We live overseas and MIL lives alone in the UK (but SIL and her other grandchildren live in the same street)
She is becoming more difficult as time goes on (over fussy, unreasonable behaviour, extremely stubborn etc). She is physically in good health though, though can be forgetful. She is 77.
She is coming for xmas and new year.
She can't fly long haul on her own, she gets too confused, so we are flying her out with dd1 who is at uni in the UK (we have to tell her she is "bringing DD for us" because she won't believe she needs support through the airport) - arriving about 18th dec.
DD will need to be back at uni for 13th of jan so we'll probably fly them both back around the 10th Jan. They will both be here around three weeks.
DH now says he wants her to stay until the beginning of march when he is flying back to the UK on business.
Now if dh and MIL has a close loving relationship, that would be fine, but they row almost constantly, which I find very stressful.
When I asked him if he could really deal with his mother for three full months, he said well, she needs the company, it will be nice for her to "miss winter"
By company, he means me. It would be OK while dd1 was still here, but by the time she goes back, the other two dds are back at school, and dh is back at work, it will be down to me.
She has stayed that long before and I ended up very down. I like my own space. I came downstairs every morning for three months to find her sat ready to go with her handbag with an expectant "what are we doing today" face on.
She doesn't like Shopping. Or walking. Or the heat. She has visited us several times before, so doesn't want to do the tourist things again.
When she came for that long time before I naively thought she would make her own plans- there is a big expat retired community here- but no.
Dh is away about one week in three, so isn't even here (but at least that means they are not rowing I suppose.)
For the record, I would not be happy if my parents wanted to stay that long either. They normally come for about two- three weeks and it's enough.
I sound like a complete cow, but would AIBU to say I don't want her for that long and she needs to go back with DD1 mid-jan?
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