I am 35 and have breastfed 3DC for a year each. With the last baby, my boobs didn't shrink back like they did before. They were always big (D cup) but now they are a massive F cup. I am a size 10 on the bottom half so this makes me look even more out of proportion. I am a healthy BMI but I have been dieting in desperation to see if results in a cup size reduction. Although I lost 7lbs, my bra size has not changed one bit.
Shallow as it sounds, all this is making me very miserable. I have a cupboard full of clothes I can't wear and at work, I feel like my chest is the focus of the conversation, rather than anything else. I find myself in tears a couple of times a week as I try to get dressed... I am very proud of myself for breastfeeding my children but now don't feel like myself anymore.
I could afford just about to save up for a BR (breast reduction) over the next year and it is something I really want to do. My DH is dead set against it, however. He is wonderful and supportive in all other ways but this seems to really upset him. His main reasons are:
- Risks of the operation / complications etc which are totally avoidable as it's not a vital procedure
- I am being shallow / superficial and should just get a grip and learn to love myself. There are people with much bigger problems in the world etc
- I am setting a negative example to my daughters about body image
- I am selfishly wasting money (5-6K) that we need in our savings
- I may have permanent scarring that he may find ugly and off-putting
I can see that he has very valid points apart from perhaps the last one...? AIBU?