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epic78 Fri 06-Sep-13 20:06:35

On one of the final days of the school holidays I took our dc to visit my brother. I admit I had seen him earlier in the holidays too but it has been a rough year due to a family bereavement.
Dh got really ranty about this. Basically moaning that
"this was another day where nothing gets done in the house and that I shouldd do my job during the week so we can have family time at the weekend"
I accept that as a sahm I should do all the childcare and as much housework as possible during the day whilst dh is at work.
However, surely a day out in the school holidays comes under this remit.
Incidentky I also do bulk of chikdcare and housework evenings and weekends too .
Aibu to have got really upset with him over this.

upanddown83 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:45:23

That is not a nice way to live a friend of mine recently left my house in the middle of an afternoon visit to go home and hang out the washing as her dp would have given her a hard time if it wasn't done!
I couldn't believe or understand it the only time my dp mentions housework or the mess of the house is when he can't fit anything else in the laundry basket grin or he falls over the kids toys (I tell him to look where he is going)
Yes you are a sahm but you are not a cleaner or housekeeper!

Sparklymommy Fri 06-Sep-13 21:45:39

My house IS a pit. But only because the holidays have been full of days out/ kids have been playing and their are 8 of us. However, with 4 adults and 4 kids in the house, all the washing has been done, ironing done and everyone's been fed and bathed regularly.

Next week, when the kids are back at school, the BIG CLEAN will commence. and probably end the week before the Christmas hols begin therefore just in time for the kids to mess it up again!!!

DuelingFanjo Fri 06-Sep-13 21:48:48

Stop doing his laundry.

Jengnr Fri 06-Sep-13 22:01:34

Tell him to fuck off.

Your job is to look after and entertain the children. Yes, the SAH parent has a greater responsibility for housework but not to the extent the other is allowed to be a complete cunt about it.

Gretagumbo Fri 06-Sep-13 22:12:57


epic78 Sat 07-Sep-13 14:14:32

Thank you. Also had a 2 week holiday in that time whole family.
Certainly reconsidering our future at the mo.

I think the SAHP has a greater responsibility for looking after the children than the working parent.
Everything else (cooking, housework) should be negotiable between the couple as a partnership.
Even raising the children is still a partnership too, with the working person making their contribution in the evenings and at weekends.
A few days out during the summer with the children is essential to a happy "holiday" for all.
My DH could be more supportive during the holidays too. They just don't get what a big change it is do they ?
- especially for you with a baby.

Hope your 2 week holiday was some sort of break for you - you sound amazing smile

MissMalonex2 Sat 07-Sep-13 14:39:52

He's being a twat. Tell him to pay for a cleaner or do it himself

epic78 Tue 10-Sep-13 14:27:06

Thank you. Did get abit of a break in holidays.

epic78 Tue 10-Sep-13 14:27:43

Sorry in two week holiday.

BuskersCat Tue 10-Sep-13 14:29:03

You need to practice the phrase

'go fuck yourself' grin

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