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burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 15:01:09

Hi ! Hope someone can help! I already posted in education thread but no one answered!!!!shock
I was wondering if anyone's dc does tennis! Can someone please advice me about competitions , how do you enter your child and how does it work?! Any advice will be highly appreciated !!!! Thank you so much!!!!!

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 21:26:33

Thank you all for lovely and very informative replies. DeWe, that's info that I was looking for, thank you so much. She is good girl,down to Earth( for now) but competative! Which in a way is good!
I don't even think about profit, I just want her to get the feeling of competition, meeting other kids and understand more rules and tennis. You made me soooo happy, I got more information from you than I expected, thank you so much.

DeWe Mon 19-Aug-13 20:22:27

I did tennis LTA tournaments at low level, and assuming it hasn't changed:

You're looking for the 10 and under competitions (it's age on 1st January that counts, so if she's had her birthday then she'll still be 10 and under next year).

You will need to find out the tournament referee and apply some time in advance. they may only take the first certain number (often not many in under 10s, perhaps 16) and it will be first come first served. You will pay for this as you apply, if you don't go, then you lose the money.

In under 10s it's often round robin (everyone plays each otherand sometimes those results are used for a knockout competition so they got lots of matches)

You will be required to be available all the tournament time until you're knocked out. You will receive a message telling you the time of the first match, and after that you're assumed to be available. You generally can't say you're busy (one person was knocked out for attending her dad's funeral in my first tournament) Even if it's raining you have to wait through it.

Finals are usually held on the last day and prizes (trophy for winner, runner up and possible a small cash prize-I am talking small, often not more than the entry fee) presented. You won't make a profit that's for sure. I won all tournaments entered one year, and if you took petrol into consideration (but not equipment) it didn't cover it.

You need to make sure she can do her own calling (out/in) and keep score. It is entirely up to her (not you) when she's on court. You don't interfere at all even if the other person's a pain. You can appeal to the tournament referee and, if he thinks you have a case, then he can send someone to umpire.

And be prepared for her to lose. Sometimes a lot. When I played it wasn't infrequent that someone turned up to a tournament thinking they were the next best thing, and got completely knocked off court. I remember one saying to me in bewilderment "but my coach said I was good", difficult to answer when they've been thoroughly beaten by everyone. Some children thrive in the competition, some sink. The first season often lose quite a bit simply because they're getting used to it.

They may need to play a number of matches on a day, being too tired isn't an excuse for not playing. In round Robins (often only best of 7 games or 1 set or something) they may play the entire tournament in one day. If playing the best of three sets, they can be asked to play 2 full matches in a day with only half an hour between them. I came off once after a 3 hour match and had only forty minutes before I went back on

And there will be some overly competitive parents (remember one pair who used to sit either side of the court keeping a running commentry on their car phones through the whole match-that was in the late 80s!) and some nasty children (one at our club was known as Brat Mac for very good reason!)

pianodoodle Mon 19-Aug-13 20:03:03

I am a private tutor (music)

I wouldn't expect my students' parents to know what to do regarding exams and competitions I would advise them and then if wanted, enter them myself.

Definitely speak to coach smile

BlingBang Mon 19-Aug-13 19:55:34

Not done that many outside our own center. But afaik you just apply through the lta website (obviously check it's at a level she feels comfortable with). The tournament organiser should email you with confirmation and details (the lta website doesn't usually have timings) and you just pay when you get there.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 17:41:16

BlingBang. I will travel, it's ok. She really likes it, she works really hard and I don't mind. I would like to ask you, is it book, pay and show up? If that's how it works , yes I will take her as far as I can. Thank you sooo much.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 17:38:05

Primallass. Do you just book, pay and show up? Thank you.

