will need someone to look after DCs if the baby is born that day but I don't think I'll be up to entertaining a huge crowd. Am I just being hormonal or is this not a good idea when I'll either have a newborn or be due to give birth? I do like hosting big Christmas dinners normally. Any other year...

Strumpetron Sun 13-Oct-13 18:46:58

You aren't unreasonable at all!!

Bloody hell I couldn't cope with that and I'm not pregnant

They should be looking after you.

Get a ready cooked chicken, put your feet up and eat toblerone.

shoppingbagsundereyes Sun 13-Oct-13 18:47:41

I think this may be the least unreasonable Aibu I've ever read. Your dh must be bonkers if he thinks this is a good idea. Unless he is going to organise a rota so that all you have to do all day is slob on the sofa I think he needs to rethink Christmas Day pretty quickly.

AnyFucker Sun 13-Oct-13 18:49:18

Is this a joke thread ?

OwlinaTree Sun 13-Oct-13 18:49:25

hosting 16!!!!!

i don't even have 16 plates let alone 16 chairs!!


CeliaLytton Sun 13-Oct-13 18:50:11

YANBU because a 40 week pregnant woman can make any decision she wants and woe betide those who go against her grin

However I can understand why they thought it would not be a problem if you have invited people from your side, especially someone who is not technically family. Maybe they thought more hands make light work and that you were up for entertaining as you had invited people anyway?

Good luck!

dementedma Sun 13-Oct-13 18:50:29

Seriously? You are being very reasonable not to string your dh up by the nuts for even suggesting it and your in laws sounds like insensitive twats. I was 36 weeks pg with Ds one Christmas and didn't do anything other than sit around and eat my body weight in chocolate!

hiddenhome Sun 13-Oct-13 18:50:48

Erm, I would tell him you'll be leaving them all to it and you'll be spending the day in bed eating chocolate and watching tv if you haven't already had the nipper. If you have had him/her, then there is no way all those people can come around because you'll be wanting to spend time with just your dh and your dcs.

Strumpetron Sun 13-Oct-13 18:51:02

Tis the season for nut crackers..

BasilBabyEater Sun 13-Oct-13 18:51:55

Sounds like they think your sister's boyf - the chef- is going to do the dinner.

Have you told him he is? grin

Beamur Sun 13-Oct-13 18:52:25

YANBU. But from your DH's POV you have invited your family, so why not his?

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 13-Oct-13 18:55:42

Has he had a nasty bump on the head?

BasilBabyEater Sun 13-Oct-13 18:56:27

Why can't your DH cook the dinner if he wants 16 people to come?

Strumpetron Sun 13-Oct-13 18:56:44

Has he had a nasty bump on the head?

I suspect he'll have one soon.


kelda Sun 13-Oct-13 18:58:26

YANBU. It's also a big risk - if you are expected to host everyone and you go into labour that day or the day before, the Christmas plans will be ruined.

nennypops Sun 13-Oct-13 19:00:32

Tell DH that's fine, but he will be totally in charge of getting the house ready, cooking, washing up, laying the table, and entertaining all the guests, because you intend to do nothing other than sitting around being pregnant or looking after the baby. Also remind him he will need to plan for what happens if you are in labour. Then ask him whether he's still keen on 16 people schlepping round.

comingalongnicely Sun 13-Oct-13 19:00:33

I'm sure you'd have a lovely day with your feet up while DH cooks the dinner. Luckily if he gets stuck or needs help his parents will be there!

If he can't/won't then why not? Plenty of time to "train" him...

thursdaysgirls Sun 13-Oct-13 19:01:16

Let them come round. Then, if you're still pregnant, fake your waters breaking (see Modern Family for a brilliant example of this) at around 10am. Dash to hospital and spend a few hours there. Leaving them with no hosts and no food.

That'll learn 'em.


sarascompact Sun 13-Oct-13 19:01:47

Tell him it's a wonderful idea but that you're a little concerned as to how he's going to manage to prepare and cook dinner, serve, entertain, wash up, prepare and serve high tea for 16 and look after the children at the same time.

Because you won't be lifting a finger, will you? * gives the OP a hard stare *

specialsubject Sun 13-Oct-13 19:03:06

as this isn't the first one, how come your husband doesn't realise that you will either be very tired, in labour or with a newborn on that day, and none of these are compatible with dinner for 16?

hope the cluelessness isn't hereditary!

Maria33 Sun 13-Oct-13 19:03:57


breatheslowly Sun 13-Oct-13 19:05:45

Is he usually like this?

tracypenisbeaker Sun 13-Oct-13 19:05:53

Get some Iceland nasties in the oven and be done with it.

Facebaffle Sun 13-Oct-13 19:06:58


What if your baby arrives early?

missmargot Sun 13-Oct-13 19:08:50

YANBU! I will be 38 weeks pregnant on Christmas Day and my parents are invited because they will do all the work and insist I put my feet up they are great guests. My FIL is not invited as despite being a lovely man he won't even offer to make a cup of tea.

Your husband needs to understand that there are different types of guests and at 40 weeks pregnant you get to invite only the sort that will make your life easier or none at all, entirely your prerogative.

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