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Insanityismymiddlename Fri 20-Sep-13 14:35:29

Yesterday my DP and I ran out of petrol on a very busy main road 5 miles away from a petrol station (dial is apparently buggered).

It was raining and because of how narrow and busy the road was it wasn't safe to wait in the car incase a lorry clipped it as it wad just passed a bend in the road (had a couple of close calls with DP getting out of the car so my DP and I had to stand in the rain with my 2 week old DD whilst we waited for a friend to fetch some fuel to get us to the garage and not a single person stopped to offer assistance.

It was a busy road but there was a layby about 100yrds away so it wouldn't have endangered someone else if anyone was kind enough to at least offer.

AIBU to have lost hope in humanity? If I drove passed a young couple obviously broken down holding a very small baby I wouldn't just carry on.

Sorry for the rant I just can't believe some people and needed to get it off my chest.

Weegiemum Fri 20-Sep-13 15:49:52

I don't think it's about being in a "shitty" area necessarily.

I have a disability that makes me very wobbly on my feet and I use a walking stick when out alone. I've twice fallen in the street (I trip over fresh air!).

First time was in a very naice part of Glasgow's West End. No bugger stopped (right outside waitrose!) and I had to pull myself up using a bin and a lamp-post. Second time was in the wee shopping arcade near where we live, on the edge of one of Glasgow's "big 4" housing schemes. I was helped up, brushed down, my shopping picked up, given a chair, a drink of water and a free cup of tea from the cafe and then was walked round to the taxi rank by 2 elderly men (one of whom had definitely been on the whisky at lunch!!). I like living in a shitty area!

Onesleeptillwembley Fri 20-Sep-13 15:38:07

And to be fair, they probably never even registered you had a baby if driving themselves.

StuntGirl Fri 20-Sep-13 15:26:54

Someone stopped when we flipped our car on the motorway once. He was in fact the only driver on the road at all (late Christmas Eve one year, the roads were empty). I would stop for someone in the same situation. If they appeared to be simply broken down I would assume they either had a mobile phone and called the RAC or had used the phone to call for assistance to be honest.

everlong Fri 20-Sep-13 15:19:28

Yabu but I think you know that now. Like you say you're probably hormonal what with just having DD.

I don't agree with your view on the general public tbh. I find folk to be helpful in times of need.

I wouldn't stop I don't think, not if it was a busy road and I had my dc in the car. That could make matters worse.

wigglesrock Fri 20-Sep-13 15:19:13

It depends if another car could safely stop. Sad to say, there's more additional injuries & accidents probably caused by people trying to help.

To be very honest, where I am, most people probably would have stopped. I once stopped very suddenly in the car and pulled (I thought baby was choking), the car behind me stopped as well as they realised something was wrong.

Insanityismymiddlename Fri 20-Sep-13 15:17:55

I must admit I never considered the scam aspect I thought it was an urban legend.

I have got my DP to stop a few times if I see people with children as I know it can be quite scary (not the first time we have broken down we are jinxed with cars) and I at least offer to call for help I have been in a position of having a dead mobile.

WilsonFrickett Fri 20-Sep-13 15:15:04

If it was a fast, busy road - which it seems like it was - there probably wasn't time for someone to really process what they saw. Come round the bend, spot the car, see two people - by that time you're gone (and presumably looking at the road ahead, not rubbernecking) so there really isn't time to stop, iyswim. I bet 99% of people didn't even see the baby.

Sirzy Fri 20-Sep-13 15:15:00

If the car was stopped in a dangerous place then most people were probably more concerned with safely getting passed than anything else.

I have stopped in the passed when I have seen an RTC on the motorway (the only person who did stop) but if there was nobody obviously injured/no crash taken place then I wouldn't stop, and certainly not on a dangerous stretch of road.

Lottapianos Fri 20-Sep-13 15:11:46

Get over yourself - always such helpful advice, no matter what the situation hmm

Hope you're all ok OP. I don't drive so haven't been in your situation but when I feel down in the street a couple of years ago, no bugger stopped to help, they all just stepped over me. There are some kind souls around but they feel few and far between sometimes

LazyMonkeyButler Fri 20-Sep-13 15:11:21

And yes, the injured DC & the pram scenario I would have definitely stopped for.

I would judge the two things totally differently, rightly or wrongly.

MadeOfStarDust Fri 20-Sep-13 15:10:21

I saw our postie sat on the ground today and went over to see if he was ok...

apparently I was the 9th person to go and ask - he was getting a stone out of his shoe and had got his laces knotted too tight to undo....

we are not all to be tarred with the same brush.....

