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Aibu - crap staff using mental health excuses

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Joiningthegang Thu 22-Aug-13 20:30:32

Aibu to think that whilst there are many many people with genuine mental health issues, I am sooo pissed off that when crap member of staff is "found out" they play the mental Health stress card, get signed off sick and you can't really do anything about it.

I am mostly pissed off because they ruin it for the genuinely ill people.

ShadeofViolet Thu 22-Aug-13 20:33:00

How do you know their problems are not genuine? Are you a Psychiatrist?

FingersCrossedLegsNot Thu 22-Aug-13 20:34:14

My first ever biscuit after years of mumsnetting!

Salmotrutta Thu 22-Aug-13 20:34:47


Joiningthegang Thu 22-Aug-13 20:34:51

The gp who signs them off not a psychiatrist either. All too coincidental for me,
Like the people who are magically better when their sick pay is reduced.

usualsuspect Thu 22-Aug-13 20:36:05

Jog on.

gordyslovesheep Thu 22-Aug-13 20:36:26

mental health problems can get better - unlike horrible personality traits - which may be harder to shift - try it OP

kinkyfuckery Thu 22-Aug-13 20:36:31

Found out for what?

You have NO idea whether they 'get better' or whether they are forcing themselves to do something that they are not physically or mentally capable of doing without severe repercussions because it's all they can do to put food on the table!

FingersCrossedLegsNot Thu 22-Aug-13 20:37:15

Here's another biscuit and another biscuit and another biscuit is your gob full enough yet that you can't speak?

Salmotrutta Thu 22-Aug-13 20:37:47

God yes!

You are right!

GPs have no medical training and absolutely don't learn anything about stress and depression during medical school.

And of course, no one feels under pressure to return to work too early due to lack of money. Oh no.

You have totally converted me to your viewpoint OP! hmm

Spikeytree Thu 22-Aug-13 20:38:07


usualsuspect Thu 22-Aug-13 20:38:20

Anyone fancy a wine

Let's derail this one.

brettgirl2 Thu 22-Aug-13 20:38:23

Do a lot of people working with you find they suffer from stress? hmm

Shakey1500 Thu 22-Aug-13 20:38:25

How do you mean "found out"? hmm

Have you actually spoken to her/his GP? I'm assuming you must have to be so sure.

littlecloud Thu 22-Aug-13 20:38:57

You are not being unreasonable. I'm having this exact issue at work, we are severely short staffed due to a member of staff being signed of with mental issues and 4 of us at work are also unwell, which actually affects how we work as our job is on your feet and can be very busy and are all having to do extra hours to cover mentally unwell colleague where all four of us could technically get signed off in a heart beat due to our ailments but don't for the good of the team really erks me!! I don't want to go into detail of what is wrong with the other colleagues but two have been in hospital in the last two weeks, one to A&E in an Ambulance. And I have been previously signed off sick with my ailment.

Joiningthegang Thu 22-Aug-13 20:40:03

Ok - clearly IABU


Salmotrutta Thu 22-Aug-13 20:40:09

I have no wine


usualsuspect Thu 22-Aug-13 20:41:29

Oh no Salmo, how did that happen?

Montybojangles Thu 22-Aug-13 20:43:05

The virgin man delivered a whole box of wine to mine today salmotrutta, bring some cake and I'm happy to share smile

Salmotrutta Thu 22-Aug-13 20:43:09

I don't know.

It's a mystery ...

Salmotrutta Thu 22-Aug-13 20:43:49

Why thank you Monty!

Much obliged.

Shakey1500 Thu 22-Aug-13 20:45:02


No. You are not having to cover. You are CHOOSING to.

If you or colleagues are unwell, be off sick also. Don't play the martyr card and suggest that your colleagues illness is less important than any of yours. THAT is exactly why the stigma persists. [anger]

BrownSauceSandwich Thu 22-Aug-13 20:45:08

Holy crap, little cloud... Before you rip into your sick colleague, why don't you take a good look at whether your employer is meeting their health and safety responsibilities. What are they doing to you al???!

Spikeytree Thu 22-Aug-13 20:45:31

I'm teetotal but threads like this make me seriously reconsider, so I'll swap a slice of homemade cake for a wine if anyone is offering?

kinkyfuckery Thu 22-Aug-13 20:45:57


If you or other colleagues are ill, take time off. Don't pretend you are 'taking one for the team'.

If your colleague being ill makes the rest of you ill through stress, take it up with your employer - not the member of staff that isn't willing to be walked over.

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