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To be furious that DH wants to give up work?

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KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 18:25:34

Well am I? DH and I aren't short of a bob or two but FGS, he's just announced that he's giving up his job!
I'm pulling my hair out here. I've got such a nice lifestyle as a SAHM to my baby boy, have lots of friends and a Mum and sister who visit often. Actually, they practically live with me whilst hubby is away with work.
He's now giving up so that he can spend more time at home and I don't know what to say. His family are overbearing and he's going to be kicking around the house all day. AIBU? I'm in a real tizz about this sad

catgirl1976 Thu 12-Sep-13 18:27:42

It's a big step to take without discussing it with you first but you don't seem to want to spend much time with him or give up your "lifestyle"

If you SAH and are financially ok, why should he not SAH too?

CMOTDibbler Thu 12-Sep-13 18:28:49

Well, you can get a job and he'll have a nice lifestyle as a SAHD. Sounds good to me

Sleepyhead33 Thu 12-Sep-13 18:29:04


ItsaTIARA Thu 12-Sep-13 18:29:32

I think you need to find him a nice little part time role that involves lots of overseas travel OP. Then you'll get lots of Me Time, but be able to offload LO when he comes back home. Something in the voluntary sector perhaps. Win win.

Sleepyhead33 Thu 12-Sep-13 18:30:07

Ha ha- just got it!

GingerBeerAndTinnedPeaches Thu 12-Sep-13 18:30:13

grin Well you have plenty of room - you'll be able to run around your new home for weeks without running into each other.

MadBusLady Thu 12-Sep-13 18:30:29

Welcome to Mumsnet, OP.

dreamingbohemian Thu 12-Sep-13 18:30:34

Is it temporary? Does this mean you have to get a job?

He absolutely should have discussed it with you first but you said it yourself, you have a really nice lifestyle, is it so strange he wants to enjoy the same thing?

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 18:30:36

We're moving house soon cat lucky to be mortgage free and I have so much to do without having him loll oping about the place.
His family are too much and having him home gives them an open invitation to visit whenever they like. I'm v annoyed sad

ItsaTIARA Thu 12-Sep-13 18:30:49

And presumably he'll be returning to a full time job eventually - maybe in forty years or so.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Thu 12-Sep-13 18:31:00

Haha...hopefully he'll take-up a consuming hobby or train for something seriously sporty!

dreamingbohemian Thu 12-Sep-13 18:31:41

Wait, I can't tell if I should be taking this seriously or not <sleep deprived>

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly Thu 12-Sep-13 18:31:53

Riiiight, so who is going to pay all the bills then?

catgirl1976 Thu 12-Sep-13 18:31:54

Oooohhhhhh - I've just got it too grin

Very good!

Morgause Thu 12-Sep-13 18:32:35

But your family have been hanging out there - it's his family's turn. grin

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 18:32:44

Itsa Hubby likes Kenya. I'm going to suggest a Safari ASAP. I think a bit of voluntary work wouldn't go amiss either angry

GobblersKnob Thu 12-Sep-13 18:33:35



BumbleChum Thu 12-Sep-13 18:33:48

Ha ha very good. I think you need to get rid of the nanny (you know the one you told everyone you weren't going to have before DS was born) and get DH to do the night shift with the baby.

Osmiornica Thu 12-Sep-13 18:34:09

Doh! Just got it grin

Bowlersarm Thu 12-Sep-13 18:34:18

Well at last, I have got it too!

Took a while...

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Thu 12-Sep-13 18:34:19

Penny drops...I think, although I don't watch it, so could be wrong...

catgirl1976 Thu 12-Sep-13 18:34:34


We are going to be picking up the bills for the OP and her DH ;)

Thisisaeuphemism Thu 12-Sep-13 18:34:37

Does he have any plans for the future? If he's going to take on a big role in about hmm thirty years time maybe it's a good idea to take a step back now?

FastWindow Thu 12-Sep-13 18:34:52

Excellent. Bet you feel somewhat overshadowed by your late mil, too. Rip etc, obv.

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