My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

AIBU?

Kissing goodbye at school

65 replies

OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:22

AIBU to think it's not on to make your child give you a kiss goodbye before going into school when they clearly don't want to?

My ds 6 doesn't want to and I wouldn't dream of making him.

OP posts:
Report
BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 26/09/2013 10:26

Call SS

Report
tywysogesgymraeg · 26/09/2013 10:26

If it embarrassed them, I absolutely would! That's the job of a parent isn't it? Embarrassing your children that is
Grin

Report
Bowlersarm · 26/09/2013 10:27

Depends on the age to a certain extent, but I don't actually think it's a problem.

Report
Yorkieaddict · 26/09/2013 10:28

YANBU, but I will be gutted when DS decides he doesn't want me to kiss him goodbye at school. He is 6, and thankfully quite happy so far!

Report
YoureBeingADick · 26/09/2013 10:29

Yabu! Thats the most fun i have until pick up time. He loves the headlock kisses really Wink

Report
mrsmindcontrol · 26/09/2013 10:30

Did you see me forcing my DS1 aged 7 to kiss me this morning while he screamed GET OFF ME!!! at the top of his voice?
He loves it really *



  • he doesn't. But I think it's funny.
Report
DaleyBump · 26/09/2013 10:32
Biscuit
Report
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:32

The boy was 10 and his dad called him back to kiss him. He so didn't want to.

My dad used to regularly embarrass me and i will try not to do it to my kids.

The call SS comment was a bit silly.

OP posts:
Report
phantomhairpuller · 26/09/2013 10:34

And it's your business why?!

Report
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:35

Thanks for my first biscuit.

I just think its hard enough at school to make friends and fit in. Why would you want to do that to your child when all their class can see.

Not a major problem in the scheme of things I suppose.

OP posts:
Report
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:36

Not my business and would never say anything but I don't go around with my eyes shut.

OP posts:
Report
IneedAyoniNickname · 26/09/2013 10:36

My 9 year old year 4 ds would hate it if I didn't kiss him. Most of his peers would hate it!
I'd stop if he didn't like it but I'm glad he does :)

Report
thesnowmanrocks · 26/09/2013 10:36

Smile it's the law, kiss goodbye at school gates. My ds5 still loves it, and as i do and always will he will always be getting a kiss goodbye from me. No matter if he wants it or not. Smile

Report
Sparklysilversequins · 26/09/2013 10:36

Me and dd say goodbye like we are in a rom com, huge hugs and loads of kisses. I will be gutted when she stops wanting to. I wouldn't force her to, no but I think that when they're grown up kids will remember the love and kisses themselves not that they were embarrassed by them.

Report
YoureBeingADick · 26/09/2013 10:37

Yeah my dad did it too- its a rite of passage- happens to us all- its really NOT a big deal. My sons knows its a bit of fun. We do fun in this house. Give it a whirl. You might like it. Wink

Report
TravelinColour · 26/09/2013 10:37

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Tailtwister · 26/09/2013 10:40

Personally I wouldn't force them if they didn't want to. DS1 is fine with a hug and a kiss atm, but he's only 5. As he gets older I suspect he'll change.

Report
Tailtwister · 26/09/2013 10:41

I agree TravelinColour.

Report
mrsfuzzy · 26/09/2013 10:46

my 12 y ds and i like to lark about, before he goes out the door to school we do very theatrical air kisses along with 'see you later darrllling!!" silly,but fun! but i do agree with travelincolour, it's got to be acceptable to both parties.

Report
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:47

I don't make mine kiss their grandparents goodbye either. I always ask them if they want to.

They do if they do, don't if they don't. No issue with either.

I kiss and cuddle my dcs all the time but only when they want me to.

OP posts:
Report
Nancy66 · 26/09/2013 10:48

I'm not even allowed to wave at my son any more. That's embarrassing as well apparently.

Report
Tee2072 · 26/09/2013 10:49

Nothing more important than teaching a child that their body is their own.

YANBU

Report

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

Dobbiesmum · 26/09/2013 10:54

Agree with Tee and Travellin. DS stopped kissing me goodbye ages ago, he now pats me on the head and calls me 'little mum' when his friends call for him in the morning. He's 12 and taller than me My revenge will be sweet...

Report
PeppermintPasty · 26/09/2013 10:59

My ds is six, and I am lucky (to go by what other mothers of 6 yo boys tell me) in that he really is the most cuddly boy, always has been.

In the last year or so, he has been less keen to hold my hand when we're out and I would never force him, nor would I kiss him by force at this age I probably will later ie at 14 when it's super-embarrassing.

What I tend to do when no one else is about is say to him, in a conspiratiorial fashion, "let's hold hands while nobody's looking!". He falls for it loves it and I get my craved contact, needy mother that I am.

Report
sonlypuppyfat · 26/09/2013 11:00

My DS is 14 and kisses me and tells me he loves me even over the phone when he's with his mates.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.