CoffeeTea103 Fri 20-Sep-13 15:09:33

Yabu, I know of someone who was scammed in this way and i wouldn't stop. There were two of you. Get over yourself.

Thumbwitch Fri 20-Sep-13 15:07:38

YABU about the car situation but YAsoNBU about the pram situation!

As others have said, with the car, there were 2 of you and the baby so no, I wouldn't have stopped, I would have assumed that you were able to call for help and were just waiting for it. Also the scammers thing would be on my mind, especially as I'm usually a lone woman driving, so would be in more danger than you.

Re the pushchair though, that's dreadful sad
I saw a bloke pushing his DD in a lightweight umbrellafold pushchair with shopping bags hanging on the handles, they were obviously too heavy and as he went over a bump in the pavement, the weight change was too much and the whole thing toppled over backwards, frightening the DD of course. I called out to ask if he needed any help but he was adamant they were both fine, so I left it; I would definitely have asked your DH if there was anything I could do to help.

LazyMonkeyButler Fri 20-Sep-13 15:07:11

I would stop for a lone parent & baby but not for a couple, I don't think.

As others have said, I would expect that one of you has a mobile phone & that you are waiting for Green Flag or a friend to turn up.

It also sounds as though it would have been a dodgy place for a passer by to park up.

I have broken down many a few times over the years, with various of the DC with me. I'm not sure I'd actually welcome a stranger's help TBH, unless I was in an awful situation (injured, DC injured etc.) and actually really needed it. An independent sort, me grin.

I am sorry you had a shitty day though.

I would stop to ask if you needed help.

livinginwonderland Fri 20-Sep-13 15:02:40

I wouldn't stop for a broken down car. Pretty much everyone has a mobille phone these days and I would assume you were waiting for help from the AA or something.

I would help if I saw the second scenario, though.

captainmummy Fri 20-Sep-13 15:02:35

I jumped out of the car when I passed a BWM facing my side ofthe road, in the ditch. I was petrified of what i might see but i opened the door (car on it;s side, so not easy) and thankfully it was empty. I assume the driver had got out and walked to the nearby houses.

Some of us have hearts. smile

Insanityismymiddlename Fri 20-Sep-13 15:02:17

I guess IABU probably still hormonal.
Had no coats or anything as it was nice when we left home so had to stand in the rain with DD who had nothing other then a thin blanket over her.

DP couldn't push the car alone and even if I left DD in the car I couldn't help push as 2 weeks postnatal.

WeAreEternal Fri 20-Sep-13 15:01:14

If I saw a family waiting on the side of the road by their car I would assume they were waiting for assistance, (the AA/a friend).

I would only stop if someone was walking away from the abandoned car, I'd assume they had no assistance and needed some.

BrokenSunglasses Fri 20-Sep-13 14:59:31


You were fine, what could anyone have done anyway?

Tbh if I drove past and saw two people standing there with a broken down car, I'd assume they were ok because there's no real reason that they wouldn't be.

Lj8893 Fri 20-Sep-13 14:59:12

Tbh I would probably only stop if it was a woman on her own, just to make sure she had help on the way.

I have broken down many a time (I'm cursed with cars!!) and have never expected anyone to stop for me. There are too many scams around now that it isn't worth the risk for other people.

I've always had aa cover and a mobile. When people have stopped for me it has never been someone on thier own, but always a couple of group. Far too risky for a solo person to stop for anyone I think.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 20-Sep-13 14:57:42

YANBU! We once broke down on a busy residential road and at least three people came from nearby houses to offer lifts, drinks and phones....they saw the baby carrier you see. It's the least people should do!

MrsBungle Fri 20-Sep-13 14:54:22

If I saw 3 of you waiting by the side of the road - I'd assume you were waiting for someone and so wouldn't see the need to stop.

I'd have definitely stopped had I seen your dh and the pram incident. How awful.

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 20-Sep-13 14:53:08

Could he have not just pushed it into the layby rather than keep the baby in the rain?

OneStepCloser Fri 20-Sep-13 14:51:23

I wouldn't stop for a car as I would presume you had it sorted and the aa/rac make you a priority when you have a baby. Also if it was a busy road, possibly difficult for others to stop and help?

However, I really think most people would stop with the pram incident, I'm sorry and shocked that no one offered help you both then, it sounds awful.

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