Apologies to all - this is another au pair thread. However, disagreement (such as there is) not with au pair.
I have quite a demanding job, and on those days I can't work from home I have to leave early and/or get home late. Sometimes I have to be away overnight. Therefore have an au pair - DH has the same job. We are both self-employed.
I am 20 weeks pregnant and have a bad cold that is making me feel crappy.
Am I being unreasonable to expect my DD (nearly 5) to get ready for school with the au pair on days when I do not have to leave early just as she would when I am not there? This means I can have a lie in and tbh I need it.
When I am working from home I do need to be able to engage brain and if I don't get enough sleep this is harder.
Au pair is fine with this - it's her job and I suspect she prefers it when I am not there when she is working.
However, DD will put up a fight and would like me to be around when she is getting ready for school. Obviously she prefers to be with me that with the au pair, I am her Mum. Au pair is a bit quiet but otherwise lovely - she is very gentle with DD which I like but perhaps not massive exciting - however, don't need exciting before school. But surely DD can't have everything she wants in life...
I understand that it is hard for her to have to get up and get ready when I don't have to, but have explained that I am making a baby (plus have been to school already).
I don't mind her coming in to see me in the mornings - I'm not that unreasonable - I don't expect not to be woken up at all, just not to have to get up when I am paying someone else to do it.
I do make sure that I make time for DD - take her to the park after school etc if I can get my work done in time - and I make sure I do (not always on MN!). And we always have the weekends.
Question is - would I be needlessly self-sacrificing and spoiling DD to allow her to insist on being with me, or am I hugely selfish to want a lie-in at 20 weeks pregnant, working and with a cold?
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To expect DD to get ready for school with the au pair?
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VeraLockski · 03/10/2013 12:22
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