My dh is at risk (50%) of inheriting a debilitating illness, if he is a gene carrier our dc will have the same risk. It is a terrible terrible illness which usually strikes between 30-45 but can be sooner or later, there is no preventative, cure or effective treatment.
We didn't find out that he was at risk until after we had children. Obviously when we did find out it was a huge shock. Dh felt he wasn't able for genetic testing to find out whether or not he has the gene mutation. I would have been keen to find out but understood that this wasn't something he was yet able for. We decided to wait a few years and agreed that at some point we would have to know for sure for the childrens sake, (if the illness had not already started).
It has now been a lot longer than the few years we said. The kids are teenagers and I feel we need to know for their sake. We mention the illness and family members having it and it been inherited, from time to time but they really do not understand the signifigance of it.
Aibu insisting dh has the test so we know where we stand and also where children stand. He says he wants to have it but has said that for years and has never done anything about it.
Im scared if I push him into it and it is a positive result he will blame me and also give up.. Im scared if he doesn't have it the dc will resent us in time to come for not been more honest about what lies in the future for their father and possibly themselves.
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Deemail · 19/08/2013 23:09
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