I think I probably was and now can't say sorry

[Pantone363]

Went to Sainsburys to pick some uniform bits up.

DS was easy, girls stuff was not to my taste this year (cardis with big frill around the bottom, horrible trousers and babyish dresses)

DD picked up some trousers and said "what about these". I wasn't even thinking who was around and just glibly said "god no they're bloody ugly" . They were though, horrible shape and material.

But there was a woman behind me with her DD who had already placed said trousers in her trolley...her DD then says "are they ugly mummy?"....woman quite rightly gave me a mouthful and her DDs face crumpled and she starts crying that she doesn't want ugly trousers.

To my eternal shame I slunk off muttering a rather crap apology.

Was I BU saying they were ugly out loud? Friend said well if they were ugly they were ugly don't worry about it. I feel like shit remembering that little girl (a few years younger than my DD)

If you were the mum in Sainsburys in C town this afternoon I'm sorry!!

[CharityFunDay]

YANBU. The other mother was well out of line for giving you a mouthful in front of your child and not explaining gently to her daughter that different people have different opinions about fashions.

[50shadesofmeh]

Och you stopped a little girl having to wear ugly trousers, I frequently do the same. I declared that a lamp in ikea looked like it had a giant foreskin to my husnsnd and was glared at by a woman who was obvioisly considering buying it oops :-)

[oohdaddypig]

Sorry you feel guilty OP.

Don't think you have any need to! You were just expressing an opinion whilst shopping. These things happen.

Maybe the other little girl got nicer trousers as a result :)

[jacks365]

Never be sorry for the truth. Just think what you saved that little girl from. She was unreasonable she should have dealt with it better and not had a go at you.

[Pantone363]

Foreskin lamp...that needs a link

[JeanPaget]

YANBU - nothing wrong with giving your opinion about an item of clothing in a shop. Obviously it was unfortunate that the woman and her daughter overheard, but as Charity says the mother could have used it as a opportunity to explain about differing tastes.

I'm also keen to see the Foreskin lamp...

[50shadesofmeh]

Ha I don't think they do it anymore , was a very tall papery shade floor lamp that the paper went sort of baggy and wrinkly at the end.

[UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea]

I had that lamp

[myroomisatip]

I also echo a link to the foreskin lamp :) :) :)

[50shadesofmeh]

I'll have a look around the Internet it's gone from ikea site

[Pantone363]

Haha I so know the kind of lamp you mean!

[50shadesofmeh]

Think it was this on
m.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/art/00213600/
Although I do remember it being distinctively more phallic and wrinkly

[50shadesofmeh]

Sorry having trouble posting links on here, I want to see these ugly child's trousers, were they bell bottomed ?

[TheSunTheMoonTheTruth]

YANBU. You can't NOT speak just in case someone doesn't like what you said.

And, as mentioned, you saved that child from wearing shite trousers.

[Charlottehere]

Nothing to apologise for. You are allowed an opinion. The othermuvva should apologise for having bad taste

[OhDearNigel]

Unless you pointed out said trousers in the other womans trolley and said "look at those ugly trousers DD" YANBU. The other woman certainly was

[OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly]

She shouldn't have said anything to you. If I were her, I would have told my kid that people have different tastes, and if we liked them it makes no difference what anyone else thinks of them.
She was mad to have a go at you.

[Pantone363]

They had a big baggy arse on them giving any child a lovely "mum bum".

Plus scratchy material. They were ugly

[ChippingInHopHopHop]

There's nothing wrong with having an opinion that is different to someone else's. It would have been wrong if you had seen them put them in their trolley then said it - but you didn't. You should have told the woman to fuck off buy her DD nice trousers calm down to leave you alone.

You have nothing to say sorry for. Hopefully her DD will get some nicer trousers out of it!!

[quesadilla]

Woman totally overreacted. If age and her dd like it they should have the courage of their convictions. It's not offensive to state that something isn't to your taste unless its being offered as a gift.

[LookingForwardToVino]

Your allowed an opinion op

It could have been worse, they could have been wearing the trousers.

[daisychain01]

I totally love this thread - Pantone, YANBU, I have foot-in-mouth disease and say things then afterwards think Oh BUM why did I say that! and feel bad for weeks afterwards. Don't worry, you did that little girl a favour, only short term pain, she'll be thanking you for not walking round with a baggy arse.

But the best thing is the foreskin lamp. I want one

[BrokenSunglasses]

The child didn't cry until the Mum started shouting. You might have made the a little girl question the aesthetic qualities of her trousers, but her Mum made her cry.

[daisychain01]

oops sorry meant to credit 50shadesofmeh, thanks I very nearly had an accident laughing so much!