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Was I BU to challenge friend on FB who made horribly prejudiced comment and photo posting?

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coffeeandcream Wed 21-Aug-13 18:42:35

An acquaintance on FB surreptitiously took a photo of a very overweight lady sitting opposite him across two seats on the morning commute and captioned the photo with "Fat tax for rush hour trains?!"

I commented on his photo and horrid opinion saying "there ought to be a 'dislike' button on FB, there's no need to be so rude".

He posted a reply which he later deleted asking if the lady in his photo was a friend of mine and there was no need for me to "get all high and mighty". Then he posted that he agreed there should be a dislike FB button for photos that we're disgusting ie the lady in the picture.

I was so angry, poor woman minding her own business on her way to work being secretly photographed and humiliated on FB. BTW, I've no idea who the woman was, but I feel that disgusting attitudes like this need to be challenged as silence in the face of this kind of prejudice just condones it in my view.

Just needed to vent. Going to 'unfriend' the bastard angry

snoozysleeper Wed 21-Aug-13 18:50:21


You can report the photo I think?? So hopefully it's remived. Then unfriend him... I've never really understood people who laugh at/mock others whom they deem to be less fortunate than themselves sad

snoozysleeper Wed 21-Aug-13 18:51:15


whatsaduckdo Wed 21-Aug-13 18:53:32

Ugh, how horrible. YANBU.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Wed 21-Aug-13 18:55:46

YANBU. What a prick.

crazyspaniel Wed 21-Aug-13 19:06:44

I had a facebook "friend" do something like this recently. She wasn't a friend, in fact, but someone who was the class bully when I was at school. She sent me a friend request and it slightly freaked me out, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt thinking that, since we are now in our mid-30s, she had probably grown up and become a more civilized person than she had been when she was 14. When, a few weeks later, she posted a picture of an overweight, unfashionably dressed woman that she had been standing behind in a queue for a cash machine, I realised that she hadn't changed a bit since those days and promptly deleted her.

LimitedEditionLady Wed 21-Aug-13 19:48:35

I hate this,how can people be so cruel?and i greatly get mad that someone has had their picture taken without knowing.How dare they?no respect.

coffeeandcream Wed 21-Aug-13 19:54:24

Yes limited that's partly why I felt so cross. She has been photographed secretly and mocked. Her face is fully visible too, so no anonymity at all.

I only ever post things on Facebook that I would be prepared to say to someone's face.

Some leopards never change their spots do they spaniel?

LimitedEditionLady Wed 21-Aug-13 19:56:27

I hate FB to be honest.Thats really sick,what if she or someone who is close to her saw that.Thats disgusting.Sick sick little coward.

peppapigsmummy Wed 21-Aug-13 20:14:46

I deleted someone recently because they wrote a status about how angry they were they'd been held up on the motorway because someone had attempted suicide on an overhead bridge. How selfish it was and that she haf 'somewhere to be'


IfYouLoveSomebodyLetThemSleep Wed 21-Aug-13 20:19:38

Yanbu, some people are just mean.

I would report it. A friend of mine had her photo on one of those 'spotted' pages where she had her bum crack out. I reported and it got removed so its worth trying.

waltzingmathilda Wed 21-Aug-13 20:25:49

Meanwhile, any journo could be snapping away and writing articles for any press and provided they did a little pixellation, no one would say a thing

LimitedEditionLady Wed 21-Aug-13 22:14:59

This is why i hate fb well there are more reasons than friends know that theyre not to put my picture on it.i cant stand it.

RoastedCouchPotatoes Wed 21-Aug-13 23:01:40

YANBU! That's disgusting. Why would anyone do that? Someone minding their own business ends up having their face on Facebook, without permission, with people mocking them angry

coffeeandcream Thu 22-Aug-13 07:45:01

He's a shallow, and on occasion, a nasty piece of work.

Women flock to him when they first meet him as he is rather attractive, but surprise surprise! He has never had a proper relationship or one that lasted more than a month or two.

Will see if I can report nasty picture (not very FB savvy)

WandaDoff Thu 22-Aug-13 07:49:09

Fucking arsehole angry

AKAK81 Thu 22-Aug-13 08:38:30

YABU he makes a good point. If you're going to take up 2 seats then you should be paying 2 tickets. Just wait until airlines start charging based on passenger weight then you'll have something else to bitch and whinge about.

themaltesefalcon Thu 22-Aug-13 08:38:48

How cruel.

tallwivglasses Thu 22-Aug-13 08:48:32

I wish I'd known you can report stuff like that. I was horrified that a 'friend' posted a picture of a woman on the bus with 'greasy, skanky hair'.

eatyouwithaspoon Thu 22-Aug-13 08:49:31

AKAK81 would that make it ok to take photos of fat people and take the piss out of them then? Maybe they could have a board up at the airport? You sound charming!

amatuermummy Thu 22-Aug-13 08:57:08

A FB 'friend' of mine went on holiday with his daughter and girlfriend and then continued to post photos on FB of women sunbathing topless around the pool and on the beach. They had no idea that he was taking pictures of them and was posting comments about them on FB.
I felt really uncomfortable about it and unfriended him.

Misspixietrix Thu 22-Aug-13 09:51:10

AKAK81 I dont think thats what the OP meant. The woman had her photo taken without her permission and put all over a social networking site. That's publishing and in my eyes I find the admins of such pages a bit fucking weird stalkerish yo be honest. One recently had a photo of all the Mums and Children in a Market Town. Young Children in full view and the Parents obviously oblivious that some random weirdo was Taking pictures of THEIR kids. The caption was something along the lines of "Oh look must be Benefit Day". Does that make it right for the photo to be published? no. Neither did it make OPs Friends Opinion of a poor unsuspecting woman make it justifiable to ridicule her ~

AKAK81 Thu 22-Aug-13 09:51:16

Fair game for piss taking and I say that as a fat bloke

AKAK81 Thu 22-Aug-13 09:52:57

Photos in public places are fair game. If anyone has an issue with that they shouldn't be out in public.

IWipeArses Thu 22-Aug-13 09:55:17

Fair game for piss taking? Fuck off. How would you feel if that was your Mum?

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