BlingBang Mon 19-Aug-13 17:37:59

My kids coaches don't organise their competitions. You can talk to them about it but it's up to the parents to do the leg work. Other places are different and the coaches take the kids to tournaments etc and are more hands on. Many young kids are very serious about competitions and travel quite a distance nearly every weekend so you have to decide how serious you want to get which usually costs megabucks from what I've seen and is very time consuming. You can stick to local comps of course but that can be quite limited though London might be different of course with the higher population.

primallass Mon 19-Aug-13 17:35:16

You should be able to search on the LTA website for tournaments. My DS has done a couple.

valiumredhead Mon 19-Aug-13 17:27:58

Oh good Lord, that's not my experience at all. I have no advice, sorry.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 17:26:32

For a year. The thing is her coach is telling me for the past 3-4 months that I need to take her. It's one of the ways that kids get more confidence, it motivates them more etc, but she is not doing any competitions. She told me to become member of lta ( which we did) , that to look for middlesex county lta ( we did) but what then? She doesn't do competitions. There is a boy who started at the same time and I do speak a bit with his DM. She is very nice lady and she told me that he did more then 60 tournaments. What???? I was too intimidated to even ask for info. Felt like I am some dumpy, honestly. That's why I came here for more advice. Thank you.

valiumredhead Mon 19-Aug-13 17:14:32

When she's ready the coach will tell you ime and they enter her. How long has she been doing it?

valiumredhead Mon 19-Aug-13 17:05:26

Ds does tennis. The coach organises everything when they are ready to enter.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 17:00:28

Yes, she is member of lta. We live in nw London, when I do search in local area it will give me Surrey, but only one or two that are suitable for her level. So do I just click and pay for her level or do I need to present anything else? Thank you

BlingBang Mon 19-Aug-13 16:53:51

Just ask your coach for advice, it can be quite complicated at first. She has to join the LTA which is free, they have a search function for competitions in your area.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:52:39

Mikulkin. That's what I thought but she is not doing anything like that. I will have to be straight forward and ask her all things that I want to know.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:48:34

Wow . I just realised one of my posts have ! after every sentence. That's really bad . I would be sacked if I do this at work. Hope little Burstingbaboon' a won't do the same thing......

mikulkin Mon 19-Aug-13 16:47:49

The coach should enroll her. The reason the coach mentions to you is to get your interest confirmed. The rest is coach's problem. My DS plays in tennis club and we went through this.
The coach will first organise internal competitios and/or give you phone numbers of children who are interested as well to arrange the games.
Then the coach will get her to the next level hopefully.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:43:13

grin I know , I can see it now. I covered ! sign and I won't use it no matter how urgent it will be. Thank you.

fluckered Mon 19-Aug-13 16:39:34


you do.

and it makes your posts sound very urgent like its life and death. but don't worry about it. you post on a forum your gonna get a variety of answers. I sure as hell have loads of spelling mistakes and improper punctuation but your excessive use of the !! kinda stood out tbh.

but don't worry about it.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:36:49

Do I really use !!! so many times? I just dont even realise it, honestly. Is that why most posters are having a go? But not everyone is writing perfect English. It's my second language and I am really trying hard. When I am at work I have to be more aware( obviusly) but other times it looks like I do lots of !!!! which I shouldn't , but I came here to ask about tennis not my mistakes....

fluckered Mon 19-Aug-13 16:30:50

(elbows burstingbaboon in the ribs, grabs keyboard, rips off ! key)


listen, just ask the coach. honestly it is what he is there for and you pay him for. if you really don't want to ask him, get your dd to, or perhaps there are leaflets on it in a sports centre or there was some good advise and links up thread. good luck op!!!!!

(he he he)

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:27:59

Youstayclassysandiego! You are right! Just I am not the most confident person in the world and I thought I will be able to get information without asking the coach!
She loves tennis! That'a what is important- she is doing something that she loves and she is good at it( not perfect) and I thought I will be able to do things on my own! Thank you!

YouStayClassySanDiego Mon 19-Aug-13 16:22:03

Why should you be expected to know the ins and outs of tennis?, just because your dd is talented doesn't follow that you should be an expert yourself.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:20:19

No it's not as urgent, but I would like to get more info before I go back to work or she goes back to school! I realised that I have only a week and it would be nice to understand more about tennis. I know levels , ranking but as i said earlier, I will speak to her coach. I just feel that maybe I will be judged for not knowing more about sport she is doing.

burstingbaboon Mon 19-Aug-13 16:14:57

Binky.... Why do you say that i come as demanding?

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