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to think that if you snore like an angry pig all night every night that you shouldn't inflict it on anybody by visiting people ever ever ever ever?

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nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 06:35:10

DSIL is making me feel homicidal.

Has been visiting since Thursday has snored every night all night for 4 nights.

I had to sleep on my own sofa last night with a film on to drown out the noise and it's now 6.30am and I've been awake for an hour already listening to it. I've had about 4 hours sleep.

It's ALL night. Apart from when she goes to the loo, and that wakes me because I wake because the noise stops! But never fear, within 30 seconds of returning to the spare room.

Oh but it's all so fucking hilarious to snore isn't it? Oh how she will laugh and fake embarrassment.

We have one more night to go, I swear, never ever again is this woman sleeping in my house.


Alternatively, am I being unreasonable...
how are the other 4 people in this house sleeping throught this fucking racket?
is it only irritating me because i'm pregnant?,
or because I came off my anti-depressants that usually make me much more tolerant of others being selfish dicks.


QuintessentialOldDear Mon 26-Aug-13 07:24:16

Congratulations! grin smile

Tell her to see a doctor. Is she very overweight? This can affect snoring.
Tell her to lose weight. Tell her she is not welcome back until she has lost a few stones, and then is fit enough to help you with chores.

QuintessentialOldDear Mon 26-Aug-13 07:25:56

Just saw your last post.

If she does that tell her that it is nice that she sleeps well, but you have barely slept a wink while she is visiting, and is now knackered. Tell her what chores need doing while you nap, and ask her when she is living.

Nagoo Mon 26-Aug-13 07:27:31

When she gets up, go to bed.

Congratulations thanks

Ilovemyself Mon 26-Aug-13 07:27:41

ifancyashandy. That's what I was going to say.

I snore, and I know how annoying it is for my wife. I have tried ways to reduce or stop it. I know I really need to lose ( a lot of) weight and that will help.

Sometimes the "fake" embarrassment or joking really is the fact they are ashamed of what it does.

But the fact she doesn't help is not on.

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 26-Aug-13 07:27:58

Glare at her murderously all day. It will confuse her and make you feel better.

On another note, have you talked to the doc about the anti-histamines? I'm pg and mine said I should be ok to take Loratadine.

MousyMouse Mon 26-Aug-13 07:28:15

my df snores but usually wears a madk at night (sleep apnoea). last visit he forgot.
I swear the whole house vibrated with the noise!
worse is if it's not regular, but like
chrrr ___________CHRRRRRRRRR chrr chrr________CHRRRRRRRRRR (_= breaks in breathing)

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:29:11

smile I really didn't mean this thread to be an announcement but thanks everyone.

yes, very overweight. I am not going to tell her to lose weight, her mother does that weekly. and if she tells me she's a slow eater and that's why she takes so long with her dinner one more time, I'm going to point out that her portion is three times the size of anyone elses.

she is fit enough to help with chores! she obviously doesn't see the need as she's on holiday!

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:34:32

yes, i normally take loratadine and GP advised I stop taking it. I googled yesterday in desperation only to discover that loratadine is the recommended one in pregnancy. will have to chase her up on that.

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:36:14

my husband is superfit and a racing snake. he still snores a bit but this has put it into a whole new perspective.

Ifancyashandy Mon 26-Aug-13 07:38:22

Yup, losing weight helps. Lost 4 stone (stealth boast) and it improved hugely. But I still snore...

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:41:53

DMIL is visiting next week and she snores too. I really need to get some earplugs.

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 26-Aug-13 07:47:28

OP my initial info on Loratadine came from an NHS website, so there should be something "official" to show doc if he/she disputes and suggests you've been badly advised by Dr Google.

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:49:31

yes, it was the NHS choices website I read it on.

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:52:43

STILL snoring!

FreeWee Mon 26-Aug-13 07:55:30

Best Ear Plugs EVER

I can't bear breathing never mind snoring so you have my sympathy. One more night to go. One more night to go. One more night to go. Repeat until you feel better!

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 26-Aug-13 07:56:13

Oh dear. This would be giving me THE RAGE. I think everyone (without exception) needs to go out for the day, all day to give you time to recuperate.

PavlovtheCat Mon 26-Aug-13 07:57:42

When I used to go out til the early hours dancing and drinking, my mother used to put The Archers on really loudly at around this time of the morning, and hoover right outside my bedroom door. It's got to be around that time now? If not the Archers, something like Queens of the Stone Age would be my choice, to lift my spirits.

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 07:58:21

thanks free wee.

Dackyduddles Mon 26-Aug-13 07:58:27

When I was preg I taped dh to prove how loud he was. iPhones are fab.

QuietNinjaTardis Mon 26-Aug-13 07:59:18

Yanbu at all. This would make me murderous. I'm up several times in the night for a wee baby bouncing on my bladder so never get a full nights sleep so if I can't sleep while I'm in bed I get cross. Really cross. Go make some noise outside her bedroom and wake her up.

Tabby1963 Mon 26-Aug-13 08:06:14

I snore too sad and it became a problem when I put on weight. My husband told me he thought I had apnea and I bought him earplugs and started to deal with my eating habits.

You SIL may be extremely embarrassed (I know I am) but laughing it off. You must tell her honestly that it won't be possible for her to stay again (give her a list of local hotels/b&bs) because it is keeping you awake and making you unwell. Suggest she go along to see her GP for a health check. Be sympathetic.

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 08:08:25

had radio 4 on the telly, very soothing. I trust R4. They wouldn't shirk any jobs if they came round. R1 presenters on the other hand would come round to be sick on my carpet.

...I haven't even mentioned the laziest 17year old neice.

DH and DSIL failed to purchase a meal during the day and were staring into the fridge talking about takeaway. Bearing in mind I work full time I find myself preparing a batch of a spur of the moment goulash type dinner with chicken, sausage and peppers. 17 year old wants baked potato instead. (even my 8 and 6 years olds can cope with some chicken and rice with a mystery sauce FFS). I ask her to sort out her own potato..."I don't know how."

What???? Just WHAT???

I said, well go and ask your mother what to do and come back and do it.


MinnieBar Mon 26-Aug-13 08:09:43

1. Put loud music on (I suggest The Carpenters)
2. Turn it off when you hear signs of life.
3. When she comes down, say 'I'm afraid I slept terribly badly last night, so I'm going back to bed now. You know where everything is don't you? Oh, and would you mind washing up afterwards, thanks ever so.'
4. Go back to bed and read/sleep/MN/whatever, ignoring your cheeky 'guests'.
5. Eat cake when they've gone.

I'm still hayfevery btw. I thought it would have all gone by now but NO. Bah.

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 08:10:20

She will not be able to stay here again. I'm sure last year she stayed in a B&B with DMIL. top plan!

nevergoogle Mon 26-Aug-13 08:15:34

no fucking joke, she's awake and smiling. incredulous. I'm off to bed. good night friends.

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