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The phrase 'sorry for your loss'

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Numberlock Thu 26-Sep-13 11:10:13

It's so trite, where did it come from? It seems a fairly recent thing.

I can't stand euphemisms at the best of times, what's wrong with saying 'Sorry to hear about xxxx'?

'Loss' sounds like you've misplaced a handbag or credit card...

everlong Fri 27-Sep-13 21:38:32

Imagine bloody hell, yes at least get the spelling right!

When ds died one of DH's friends posted a card. It was a condolence card but with no message just a rushed scribbled autograph. That made me sad.

Imaginethat Fri 27-Sep-13 22:02:35

everlong Oh my gosh I would feel so hurt. Your son, your beautiful son. I'm so sorry.

3rdInfantryGrunt Thu 23-Feb-17 22:37:46

I HATE this expression, it sounds so trite and impersonal.

TheElephantofSurprise Thu 23-Feb-17 22:38:26

I like it. I use it. It helps.

KERALA1 Thu 23-Feb-17 23:41:53

I work with terminally ill people, often I have never met them but they tell me on the phone prior to meeting - I usually say something like "I am so sorry to hear that" or similar. Dd aged 7 overheard and was confused because "the fact they are ill isn't your fault mummy". Difficult to explain that you can be sorry for something that isn't your fault.

TheWinterOfOurDiscountTents Fri 24-Feb-17 02:09:43

It's a standard phrase in Ireland. What do you want people to say? Nothing?

TheWinterOfOurDiscountTents Fri 24-Feb-17 02:11:49

Oh FGS, Zombie thread. Why would you?

BarbarianMum Fri 24-Feb-17 02:26:22

A few years ago there was a thread on here that attempted to compile a list of the things you should/shouldn't say or do to the recently bereaved. By the end of it there wasn't one single sentiment or phrase mentioned as acceptable that hadn't also deeply upset someone. For the first time I understood why people do just cross the road to avoid saying anything. sad

Teapot13 Fri 24-Feb-17 03:16:09

Of course it's a bit meaningless -- it's a set phrase for formal situations. It isn't to comfort a best friend, where you know the person involved and might actually have something worthwhile to say.

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