Got my baby to sleep less than an hour ago...(67 Posts)
And he's awake again for another feed. He's 8 weeks old on Saturday, I thought it was supposed to get easier by now?! Will he ever go for longer than 2 hours between feeds?
Husband is happily snoring beside me having the wonderful excuse of going to work in the morning. I have a throbbing headache and I have to cook bloody lunch for friends tomorrow!
Oh brilliant mrsspag! I'm so glad your instincts were listened to. I hope things continue to improve
Great news Mrsspagbol. Sorry things had to get dramatic but it looks like it was for the best.
Hope she gets better and continues to self settle!
I'm more than happy for you to divert my thread btw, seems like we're both getting some good advice and support.
That's brilliant OP, as he gets bigger he'll be able to go longer between feeds still. At about 4 months it should be heading to 4hourly as his tummy gets bigger and he can take more at each feed too.
Thanks petals, it is pretty great! Bit of an inconsistent day yesterday but mostly he's still lasting 3 hours. I feel so much better for it.
Roll on 4 months though!
I'm up with my 13 month old who feeds every 2.5 -3 hours now, fourth time since going to bed at 8 -at 3 months there was no in between feeds she would sleep with her mouth on my nipple and swap sides when I turned over, I am amazed by your progress so little, go you :-)
IdaClair forgive me if you have been asked this a hundred times but is she actually taking a full feed each time or is it more like habit and the same times each night? . Is she getting enough solid food? As my LO was cutting down the frequency loads by then, and definitely not having any overnight.
Hi ladies - reading this post is taking me back to the first hateful few months with DD1
I can't recommend this site highly enough to first time mums as it describes typical situations that make you stress yourself stupid and worse still, listen to all the cock and bull theories from well meaning but misguided individuals.
I can also recommend it to second time mums as I found not only had I forgotten a lot of it in the sleep deprived mists of time but also I had a lot more milk (or it felt like it anyway) the second time around, so DD2 had quite a different experience. No less stressful for me
I think one of my biggest lessons learned was to get as much food as reasonably possible into them during the day time to reduce the overnight feeding as much as possible. There was a phase with DD1 where I genuinely was vampira.... Within reason obviously and for the first 6-8 weeks they genuinely don't know night from day and need to feed every 2-3 hrs for the most part.
Thank you for the links Oscar, I'll take a look at them during daylight hours.
I've been trying to feed him during the day but there's only do much he'll take and I don't know how to encourage any more. He had his 6-8 week check today and I did ask the doctor about his feeding but she sort of sidestepped the question. Hopefully the Kelly mom website will have some answers!
Ah - he's only 6-8 weeks. Stomach is still teeny. I have no doubt that it's been the longest 8 weeks of your life, especially if he's had reflux and feeding issues. You just have to find a way to get through it without going mad.
I found it really useful later on when the feeding troubles are a thing of the past but then they suddenly start pulling and tugging and generally being a PITA. It was edifying to find out that a baby will try to increase the flow towards the end of the feed by treating you like a punchbag....
I'm selling bfing to you aren't I
By 12 weeks though, subject to reflux [and I've never had to deal with this so I am not sure if the advice is little and often or regular structured feeds with the meds] issues and weight gain, you should start to see an improvement. They are so much perkier and start to really look at you. You can talk to them and engage even if it is just walking around the garden, showing them the trees. It becomes much more rewarding.
By then, it's a good idea to look at some of the established routines [Gina Ford, Baby Whisperer etc] and see which one you are closest to already/works for you. Just having something you are aiming towards helps immeasurably, not just for you but for people around you when you can articulate your desire to have a 5 min shower so you can get out of the house dressed by 9.30am and actually DO something while the baby gets their first 45 min nap of the day
Oh my lord, we have had a fantastic night. I took the advice about feeding more during the day, so we fed every hour and a half, from both sides when possible. Through the night he fed at 10pm before I went to bed, and not again until 3am! 5 hours of sleep! Now he's feeding again at 5.20.
I feel so much better! (Unfortunately my boobs aren't used to infrequent feeding so I woke up in a wet milky bed, but whatever, 5 hours!)
He was also knackered as we took him out from 4 to 9 and he slept a little while out but not a huge amount.
I've also found a new way of feeding him in bed which helps hugely with the reflux. I sit upright with my legs apart and hold him with my left hand (if I'm feeding on the left side) by his bottom, with his legs in between my legs, so he's pretty much completely upright. Then I hold him there for a little while afterwards before shifting him around for burping, that seems to help.
If you could like posts on MN, I'd definitely like this! Positioning definitely helps with reflux. Have a look at the 'biological nuturing' position too. I'm so glad you had a better night. Changes your outlook on life, doesn't it?
Oh it so does! I just hope it's not a one off.
We do the biological nursing position (although I didn't know it had a name!) and he does seem better that way too. I think it also helps with my flow which is really fast.
Fed him again at 8 and now he's sleeping again. I'm getting a little worried as he's never slept this well before! Never happy, am I? I did read that at 3 months heh start to sleep better, and he's 9 weeks now so maybe we're building to that?
I have to thank you all again for your advice and support, I eats learn so mug here!
Constant worry, yes! There's a saying 'Sleeps begets sleep' - if he's slept well he's more likely to sleep well again.
What worked for me was setting up the cot with just 3 sides right beside me in the bed. When baby wakes drag them over to boob and then go straight back to sleep. Read up on safe co sleeping to ensure any risks to baby are mitigated and then life gets easier overnight. I had 2 others who were sleeping through by 8 weeks so 'twas a bit of a shock having a non sleeper but minimising the work thAt needed to be done in order to feed made all the difference. It definitely gets easier .
Eats learn so mug? Maybe I wasn't as awake as I thought! *always learn so much.
We tried co sleeping and it definitely made him sleep more quietly but it wasn't really for me, I was always sleeping with one eye open for fear of crushing or suffocating him, so I ended up more exhausted than I was before!
Happy for you Sour!! A decent amount of sleep makes ALL the difference!
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