To be furious that DH wants to give up work?

[KittyKatkatKat]

Well am I? DH and I aren't short of a bob or two but FGS, he's just announced that he's giving up his job!
I'm pulling my hair out here. I've got such a nice lifestyle as a SAHM to my baby boy, have lots of friends and a Mum and sister who visit often. Actually, they practically live with me whilst hubby is away with work.
He's now giving up so that he can spend more time at home and I don't know what to say. His family are overbearing and he's going to be kicking around the house all day. AIBU? I'm in a real tizz about this :(

[catgirl1976]

It's a big step to take without discussing it with you first but you don't seem to want to spend much time with him or give up your "lifestyle"

If you SAH and are financially ok, why should he not SAH too?

[CMOTDibbler]

Well, you can get a job and he'll have a nice lifestyle as a SAHD. Sounds good to me

[Sleepyhead33]

Yabu

[ItsaTIARA]

I think you need to find him a nice little part time role that involves lots of overseas travel OP. Then you'll get lots of Me Time, but be able to offload LO when he comes back home. Something in the voluntary sector perhaps. Win win.

[Sleepyhead33]

Ha ha- just got it!

[GingerBeerAndTinnedPeaches]

:o Well you have plenty of room - you'll be able to run around your new home for weeks without running into each other.

[MadBusLady]

Welcome to Mumsnet, OP.

[dreamingbohemian]

Is it temporary? Does this mean you have to get a job?

He absolutely should have discussed it with you first but you said it yourself, you have a really nice lifestyle, is it so strange he wants to enjoy the same thing?

[KittyKatkatKat]

We're moving house soon cat lucky to be mortgage free and I have so much to do without having him loll oping about the place.
His family are too much and having him home gives them an open invitation to visit whenever they like. I'm v annoyed :(

[ItsaTIARA]

And presumably he'll be returning to a full time job eventually - maybe in forty years or so.

[LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops]

Haha...hopefully he'll take-up a consuming hobby or train for something seriously sporty!

[dreamingbohemian]

Wait, I can't tell if I should be taking this seriously or not

[OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly]

Riiiight, so who is going to pay all the bills then?

[catgirl1976]

Oooohhhhhh - I've just got it too

Very good!

[Morgause]

But your family have been hanging out there - it's his family's turn.

[KittyKatkatKat]

Itsa Hubby likes Kenya. I'm going to suggest a Safari ASAP. I think a bit of voluntary work wouldn't go amiss either

[GobblersKnob]

LTB

[BumbleChum]

Ha ha very good. I think you need to get rid of the nanny (you know the one you told everyone you weren't going to have before DS was born) and get DH to do the night shift with the baby.

[Bowlersarm]

Well at last, I have got it too!

Took a while...

[LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops]

Penny drops...I think, although I don't watch it, so could be wrong...

[catgirl1976]

OnTheBottom

We are going to be picking up the bills for the OP and her DH ;)

[Thisisaeuphemism]

Does he have any plans for the future? If he's going to take on a big role in about hmm thirty years time maybe it's a good idea to take a step back now?

[FastWindow]

Excellent. Bet you feel somewhat overshadowed by your late mil, too. Rip etc, obv.

[Norfolknway]

Hehe