DP thinks I'm a control freak regarding our youngest dd and too easy on my eldest dd. I think he's undermining me with our youngest and intervening unnecessarily with my eldest.
Dd is just over one. She's a very poor eater but I'm working hard to have a consistent routine of ensuring she sits at the table at each mealtime, is offered food, no pressure or stress if she refuses etc. She's obviously hungry but food refusing. When DP had her last week he let her share a milkshake from McDonalds three times so she had around the equivalent of a large milkshake (15 spoons of sugar). I went there for a coffee with a friend this morning and dd was absolutely hysterical and trying to get other people's drinks thinking they're milkshakes. DP doesn't see the harm in giving her it but IMO it undermines everything I'm trying to achieve with encouraging her to eat as well as obviously being bad for her teeth, unhealthy and ridiculous that she's having McDonalds related tantrums at one. I've asked him to stop and he thinks we should just let her have that and whatever else (ice cream, cake etc) to fill her and worry about healthy eating later on.
Regarding my eldest dd who is 6 - she's been bickering with DP lately because he gets on her nerves and he thinks she is disobedient. For example; if dd is playing with something and I ask her to do something else (I.e wash hands ready for tea) then I ask her and carry on doing whatever knowing she will go and do it within in a minute or so. DP, however, stands over her and keeps demanding. For example; the other night I was brushing DDs teeth. When I finished I asked her to put the brush back then come to her room and left the bathroom to sort younger dd. She continued to brush her teeth and DP stood telling her to put the brush back - he tends to ask once within 10 seconds of non-compliance then repeats her name every 5 seconds or so til she gets irritated and snaps at him to leave her alone. He then tells her she's rude, she says there's no need to interfere when I've already asked her to do something, he says she's disobedient etc. I agree with her that his behaviour is annoying and unnecessary but he still thinks she's being disobedient.
AIBU in thinking he's making my job a lot more difficult and he isn't in the right here?
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WibblyWoman · 05/09/2013 11:32
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