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aibu to be sick of seeing bfing vs ffeeding debates?

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ImNotABarbieGirl Tue 20-Aug-13 11:17:26

That's it really. I've just turned the tv on and AGAIN...there it is! It just infuriates me.

I still bfeed dd (22 months) I already live with friends and family making me feel uncomfetable, ignoreing little funny hmm jokes/comments about it. I really do not need to turn the television on and hear some woman spouting how its disgusting etc on national television.

It annoys me moreso (sp?) That it is never a fair debate. It is always two extremest type people who just want to point out how wrong, disgusting etc the other party is.

Surely most people have access to information and support out there to make an informed choice about what's best for them. So what is the point of all this then? It seems its just another way for us to belittle eachotherparenting choices

Please excuse grammer/spelling

fluckered Tue 20-Aug-13 11:18:19

turn off the telly or change channel.

kinkyfuckery Tue 20-Aug-13 11:18:42

Yet you just started another one....?

Still bfeeding at 22 months is irrelevant to the bf/ff 'debate' - most ffers would be done by 22 months anyway.

fluckered Tue 20-Aug-13 11:19:23

exactly kinky. was thinking the same.

KissMeHardy Tue 20-Aug-13 11:19:42

But you've just done the same OP. "It annoys me more so that it is never a fair debate etc. etc." - yet in your paragraph above you made sure everyone knows you are breastfeeding and you don't need to be told how disgusting it is grin

You've just started another one, haven't you?

quesadilla Tue 20-Aug-13 11:20:08

Are there really people saying its disgusting on national television? that's the bit that's shocked me. Is this Jeremy Kyle?

I'm bored of it too, tbh, but to be fair I think a lot of the "debates" start when someone who is genuinely anxious seeks practical advice and it gets whipped up into the usual bashfest.

It will remain one of the most hotly discussed issues in child-rearing though so you may as well get used to it smile Just switch off if you don't like seeing it.

DuelingFanjo Tue 20-Aug-13 11:21:48

I'm not done with breastfeeding yet and my DS is 32 months smile cake. Just close your ears to the people who want to start arguments and seek out people who feel the same way as you.

kali110 Tue 20-Aug-13 11:23:49

No its that woman who breastfed in the swimming pool against someone who thought she was wrong

ImNotABarbieGirl Tue 20-Aug-13 11:25:39

Fair enough grin

Although its not so much the debate, but so much the way it is played out iyswim?
And this is not a feeding debate. I mentioned my situation because its relevent to why I don't want to hear somebody saying how disgusting it is etc

ImNotABarbieGirl Tue 20-Aug-13 11:28:09

I'm not watching it. I saw it on the intro bit on this morning heard one woman call it digusting and off it went!

NoComet Tue 20-Aug-13 11:28:42

It will continue until the NHS trains it's midwives, HVs and GPs into properly supporting BFing, right up to the WHO guideline of two years.

Every Drs surgery, nursery, surestart centre and library should have posters advising where you can get support and those posters should have pictures clearly showing babies and toddlers being fed.

(Just as follow on milk ads use crawling babies angry to brain wash people the opposite way)

Natural term BFing just needs to be as accepted as using a car seat.

BinarySolo Tue 20-Aug-13 11:30:09

Oh course they pick people with extreme views. Wouldn't be good tv if one of them backed down and said oh right hadn't thought of it like that! That's why Kate Hopkins does so well.

Fwiw I thought the pool woman came across much better than I thought. And the point about all lactating women potentially leaking into the pool was unfairly glossed over.

softlysoftly Tue 20-Aug-13 11:31:47

But BF in a swimming pool is a bit gross?

<<possibly missing the point>> confused

DropYourSword Tue 20-Aug-13 11:34:15

The facts are that BF is better for baby (and mum) but many women choose to FF for their own reasons. Is not disgusting, it's natural. Women have the legal right to not be discriminated against for breastfeeding. However, the debate you are taking about was (presumably) that woman feeding in the swimming pool. I personally don't think that was appropriate. I certainly think that women should be able to feed their babies anywhere that would be considered OK for anyone else to eat and drink in, and they definitely shouldn't be banished to a toilet, but some women just take the piss!

NoComet Tue 20-Aug-13 11:34:17

At the moment it is the total opposite, by 18 months, DD2 instinctively knew not to ask to BF in public, even though I couldn't have cared less.

If a socially aware 'baby' picks up societies vibes, what hope is there for BFing mothers and their family and friends.

(I should add DD2 happily fed in private for a very very long time, but I'm not allowed to tell you how long.)

waltzingmathilda Tue 20-Aug-13 11:41:32

Depends on the situation. If you are going to wrench your hands and complain you are sooooooo tired, sleep deprived, have no sex life and your DH is banished to the spare room because you are co-sleeping and BFing every 2 hours - then thats your choice. DONT MOAN ABOUT IT.

People know the options/alternatives. That's my only input into the discussion. rod for your own back

pianodoodle Tue 20-Aug-13 11:44:51

I haven't actually seen many debates about it!

I think, if you get some crud TV programme, they're just going to stick on someone with extreme views from either side.

For most people there isn't a "side" you just do what suits you!

TooTabooToBoo Tue 20-Aug-13 11:45:31

rod for your own back

Go on, explain - I know you want a rise out of somebody so here it is smile

Minifingers Tue 20-Aug-13 11:47:41


I can debate this topic until the cows come home.

It's a fascinating subject - where all sorts of issues cross over: commercial interests; the health and development of babies; physiologIcal imperatives versus current social mores emphasising the importance of control and bodily autonomy; sexuality; the environment. Oh yes. grin What's not to like?

LifeofPo Tue 20-Aug-13 11:48:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DuelingFanjo Tue 20-Aug-13 11:49:36

oh go on - tell me why is feeding a baby in a pool a bit gross?

Minifingers Tue 20-Aug-13 11:52:02

I think allowing snot, wee, saliva, stray hairs, random poo cling-ons to get into swimming pool water is vom making. Therefore I respectfully request you wear a whole body condom when you go swimming.

Breastmilk - not so much. Actually not really an issue at all compared to the above.

FrigginRexManningDay Tue 20-Aug-13 11:53:33

I don't think anyone really cares that much about how someone else feeds their baby. Formula or breast milk <shrugs> whatever as long as they are fed. I would concentrate my outrage to parents who don't feed their children.

Minifingers Tue 20-Aug-13 11:54:16

I will always give a shit about babies not being breastfed.

gamerchick Tue 20-Aug-13 11:57:11

Is that the this morning program? They always pick something to poke the wasp nest. Don't stress about it.

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