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I think I probably was and now can't say sorry

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Pantone363 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:02:38

Went to Sainsburys to pick some uniform bits up.

DS was easy, girls stuff was not to my taste this year (cardis with big frill around the bottom, horrible trousers and babyish dresses)

DD picked up some trousers and said "what about these". I wasn't even thinking who was around and just glibly said "god no they're bloody ugly" blush. They were though, horrible shape and material.

But there was a woman behind me with her DD who had already placed said trousers in her trolley...her DD then says "are they ugly mummy?"....woman quite rightly gave me a mouthful and her DDs face crumpled and she starts crying that she doesn't want ugly trousers.

To my eternal shame I slunk off muttering a rather crap apology.

Was I BU saying they were ugly out loud? Friend said well if they were ugly they were ugly don't worry about it. I feel like shit remembering that little girl (a few years younger than my DD)

If you were the mum in Sainsburys in C town this afternoon I'm sorry!!

Lilacroses Fri 23-Aug-13 08:29:47

How about the other mum teaching her Dd that different people have different opinions?

Lilacroses Fri 23-Aug-13 08:25:07

You thought the trousers were ugly, you had every right to say so in a private conversation with your Dc! You didn't know that they were sta ding behind youhaving chosen them. It's notyour fault, It'sembarrassing for you but that's life! Don't dwell on it. Other mum was completely ott to react like that.

BadgersNadgers Fri 23-Aug-13 08:19:36

Unless the other mother is Sainsbo's chief trouser stitcher, I can't see what she's got to complain about. She sounds like a hairy menace and you were not in the wrong.

MrsCampbellBlack Fri 23-Aug-13 07:20:05

The other mother over-reacted - so its your fault her DD may get bullied because you commented to your own DD that the trousers were ugly!

When I'm shopping with my DD, she will often pull out the vilest items and I say no its horrible polyester/ugly/horrible colour as I'm talking to her and not paying attention to what other people are buying.

And as others have said, you've hopefully saved her DD from the 'ugly' trousers.

Runningchick123 Fri 23-Aug-13 07:14:46

I want a link to a picture of the ugly trousers.

I have permanent foot in mouth disease so regularly just say what I think and don't really care about other people not liking it. The OP saved that poor child from being taunted by somebody in the playground about wearing ugly trousers.

NadiaWadia Fri 23-Aug-13 04:42:47

The other mother was not 'quite right' to give you a mouthful, she was a loon. 'no wonder children end up getting bullied'... WTF, that's pure nonsense.

It's just unfortunate her DD overheard, but how were you to know? You have nothing to feel bad about, really!

YouareNOTfat Fri 23-Aug-13 01:04:43

Hilarious, she should have been confident enough in her own taste.

I was painting once, my whole house is magnolia. I popped round to my neighbours to see if he had a ladder to reach above the stairs. He didn't but instead went off on a tangent about trrhe work he'd done in his home, and how everyone else just paints theirs magnolia, and how he hates magnolia, it's for people with no imagination.

He then asked if he could pop in to see what I'd done with the place.

Sure I said, yep he walked in to see my freshly painted magnolia hallway, and large tub of magnolia paint blush smile

StuntGirl Fri 23-Aug-13 00:49:07

Oh god, that other woman was a loon. Feel free to ignore her!

SaucyJack Fri 23-Aug-13 00:02:07

Yes! YWBU! You great big meanie!

Poor bloody kid. That would've crushed my youngest.

unlucky83 Thu 22-Aug-13 23:58:30

Maybe the other mum (if anything like me) was just really really fed up of the whole uniform buying nightmare - over reacted and feels embarrassed and sorry now too...
I think everyone is allowed to have their opinions...their own taste, - each to their own...
And I also speak without thinking of my classics was a neighbour (whilst I was gardening) chatting and saying gravel might make it easier - set me off on a rant - I hate gravel - the work of the devil - don't think it looks good, bad for wild life, etc etc etc...neighbour gave me a funny looked and went quiet ...later (months later) I realised just how tactless I'd been - yes -you've guessed it his (identical to mine) garden was all gravel ...and I knew -just didn't think blushblush

littlemog Thu 22-Aug-13 23:51:07

The other mother was out of order not you. She had no right to give you a mouthful and she should have acted with more dignity in front of her own little girl. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

50shadesofmeh Thu 22-Aug-13 23:46:55

Haha lagertops at your jumper shame.

lagertops Thu 22-Aug-13 23:37:50


'I still can't go into a shop wearing something I bought there.'

That's hilarious. I remember when I was about 10 and a girl in a shop had the same jumper as me, so I balled it up and hid it in the trolley. The silliest thing was that she was watching as I did it.

OP, don't feel bad about what you said. Yes, its cringey what happened, but you were expressing an opinion about a pair of trousers. It's not like you told the wee girl that she had a shite haircut.

50shadesofmeh Thu 22-Aug-13 23:35:11

Apologies to any owners of the foreskin lamp

toomanyfionas Thu 22-Aug-13 23:29:50

I the lamp is quite nice though.

toomanyfionas Thu 22-Aug-13 23:27:03

I think it's funny. You are allowed to have opinions and I think maybe you saved the child from ugly trousers.

Alisvolatpropiis Thu 22-Aug-13 23:23:14

The other woman was overreacting in a massive way.

You had an opinion on an item of clothes. And?

The things I say about random items...never even considered worrying somebody might be offended by me. My taste won't be the same as everybody else's will it. I'd laugh in the face of anybody who get all upset about said opinions. Clearly somebody with too few real issues to occupy their time.

Mouthfulofquiz Thu 22-Aug-13 23:22:03

I felt really bad once in sainsburys as I announced to my brother - I hate seeing babies in jeans, you wouldn't lie down all day in jeans would you? - as a lady was picking up to pairs in tiny sizes..I felt like I'd been really rude.
But then again - opinions are ten a penny, everyone has them so mine wasn't and shouldn't have been important to her. Dress your kids in what you want!

LapsedPacifist Thu 22-Aug-13 23:19:21

YANBU! shock

No difference at all to your DD asking for some crappy junk food and you saying: 'No darling, that's tooth rotting garbage, it'll make you fat and damage your IQ!' grin

Would you be expected to apologise if someone nearby had the same stuff in their basket?

50shadesofmeh Thu 22-Aug-13 23:18:20

I still can't go into a shop wearing something I bought there.

50shadesofmeh Thu 22-Aug-13 23:14:19

I remember wearing this amazing coat when I was about 16 it was purple with blue zig zags and had a purple fur collar ( sounds ridic but I thought it was lovely) I was in shop I bought it from and these two girls were sniggering at it on the hanger and said ' look at the fucking state of that coat ' and then turned round and saw me wearing it looking like a prize dick lol.

MariaLuna Thu 22-Aug-13 23:05:43

Lawd, can't you even make a comment while shopping these days?!


Just smile, say sorry, did I bump into you? don't let strangers hang-ups become your own, or take it on board....!

FFS. That way is the way to Prozac grin

Tortington Thu 22-Aug-13 22:58:23

i am amazed that everyone and hi dog feels able to confront people

tbh, you should have said " i have an opinion go fuck yourself and your little dog too"

K8Middleton Thu 22-Aug-13 22:57:47

Rofl at "I had that lamp".

Op, yanbu to save people from ugly trousers.

Pantone363 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:55:47

She didn't swear or shouted just "well I think they're nice and perhaps you should keep your opinions to yourself especially when my child picked them and now she thinks they're ugly..and I don't think it's nice to teach your child that saying things are ugly is nice, no wonder children end up getting bullied"

Then my muttered apology and slinking off..

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