however hard we try?
And I admit this is looking on as someone who is lucky enough to get on well with their parents and inlaws (I am fully aware this isn't everyone's situation)
Now don't get me wrong - I do love my inlaws and I'm very lucky to have an extended family that get on very well, but following a conversation with a friend, we came to the conclusion that although you try very hard with your inlaws to include them in your life and more importantly that of your DC's (their GC!) life ... the relationship just isn't the same and we seem to beat ourselves up in trying to make everything equal.
Our mothers gave birth to us, have unconditional love for us as US not just the bearer of their GC/sons partner or wife
We can say just what we like to our parents within reason, as them to us - whereas there is an 'etiquette' to behaving around inlaws
I would happily rock up to my parents, scruffs on, no make-up, raid their fridge ... revert back to being a teenager and feel very comfortable in doing that (although I'd like to add the adult version of teenage me now makes them brews, helps out around the house, gladly helps them with many internet queries etc ) - whereas I still often feel like a guest in my inlaws house (partly my fault in the way I've been brought up to 'behave' in other peoples houses!)
I will ensure my DC will grow up with the same love for both sets of GP's - as I did. But I just sometimes think we need to cut ourselves some slack when it comes to making such an effort to keep things equal and accept our parents love us more as their own children and in turn us them
Not the PIL bashing thread many of you expected I guess - just a conversation I thought I'd write down and see if it rings true with any others?
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wonderingifiam2013 · 06/09/2013 16:36
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