My daughter is currently at primary school.
She is then picked up my someone from a privately run after-school club. My daughter and a childcare worker walk down to the club and she is there until I pick her up.
The school has no after care. I can't find a childminder in the area.
I was so happy when I located this club.
I was worried when I saw the Ofsted report because it says "The inspection took place following a concern about an accident involving a child who had fallen off a chair.
Children's safety is not consistently awarded the highest priority. In an isolated incident, practitioners were not vigilant enough and this resulted in a child sustaining an injury."
But the report acknowledged that as a result of this risk assessments had been done and procedures about safety being put in place.
Today when I went to pick her up the nursery worker seemed really quiet and on edge. All the other workers turned their backs to me and didn't look at me. Usually they are chatty and around me. The nursery worker started whispering to the other and pointing to the back of her hand, and she just turned around and ignored her.
My daughter was sat far away from all the other kids, really quietly drawing, looking withdrawn.
Then the worker told me that another child had bitten my daughter's hand and hurt her. She still had bite marks in her hand and looked upset.
I could feel myself getting really emotional so I picked her up and left. It was so obvious the other staff were ignoring me. I had a meeting with the manager to sign some paperwork and even she ignored me and let me go.
When I got into the car I asked my daughter what happened. She said the teachers were standing talking to another adult with their backs to her and the other kids. One kid bit her hand and held onto her hand with it in his mouth.
It was only when she started around that the teachers turned around.
Even now I am feeling upset, angry, sad, annoyed - all sorts.
What would you all advise?!
AIBU?
To ask for advice after my child was bitten by another child
citruslemon · 13/09/2013 21:59
My 2yo DS is a biter and has just started preschool for a couple of mornings - I've already had long chats with the staff about when/why he bites, what usually precedes it, and my worry that he might bite someone.
(So far he's been fine, but I would far rather my child be bitten than be the biter! IYSWIM)
Some children simply do bite, and it isn't necessarily fixable or caused by anything in particular. Obviously it's more common in toddlers, and I keep my fingers permanently crossed that DS will grow out of it ASAP. We've tried everything, and it gets no easier to cope with/apologise for the 10th time.
I'm sorry your DD is upset, probably the best thing to do (assuming the biter is one of the 2yo's) is to explain to her that it isn't personal, and that little children don't understand how horrible/naughty they're being.
When she goes back, probably best that she avoids that child, and if they grab her hand she pulls it away and/or shout Help straight away.
I hope the bite mark doesn't bruise or stay sore, 
for her.
Biting can be easily missed if there hasn't been a big lead-up, so even if they were facing the group the assistants may not have realised what was going on til she cried. Tho, tbh, their attitude sounds very odd, and rather like they knew they were lacking.
What you really need to find out is if the biter has any 'form', because if so, they should have been watching them like a hawk.
A friend's son has been regularly bitten at nursery by the same (2yo) child each time, almost weekly, and that I see as entirely the fault of the staff. They could move one into a different group if they're not able to watch them properly, but have chosen to keep them together and hope for the best. Not really working...
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