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AIBU to want to punch the mother I saw yesterday getting baby's ear's pierced?

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ElleBelly Wed 21-Aug-13 11:59:35

Was in Claire's Accessories yesterday with my 4yo daughter, and there was a Mum getting baby's ear's pierced. Bab must have been about six months, and was screaming her head off, made me feel sick. Cannot for the life of me understand why people put their children through that at that age. It's so cruel. And mother was laughing with friends about it! Have got DS second lot of imms this week and dreading it, pathetic,over emitional,hormone befuddled woman I am, and just think its so wrong to put a baby through that pain uneccessarily.
Sorry for the rant but I so wanted to give her a slap.

usualsuspect Wed 21-Aug-13 12:03:14


impatienttobemummy Wed 21-Aug-13 12:03:45

Slap away! My sis in law plans to do this asap 6mth old girl I think she's an idiot

hettienne Wed 21-Aug-13 12:04:54

I don't understand why Claire's don't have a policy against piercing screaming/crying/distressed children.

HappyJoyful Wed 21-Aug-13 12:05:22

Brief search on here will tell you subject done to death week after week..
month after month.

I suspect you will get a few people ARGHHHHING & YAWNING!

Live and let live - cultural differences - personal preferences

AKissIsNotAContract Wed 21-Aug-13 12:05:37

YANBU. Wasn't there a petition started about Clare's doing this last time this topic was raised on MN?

racmun Wed 21-Aug-13 12:06:22

Disgusting. I personally hate earrings on girls but then I wasn't allowed mine done until I was 18.......

Surely there should be a minimum age introduced of say 12 at the youngest.

ElleBelly Wed 21-Aug-13 12:09:26

Thought it would have been done to death but am new to Mumsnet and couldn't be bothered to trawl through entire history before posting, plus it upset me and needed to vent.

Jinsei Wed 21-Aug-13 12:09:28

It's the norm in some cultures. I personally don't like it, but I don't think it's that big a deal if others choose to do it.

ChimeForChange Wed 21-Aug-13 12:09:57

YABU for wanting to punch, violence solves nothing :-)

YANBU for being disgusted. There is absolutely no practical reason for piercing babies ears. It is purely cosmetic and someone would want to 'improve' the look of their baby is beyond me.

ChimeForChange Wed 21-Aug-13 12:10:42


HeySoulSister Wed 21-Aug-13 12:11:55

your op is horrible....makes you as bad imo

also,why was baby crying......had the ears been pierced at that point?

Greythorne Wed 21-Aug-13 12:14:42

I think earrings are a minor issue. I would allow my DDs to have their ears pierced if they wanted them done. On a baby? The issue of keeping the piercing clean would worry me.

But punching someone? Nah.

Tattoos on people of any age on the other hand are absolutely foul

Feminine Wed 21-Aug-13 12:17:12

Parents should be able to get it done at the Doctor.

if they really want

The "punching" bit is a bit silly though.

ElleBelly Wed 21-Aug-13 12:19:28

Yes had just been pierced... and OP a little tongue in cheek, not a violent person was just pissed off about her blasé attitude as much as anything else!

hettienne Wed 21-Aug-13 12:19:35

I don't really think wanting to punch someone hurting a baby is as bad as actually hurting a baby.

Tee2072 Wed 21-Aug-13 12:22:16

Yes, violence is the perfect response to something that is none of your fucking business.

Fakebook Wed 21-Aug-13 12:22:22

If you felt so angry by it, why didn't you say anything? Was it because its none of your business? Because it isn't.

Amrapaali Wed 21-Aug-13 12:22:30

Claire's don't pierce ears of babies that are screaming or in distress. I had my DD's ears pierced when she was 1. The first time was a no go as she was too panicky and the Claire's assistant flat out refused.

The second time took all of 30 seconds, and DD was upset at the sudden shock more than anything else...

hettienne Wed 21-Aug-13 12:23:47

Your baby was upset at the sudden shock of you punching a hole through her flesh? Who'd have thought it.

Saffyz Wed 21-Aug-13 12:24:13

YANBU. If the child wants their ears pierced when they're old enough to decide, they can do it then.

HeySoulSister Wed 21-Aug-13 12:24:31

I would think the shock and noise of it distressed the baby more than any pain......its the pain afterwards which i hate the thought of. especially if it becomes infected. horrible.

StephenFrySaidSo Wed 21-Aug-13 12:29:12

"Claire's don't pierce ears of babies that are screaming or in distress."

yes they do.

northernlurker Wed 21-Aug-13 12:29:43

I don't care whether it's cultural reasons or for appearence, it's an unnecessary procedure that the baby can't consent to and no reputable practitioner should be doing it.
Absurd to say 'it's none of your business' - the OP saw a parent inflicting pain and mutilation on their child. I would say that's everybody's business wouldn't you? God knows why piercing infants isn't illegal. It should be.

ElleBelly Wed 21-Aug-13 12:30:01

No I didn't say anything, because I'm not going to have a row in a shop in front of my daughter and with a baby with me. Well aware that its none of my fucking business, lots of things are none of my fucking business but doesn't mean I can't have an opinion on them or be angered by it.

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