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To be annoyed at my friend for booking her birthday party...

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Itsmybluminbirthday Mon 30-Sep-13 18:38:46

On my actual birthday?

That day is not her birthday.

She knew it was my birthday.

Or am I being childish?

Have name changed.

maddening Mon 30-Sep-13 22:33:07

take your own bday cake along - with the news of the baby it'll be your party too (without the faff of organising it) grin

mirry2 Mon 30-Sep-13 22:29:22

My mil has the same birthday as me. Her dh regularly organises a family clebratonf for her to which I go. Nobody acknowledges that it's also my birthday (although they know) but it doesn't bother me at all. My mil deserves her celebration and all the family around her.

Xmasbaby11 Mon 30-Sep-13 22:25:55

YANBU .. it's a bit weird on a weeknight. I'm guessing she is busy the weekend before / after and it is the best time for her.

I'm not sure I would go unless it's mutual friends - purely because I'd want to spend the evening with DH and/or close friends.

MrsWembley Mon 30-Sep-13 22:14:40

Oh wow, fucking congratulations!!!! That's an amazing piece of news to share! How far along are you? Is the timing ok to share with RL friends?

How many of the friends who will be there are aware that it's your birthday on that date? Do you think she's forgotten? Is she a cahhhh?

waltermittymissus Mon 30-Sep-13 22:04:30

DO announce it!

Or, failing that, send an email reply but to everyone on the list, saying you're sorry you can't make it but since it's your actual BIRTHDAY you have BIRTHDAY plans.

VashtaNerada Mon 30-Sep-13 22:01:45

"I'd turn up" obv...

VashtaNerada Mon 30-Sep-13 22:01:05

YANBU, would piss me right off! If turn up with a big 'Birthday Girl' badge, balloons and party hat grin

SayCoolNowSayWhip Mon 30-Sep-13 21:57:30

And congratulations blumin. You should definitely turn up to the party, be gracious and sweet, and then at an opportune moment say 'No, I'm not drinking, even though its my birthday today, because I is up duffed innit.'

Or something equally erudite grin

SayCoolNowSayWhip Mon 30-Sep-13 21:54:07

Absolutely I celebrate my birthday each year. Any excuse for a crate of wine good party!

And why not?

This year I turned 30 and managed to keep the celebrations going for a whole week.

Why should the kids get all the fun?

miffybun73 Mon 30-Sep-13 21:27:54

Yes, yes - do announce it on the night. Congratulations smile

ReginaldBlinker Mon 30-Sep-13 21:24:43

magicberry Yes, of course I have a party each year! And normally one the weekend before and the weekend after just for good measure. (being completely serious)

bluminbirthday You know you have to do that, right?! It's only fair!! grin

Itsmybluminbirthday Mon 30-Sep-13 20:56:28

I'm off the booze as pregnant. We haven't told any of our friends yet, so I could choose this night to announce it...

Ok, now I'm just being evil grin

magicberry Mon 30-Sep-13 20:48:46

I'm a bit surprised how many people on this thread think adults' birthdays are a big deal. Do you all have parties each year? confused
I wouldn't think of this as a big deal at all, sorry

Whocansay Mon 30-Sep-13 20:47:47

Will you? Or will you get drunk and tell her she's a 'cah'...

Itsmybluminbirthday Mon 30-Sep-13 20:46:28

It'll be an interesting night, whatever happens! I plan on being the soul of gentility however. wink

CaptainSweatPants Mon 30-Sep-13 20:46:28

I wouldn't go

I always spend my actual birthday with dh & dcs

Celebrate with friends before or after the actual day

Loopytiles Mon 30-Sep-13 20:43:05

If the invitation came by email or facebook, you could reply to all and say "great, I'll be 21 again that day, can celebrate that too!"

Squitten Mon 30-Sep-13 20:39:33

It depends on whether you are planning to do anything on your actual birthday. If so, then tell her the reason you can't go to her party and don't feel bad about missing it. If not then I would go.

Whocansay Mon 30-Sep-13 20:37:04

You can make suppositions about this all night and never know - it may be she's a cow trying to upstage you, she could just be inconsiderate or she may have forgotten it's your birthday.

If you feel uncomfortable about it, decline the invitation and tell her you have already made plans for your birthday. Then arrange a fabulous night for you birthday with your friends - making sure its the Saturday night before your actual birthday....

And if so, and if I were you, I would be positively wallowing in her mortification when she realises. On the night.

Perhaps she has <whispers> Forgotten its your birthday!

MrsWembley Mon 30-Sep-13 20:08:27 a Welsh accent...

Hassled Mon 30-Sep-13 19:59:29

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I'd be mightily hacked off. It's just such a weird thing to do.

You need to talk to her - say "Mate, this is a weird thing to do. What's occurring?".

ILetHimKeep20Quid Mon 30-Sep-13 19:57:52

It does seem a bit random if it's a school night

IamChristmas Mon 30-Sep-13 19:57:37

It was awkward. However you have done nothing wrong, so you have nothing to feel bad about. Hopefully your friends will look out for you and if it makes her squirm that's her problem.

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