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To give the DC a day off school for this reason?

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 05-Sep-13 11:32:16

MIL is over from Oz...she comes once a year and she goes back on Sunday. Shall I keep the DC off school tomorrow so that they get an extra full day with her? It's only just occurred to me to suggest it...I've not mentioned it to MIL or DC yet.

She loves them so much and it's reciprocated....she misses them badly over the year. Also...if I am not being unreasonable, what shall I tell school?

Sirzy Thu 05-Sep-13 11:33:43


I assume she has already been over for a couple of weeks? They will still get to see her after school and on Saturday.

Floralnomad Thu 05-Sep-13 11:34:53


CMOTDibbler Thu 05-Sep-13 11:35:40


WibblyWoman Thu 05-Sep-13 11:35:51

YANBU I'd keep them off. One day off with do no harm! You could explain the situation to school and hope they're understanding?

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Thu 05-Sep-13 11:35:57

I agree with Sirzy, YABU. They can do something together on Saturday. It would be different if this was a real flying visit with only 1 day on which they could get together.

CarpeVinum Thu 05-Sep-13 11:37:06

It's not unreasonable at all. As for what to tell the school, would the school really object under the circumstances ? Surely they have some wriggle room in the rules for exceptional circs.

Lweji Thu 05-Sep-13 11:37:17

How long has she been visiting?

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Thu 05-Sep-13 11:37:34

How many full days has she already had with them?

Sirzy Thu 05-Sep-13 11:38:10

Schools have very little "wriggle room" now and I wouldn't class this as exceptional circumstances.

SoonToBeSix Thu 05-Sep-13 11:38:43

Yanbu some people are obsessed with not missing a day of school at any cost.

CoffeeTea103 Thu 05-Sep-13 11:38:49

YANBU, it's one day and it will be another year since they see each other. Let them have a special day together

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Thu 05-Sep-13 11:40:10

You know what - who cares how long she has already been there.

Keep them off school, let them enjoy the day with her.

I remember how much I missed my Nana and another day off school to have spent another full day with her would have meant the world to me when she came to visit. (My parents had taken us overseas to live and I missed her so so much).

teatimesthree Thu 05-Sep-13 11:42:04

YANBU - I am a right stickler for school attendance, but this is an exception. The bond between DCs and GPs can be so lovely, and this is a great opportunity for them to have a lovely 'bonus' day together.

thebody Thu 05-Sep-13 11:42:30

yes of course, I would in a heartbeat.

life is precious and frail. your mil lives the other side if the world and can't see that much if her gc.

there are more important things than school.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 05-Sep-13 11:42:40

I feel like that Chipping and I know school are having to crack down on days off...but we've not booked any hols in term time ever...when you're 5, a whole day is a lot...and I think MIL would appreciate it massively.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 05-Sep-13 11:43:17

thebody's another day of memories to grab.

Fakebook Thu 05-Sep-13 11:43:21

Presumably they've had a few weeks with her already and school only just opened in England yesterday or the day before! They'll have whole of Saturday too. YABU.

Lweji Thu 05-Sep-13 11:47:32

If she, for example, has had a month to be with them one day is not going to make a difference and it wouldn't occur to me to have a day off school.
If she has only had a week or less, I'd definitely let them have the day.

If they are very young, then it certainly won't make a difference.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 05-Sep-13 11:48:15

Our school have said that they will no longer authorise absence in situations like this, which if it is a longish visit then isn't an issue but for a quick trip is pretty harsh.

I do think it sends a strange message to children though to keep them off school for things other than illness.

Feminine Thu 05-Sep-13 11:49:23


CarpeVinum Thu 05-Sep-13 11:50:16

Schools have very little "wriggle room" now and I wouldn't class this as exceptional circumstances.

But reading other threads, they have "wriggle room" enough in terms of deeming Other Stuff more important than a day of school, such as sending kids home and missing education due to logo-ed uniform not arriving in time, or wearing the wrong coloured socks cos a kid has the indoor coloured PE socks instead of the outdoor PE coloured socks.

Looking in from the outside... it's strange. Surely family ties are a greater priority in the grand scheme of things than ...ties ?

Maybe the Italian bodysnatchers got me in the end. But the priorities look topsey turvey.

quoteunquote Thu 05-Sep-13 11:50:47

We never take the children out of school except for illness,

but in your situation, I would, it is really important to children to have that relationship with older family members,

in your situation you do not know if or when they will have the opportunity again,

go to the zoo, go to the beach, something that they will enjoy together,

ask the school for any work that may be missed, and make sure the children do it.

comingalongnicely Thu 05-Sep-13 11:56:18


Let her have a "sickie" from school & have a day she'll remember.

It's one day, she's not going to miss anything catastrophic....

claraschu Thu 05-Sep-13 12:02:17

In answer to the people who "never let their children miss school for anything but sickness": I know lots of people whose children occasionally (or often) pretend to feel sick. My three have NEVER done this, because they know that there are other good reasons to miss school. They don't have to lie and pretend, (though because of the laws, I have to lie to school on occasion).

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