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New car decision- we disagree

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Pinkpinot Thu 19-Sep-13 21:47:35

Dh doesn't drive. And is probably in the car for 2/3 long journeys a year
I do about 10-12k miles per year.
Who gets to decide what car we get?

cumfy Thu 19-Sep-13 22:25:10

Is it likely he will be driving the car at some point then ?

cumfy Thu 19-Sep-13 22:26:36

xpost, but surely it won't be that long before he can drive again ?

Hulababy Thu 19-Sep-13 22:30:24

How small is the car you want to get? Is he very tall and a small car really not very nice, especially on a longer journey?

DH and me both drive so have two cars. Mine if the little car, through choice. DH has the family car day to day but I use it in holidays if I am going on longer journeys - as it is more comfortable for passengers - or taking more than 3 passengers - I only have 4 seats. So, I chose my car (the little one) and DH has the bigger weighting on the family car - as it is his day to day one.

StuntGirl Thu 19-Sep-13 22:56:50

How cramped is he going to be? If he's 6'2" and you're buying a Mini Cooper I can see the issue.

Pinkpinot Fri 20-Sep-13 10:42:51

So, we have an A6
I want the a5 sportback
He wants another a6 or a Q5
There's a bit of difference inside between A5 and A6, but not massive.
He's 6 3, rugby physique, big guy

I have really fallen in love with this car, and I had a savings plan which was to buy a sports car when I turned 40, but I had to cash it in, to buy our house

mayorquimby Fri 20-Sep-13 11:57:43

Going with yabu in that case
I accept the logic of others opinion wrt "you're the main driver, you get final day" etc but I disagree with it
Especially now that it seems your decision is based on a rather self centred desire to own a sports car because you've always wanted one etc.

McNewPants2013 Fri 20-Sep-13 12:00:05

I would love an a6

AKAK81 Fri 20-Sep-13 12:00:35

YABU for wanting to spend so much on such a bland euro box.

TheFuzz Fri 20-Sep-13 12:02:45

A5 A6, not much difference really. The A6 is a slightly bigger family car. Very little difference in fuel consumption - same engines

Q5/7 are w@nkpanzers just like X3/5's and driven by plonkers.

Beastofburden Fri 20-Sep-13 12:12:19

This doesnt come across too well, you know.

You resent having cashed in your savings plan for a shiny sports car to buy a boring old house for the family. Now you want to buy a sports car you have "fallen in love with" rather than a family car.

How long will this fantasy car last you? as your DC grow, will it be big enough for them? Can you park it everywhere without vandalism? Will it transport sports kit, holiday luggage, friends, etc?

If it were the case that twice a year you could rent a big car for DH to squeeze into, and in the meantime you wanted a practical comfortable runabout that suited you and the DC- people would have sympathy. But if what you want is your fantasy car regardless of family practicality- not so much sympathy here.

Pinkpinot Fri 20-Sep-13 12:20:48

The A5 isn't a little sports car
It's a sportier model of the A4. He thinks the A4 is too small for him.
It's still a family car.
It's still plenty big enough, in fact the boot is more practical as it opens a lot further than the A6
The only difference is that DH feels a bit more squashed

Beastofburden Fri 20-Sep-13 12:24:06

Ok pink, in which case my comments arent fair so I apologise- in that case I would go with the renting a bigger car for holidays model.

Pinkpinot Fri 20-Sep-13 12:26:14

If it was an Audi TT I could see your point
I'm not going for an impractical car, it's even 5 door!!

QuintessentialShadows Fri 20-Sep-13 12:30:03

Can you not stuff dh in a top box?

Or rent a caravan for him? Or, a zip van on the occasions he needs to be in the family car?

MortifiedAdams Fri 20-Sep-13 12:30:57

DH doesnt drive and I do.

When we bought a new car in April (new to us not brand new), we agreed together a price, mileage (ideal) and boot size (for buggy etc).

We went to the showroom.together, scouted out a few we thought would work for us and I test drove two while he and dd played in the showroom. I then picked the one I preferred driving.

QuintessentialShadows Fri 20-Sep-13 12:31:22

The a5 is a boring car for a middle aged man with a bowler hat, you know. <sigh>

MortifiedAdams Fri 20-Sep-13 12:32:46

Oh and we went for a Ford Focus. Total parent/suburbs type car because that wss what was best for the family. Both in practicality and cost.

hermioneweasley Fri 20-Sep-13 12:34:27

Have you discussed the option of getting the one you want and then hiring a car for the few long journeys?

I can't see the A5 being a problem though - it's hardly a smart car!

I have a similar sized car to the Q5 and I love the high driving position, but am often borrowing DW's smaller car as it's much easier to park!

Beastofburden Fri 20-Sep-13 12:35:33

true pink- can you tell i dont know a lot about cars?

Andro Fri 20-Sep-13 12:37:48

The only difference is that DH feels a bit more squashed

Hmm...I have a 6ft 4, rugby playing OH (plays 6 or 8 in rugby union so has a pretty muscular build) who was perfectly comfortable in the two A4 I've had over the years.

What do you think of the handling of the A6? I didn't like it at all when I test drove one.

It sounds to me as though you're both after different things and have different priorities, maybe you need to look at some different makes of car and find a compromise?

I do think the principle driver's comfort (including how easy they find the car to drive) has to be a high priority.

BIWI Fri 20-Sep-13 12:38:59

If you're the main driver, I would say you have more influence on your choice. But to choose something that your DH feels uncomfortable in? Big no. YABU I'm afraid.

Andro Fri 20-Sep-13 12:39:46

^My reference to the A4's there is because of the similarity in their size to the A5.

Potterer Fri 20-Sep-13 12:44:43

Pinkpinot my DH is also 6'3" rugby player built and he drives his own car, but he also drives mine too.

He does get a say in the choice of my car but it is because he bloody drives it at least once a week. He enjoys driving, I don't have any love of it so he drives mine as it is better than his little run-a-round.

I would never dictate what car he drove as I never drive it nor really go in it. My car is the family car, has to be big enough for luggage for holidays, taking to boys to school etc.

Honestly, 6'3" isn't that tall, however DH is tall in the body not the legs really so most cars he actually jams his head on the roof of the car. Now that is uncomfortable, but he can easily fit in a mini grin

Oh, and I am also a SAHM.

Pinkpinot Fri 20-Sep-13 12:53:06

I have loved my A6
I love the drive of the A5 and a new A6
I wasn't comfortable in the Q5, I only have one small child, it seems a bit OTT
McNewpants, I realise how ungrateful I might sound
I know how fortunate we are to be having this problem
Andro, dh is a bit of a moan, maybe he'd be uncomfortable in any car
He moans when he gets in the A6, makes a big fuss about putting the seat all the way back

Pinkpinot Fri 20-Sep-13 12:54:25

It's not like I'd be uncomfortable in the A6

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