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To refuse to accept a parcel for next door

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so man with HUGE box came to the door with a parcel for next door, was I unreasonable to say 'no I'd rather not, its very large and I actually don't get on with them' he huffed at me and stormed away shock and I felt bad for approx a minute. saw him leave without it so nicer neighbour on other side must have accepted it. I am horrible aren't I smile

LadyBryan Mon 19-Aug-13 11:14:13

No I think you're being honest. I hate it when delivery people leave parcels with random people.

Next door either way would be fine, but there used to be an extremely elderly old lady opposite who basically got bullied into taking something in for us. She was really upset and we felt absolutely awful

HatieKokpins Mon 19-Aug-13 11:16:25


usualsuspect Mon 19-Aug-13 11:16:54

I think you were a bit miserable.

How hard is it to do your neighbours a favour?

LRDPomogiMnyeSRabotoi Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:28


Of course you're not unreasonable. I take quite a lot for my neighbours because I'm usually in and they're usually out, but I wouldn't take something if there was a good reason not to, why should you?

I think there's meant to be some way of getting it marked down that you don't take parcels, but I'm hazy on the details.

LittleBearPad Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:31

That seems a bit crap, sorry. Would it really have negatively impacted you that much or for that long to be helpful and take it?

Elsiequadrille Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:56

They really shouldn't do that. I've seen them slamming gates closed and stomping off when neighbours have refused to take parcels in.

I once refused to take in two adult bicycles for a near neighbour as they'd have blocked my hallway, which I pointed out (too narrow with hall benches there also), andI had similar tantrum from delivery person.

aw lady that's wrong isn't it. Normally I am ok about it and for anyone else but the horrible folk next door It would not be an issue. I just would hate them coming round to collect it as we don't speak.

andadietcoke Mon 19-Aug-13 11:18:00

Nope. We went away for a few days and on our return found that the courier company had delivered an 8ft blind to our very elderly neighbour's, and it had been propped up in her hall for three days. I felt absolutely awful and really wished she'd refused it.

Elsiequadrille Mon 19-Aug-13 11:18:30

No, you're not horrible.

cheeseandpineapple Mon 19-Aug-13 11:20:34

Yes! Might have helped improve things with your neighbour if you'd taken the parcel in. Glad you're not my neighbour!

CrispyFB Mon 19-Aug-13 11:21:09

I nearly always take stuff for neighbours, but in the past I've refused to take stuff when it's for neighbours I hate. Petty, but if they play loud crap music into the small hours and refuse to turn it down when DH knocked and asked really nicely, then show up the next day on our doorstep having a go at us, why should I do them a favour.. plus I don't want further contact with them.

I'd also refuse a huge huge box where we currently live as I wouldn't be able to get the pushchair past.

Couriers shouldn't assume everyone can take every parcel ever, he was very rude to huff at you. The couriers have always been polite to me on the rare occasions I've had to decline.

Elsie glad its not just me, apart form not being on friendly terms with said neighbours the parcel was huge and I don't really have a hall, just a small space so it would have blocked the place or had to go in my living room. as I said usual I am ok for anyone else, just not these folk.

HorryIsUpduffed Mon 19-Aug-13 11:22:40

Our neighbours take for us and we take for them, which works out nicely. I was a bit shock when one parcel turned out to be vintage bayonets though...

Large deliveries, or having to hold on to things for ages, are a bit different.

plummyjam Mon 19-Aug-13 11:23:39

I would have accepted it. I took a small parcel for a random neighbour in our flats because otherwise they go back to the post office 2 miles away. The neighbour who collected it was a mum with 6 month old twins in a double buggy. It would have been a monumental PITA for her to collect it from the post office. Similar pain for collecting a large box I would have thought.

MadBusLady Mon 19-Aug-13 11:23:57

I took in a big posh deli gift parcel for a neighbour once. NEVER again. 18 hours and numerous knocks on their door later (I'm certain they were in for at least part of that time) it became obvious that the parcel contained fish...

I wish I'd been on MN then. "AIBU to think that it's a fucking stupid idea to post fish to people?"

Might have helped improve things with your neighbour if you'd taken the parcel in. Glad you're not my neighbour! actually they have been so horrible to me in the past that I would no longer make an effort to improve things with them, I am happy to be ignored and ignore them too now, so cheese if you were at all like they are then I am glad you are not my neighbour too! sure you are not smile

"AIBU to think that it's a fucking stupid idea to post fish to people?" grin

plummyjam Mon 19-Aug-13 11:25:23

Although I see you don't want any contact with them at all so I suppose YANBU.

DaddyPigsMistress Mon 19-Aug-13 11:27:55

I wont take in for one of my neighbours. Hes a bastard and refusing to take the odd amazon delivery makes me feel better


plummyjam think it was a courier so they leave a card and redeliver when the person is going to be in. In your circumstance I would have accepted too. just not for the people next door

Daddypig maybe this is me too <sits on childish bench and swings legs> although if it had been a small box I may have just done it and let DH answer the door when they came to collect it.

ilovesooty Mon 19-Aug-13 11:30:19

If the size of the parcel would have caused difficulties for you I think that was all you needed to tell the courier.

plummyjam Mon 19-Aug-13 11:30:26

Ah well in that case sod 'em YADNBU grin !

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Mon 19-Aug-13 11:30:34

I guess if you don't get on with them it would make it awkward when they collected it from you? I would prob have still taken it in, niceness confuses my unfriendly neighbour.

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