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to not talk to my fiancé for the whole day tomorrow?

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crazybubbasmummy Tue 03-Sep-13 00:51:04

Last week, and Saturday night I had real difficulty sleeping.
I was able to go to sleep but my 2 year old would wake then I'd find it actually impossible to get back to sleep!!

Friday night I went to sleep at 11, 11:30 ds woke then I was awake till 4am was then up at 7 with my son.

DP didn't offer any help getting up because he had been to work all week and has to get up at 6 (goes to bed at 10 sleeps through every night).

After a heated discussion about who was more tired than who, he finallu saw that I had suffered all week

So anyway tonight we go to bed, put the tele on. He was txting on his phone I was drifting off so I put the sleep on the tele for the next hour and went to sleep. He woke me up 20 mins later to tell me to turn the tele off. Claiming he couldn't reach the remote. And well basically now im wide awake. And when I said you know I wont be able to go back to sleep he said well you should of turned the tele off then.

I'm not talking to him at all tomorrow. Im not cooking his dinner or anything!


PoppyAmex Tue 03-Sep-13 11:13:44

Glad you sorted it OP.

It must've been really annoying and he shouldn't have done it, but to be fair I would've been fuming to wake up when DH left the TV on and went to sleep. But that's why I banned tvs from bedrooms wink

crazybubbasmummy Tue 03-Sep-13 08:25:16

Onesleeptillwembley- your rude don't tell me to grow up! If you haven't got anything constructive to say get off my post!
Everyone else thank you I have taken what you all say. I was frustrated so much last night. Only because he knew how difficult ive had sleep and still woke me up. Ive emailed saying why im frustrated and feel he shouldof shown me some cconsideration as it wouldn't of been difficult for him to swith it off. I wouldn't of out right blanked him just been short. He has apologised anyway so everything is ok. Other than tbe fact I feel like a bag of shit today :-( x

Trills Tue 03-Sep-13 08:15:54

You're not going to improve things by ignoring him for a day.

Ledkr Tue 03-Sep-13 08:06:16

I think the op bring told she's emotionally abusive is hilarious. I think she was talking about giving him the cold shoulder for a bit which we all do or at least I do. Dh usually either ignores me too or takes the piss untill I laugh.
Not very grown up I admit but not emotionally abusive.

Hissy Tue 03-Sep-13 07:39:02

Why on earth would anyone agree to marry someone who clearly has no respect for women, or for the work that goes into childcare?

He sounds like a dinosaur.

Lweji Tue 03-Sep-13 07:37:22

If he wakes you up again, ever, you keep waking him up to tell him you can't go back to sleep.
If he values his sleep he won't do it again.

And yes, make him share work when he's at home, or show him the door.

dexter73 Tue 03-Sep-13 07:31:44

Who the hell wakes someone up to turn off a tv? That's lazy and selfish why couldn't he get up himself?seriously?
My dh woke me up once, a long time ago, to tell me that he hadn't got an ironed shirt - he never did that again!!

livinginwonderland Tue 03-Sep-13 07:28:46

He was childish, but you'd be equally childish to ignore him for a day.

LindyHemming Tue 03-Sep-13 07:17:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip Tue 03-Sep-13 06:48:31

Who the hell wakes someone up to turn off a tv? That's lazy and selfish why couldn't he get up himself?seriously?

And people think the op is the one in the wrong for being pissed and not wanting to talk to him?

I'd go nuts if someone saw fit to do that. What's next, getting someone up to make him a drink?

BoundandRebound Tue 03-Sep-13 06:17:25

At 5pm you say right I'm off kids are your responsibility till 6am I need to sleep so I'm going to a hotel / friends house

And you change this he does nothing with kids - when he's home it's 50:50

BonVoyageCharlieBrown Tue 03-Sep-13 06:08:50

I get where you are coming from as I have trouble with sleep as well and its frustrating. However you need to speak to him about it rather than the silent treatment. I went out with a guy who was an emotionally abusive twunt who used the silent treatment to me even if I hadn't done anything. It was horrible.

KingRollo Tue 03-Sep-13 06:08:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

littlewhitebag Tue 03-Sep-13 06:06:37

If you have trouble sleeping then you need to remove all distractions from the bedroom. Take your tv out. Then sit down and talk to DP about the things bothering you and maybe agree a lie in each at the weekend?

CSIJanner Tue 03-Sep-13 05:58:05

I think some people are ignoring the fact that OP has had disturbed sleeps for the last several days. That's bound to make anyone touchy and kick off, especially if it DP knew and still woke you up for the pissing remote that they could stretch out and reach themselves.

But agree with PP - you shouldn't go down the non-speaking route. You're 5yo is old enough to pick up on it, and it doesn't solve any problems. What was in the email?

Onesleeptillwembley Tue 03-Sep-13 02:57:30

Grow up, and take the tv from the bedroom

PenelopeLane Tue 03-Sep-13 02:23:46

Just wondering what the bigger issue is here - him waking you, or your sleep problems? I can see why you're annoyed, but he's only half the problem really.

I say that as someone who has trouble sleeping as well who has gotten very angry at things that have woken me in the past (ie a loud truck outside) and while I'd probably react like you did, if I'm to be honest with myself the issue really is my own inability to sleep and that's something to be worked through first before fuming at whatever woke me up.

K8Middleton Tue 03-Sep-13 02:22:43

You need to communicate better. That involves more talking and listening, not less.

If he is generally unpleasant towards you then you should seriously consider whether you want to stay with him and on what terms. He should not have behaved in the way you described but reacting in a childish way will not help.

Well, an apology would be nice, if you are upset. However, some people are not good at saying 'I'm sorry' (not that this is right, but it is just a fact). Plus, it's very easy for any of us to utter the apologies and then carry on regardless with the behaviour for which we have apologised. So if you talk to him and he understands why you are annoyed, is that not enough? Personally, I wouldn't get too hung up on the words, but more how he receives what you have to say. Also, it's too late now, but discussing your grievances via email probably wasn't the best idea. It is impossible to interpret tone etc via email, these discussions are far better had face to face.

Bugger, I am apparently incapable of giving brief responses!

AmberLeaf Tue 03-Sep-13 02:11:01

He shouldn't have woken you. That would piss me off too.

I just think talking would have a better outcome than not.

crazybubbasmummy Tue 03-Sep-13 01:44:49

What do I do then if he doesn't apologise?

AmberLeaf Tue 03-Sep-13 01:40:28

What Shadows said.

The silent treatment is emotionally abusive and pathetic.

crazybubbasmummy Tue 03-Sep-13 01:39:03

He doesn't help with the kids when he gets home. I di dinner bath bed etc on my own in appreciations hes been working all day

crazybubbasmummy Tue 03-Sep-13 01:37:48

Im a full time mum 2 children 5 & 2
He works in the city 7-4

crazybubbasmummy Tue 03-Sep-13 01:36:53

I've already sent him an email to open when he gets to work. To early to talk at 5:30.
I'll probably calm right down if I get an apology!

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