It's minor I know, but it grates on my nerves. My Dad is one of these people, starts huge arguments over nothing and if you dare to have a differing opinions he's all "woe is me, I'm always wrong. Don't listen to me, I'm wrong."
My landlady is like it too (I'm a lodger). And it's never something big, it's something petty and ridiculous. Like yesterday she posted an interesting video on facebook. It was an experiment as to peoples reactions to a gay couple getting flak from a waitress based in Texas. At the end it referenced the same experiment done in New York. Whilst chatting about it I said "And that guy! The one who actually high fived the bloody waitress!"
She stopped and said "No, that was in New York." I shrugged it off and just said, "Oh, I thought that it was the Texas clip in the diner, oh well." and tried to leave it at that, but then she kept on and on about how actually, it was in New York not the Texas clip and so on.
I have seen the video again since then and it was the guy in Texas. Not that it matters, it's a moot point, it's a ridiculous thing to use to 'prove' that you're right about. It's always things like this, with both my Dad and my landlady.
The best from my Dad recently was him having a massive go at me because I won't go self employed (I'm a nanny, have called HMRC three times in the past month alone about this and have been told all three times that no, I cannot become self employed!) and him saying "I'm self employed, my employer pays my tax, then I pay my tax too and I get a massive tax rebate every year in the thousands!" I gave up at that point and told him that yes, of course that's how it works.
Why do people have to be Always Right ffs? Why is it so hard for them to say "Actually, I'm mistaken about that."
AIBU?
AIBU?
To dislike people who are Always Right.
ConfusedPixie · 30/09/2013 09:54
Yanbu at all. My brother is like this, to the point he says he just happened to be talking to a proffessional about the very thing he is arguing about just days before.
These things include me putting my make up on wrong, he was talking to a beautician about eyeshadow a few days ago, him going on a first aid course and now being more qualified than a paramedic, despite me having been on the same course, apparently he discussed it with the tutor and the tutor said that my course wasn't as advanced as his, even the fact I prefer McDonalds to Burger King, he said he had been talking to a marketing manager who said they did a survey and it had been proved that BK was better than McDs so I was wrong in my preference. The list goes on and on, I have now perfected the smile and nod 
There's different ways of "always being right".
Df does it. He likes a good debate and is very good at arguing. So if you change to agree with him, he's quite capable of switching sides too and doing just as persuasive an arguement for the other side. 
Can be quite funny sometimes.
Bil does it too. But in his case he always knows everything and it's always right. If it's proved wrong then he's got an excuse why it's someone elses fault it's wrong. Everyone is obviously envying his things-the fact they have actively chosen different is obviously a mistake..
My dm used to say a poem. I can't remember much of it, but it started
"I know a little girl, she isn't very nice
Because everything I say I've done she's always done it twice..." and that sums it up really. 
Angels, that's madness! I thought my experiences were bad enough but your brother sounds insane!
tolittle Ah, but in your case, you have reason to believe that he is actually correct!
Few words for the situation - narcissism, control freak, abusive, smart arse,interfering, insecurity. Feel free to discuss
My OH is like this. Always right. Sometimes we'll be debating/disputing something and then agree to disagree. But he always finds a way to bring it back into the convo later on, just to get his point across. Which doesnt work as I already know he's going to do it so Im just very offhand about it in a 'its been done & discussed already' kind of way. Lovely in other ways tho. Dont think Id like it much at all if the 'Im always right' was a big deal, AngelsLieToKeepControl your brother making a point about how to put on eyeshadow made me smile, he's got a lot of time on his hands methinks..yes, the smile and nod is best (and secretly you know best, anyway) 
ARGH, this is my MIL. I've just had to silently fume whilst smiling and nodding because she Will Not Believe that there is anything out of the ordinary with ds2 who is currently undergoing assessment for autism and dyspraxia. It's painfully obvious to anyone who spends 5 seconds with ds that he's not like other 7 year olds but because she used to teach reception and yr1, MIL is obviously more qualified than the fucking paediatrician, school nurse and SENCO who have thus far all agreed that he is somewhere on the spectrum. 
Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant. She's only just left so the rage is fresh in my mind just now!
I have a solution for that one, vlad. - anyone who offers advice has volunteered to do the job.
Hand him the mop and say knock yourself out, pal.
As for the brother who's just spoken to someone who knows - imagine the fun you could have - oh, fab, who was that? where were you when you spoke to them? how well do you know them? how did you happen to get onto that subject? ...
YY agree with Hecsy, anyone who knows better than you how to mop the floor or load the dishwasher or sort the washing should be encouraged to demonstrate...
That includes the brother who knows how to put on eyeshadow.
Oh God, this is me and my entire family. We are awful, and to make it worse in my saner moments I can see it but then the red mist descends .... 
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I have a tendency to be like this. I try to control it but I do get the arse when I come up against other people like this who are clearly wrong yet insist they are still right. (I am actually right most of the time, but not all of it).
My brother was painfully like Angel's brother - and would keep on and on and on and on and ON until you just caved and said "yes, ok, you're right and all the other people/experts are wrong"
My mum was hellbent on proving I was wrong, otoh. Even when I was right. For e.g. - I worked in a hospital lab, on the blood side. I knew a fair bit about blood (still do). But my MUM still knew more about it all than I did because she had been "told by a consultant when she was pg with X" and therefore her knowledge superseded mine.
I had a good one at work once - discussion of the word "priapic". The other person knew the word but insisted it was priapRic, because she "knew someone who had it". It's not, it's priapic. I smiled and nodded, checked for my own sanity in the dictionary and never mentioned it again.
DH is another one who likes to be right all the time, but he knows he is like this and sometimes makes a joke of it. He doesn't try to make out I'm wrong though; just that he is ALSO right, even when our statements are completely opposite to each other. INteresting bit of mental gymnastics he can do there!
DSs don't stand a chance...
My Dad is like this. He drives me to distraction, especially as he is another who has the ability to blame someone else on the 'rare' occasions he is proved wrong.
His 'finest moment' was - on the basis of no legal knowledge or training whatsoever - arguing with me till he was black in the face that people who work in driving jobs who get caught drink-driving hardly ever get banned because they can plead losing their livelihood as a defence and can argue they are a special case. I work in the Criminal Justice System and have been in court and seen people banned with my own eyes ...but I'm still wrong and he's still right.
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