My DP and I flew to Cyprus last year on holidays. I'm a really nervous flyer but I get through it with mental preparation and don't want to let it stop me as we go away every year with my mum & dad, sister & husband and niece/nephew so it's a lovely get-together. (They live in different parts of the country so fly from different airports).
Part of my nerves-beating prep is pre-booking seats so I know exactly where we'll be sitting. I take a bit of time with this and look at the seats layout on the airline website, even down to the position of the window next to the seat so I'm definitely able to sit as calmly as possible without having to sit forward/twist my head backwards to see out (some seats have mainly plastic wall with the window further forward or back). This prob sounds very weird but part of it is extreme claustrophobia and being able to see outside/having a window really helps.
We paid a premium and pre-booked specific seats online, with extra legroom (my DP is 6ft 2) and a window seat with the window in the perfect position. All my mad requirements met so I felt ok! I also feel really self-conscious about my nervousness and sometimes retch a bit if I start feeling particularly anxious, so I like to be "cocooned" and safe in my window seat, hidden from others.
Soooo (sorry for such a long preamble!!), we get on the plane with our boarding passes and seat numbers (check-in acknowledged that we had booked our seats online already) only to find a woman and her 2 children (they looked about 8 & 10) sitting in our seats....with boarding cards with her original seat numbers scribbled out and our seats written on.
The stewardess approached and curtly asked what was the matter. I explained that there seemed to be some mistake as I'd pre-booked these seats. She went off to check and came back saying that someone had presumably gone through the seating plan at the gate and moved us as the woman had not pre-booked seats but needed to be seated with her children and the airline had to allow for that, so she had two new seat numbers for us.
I politely explained that I was a very nervous flyer and had specifically booked these seats (and paid extra for them!) so was there any way she could ask along the rows around if a different 3 people would mind moving as there were lots of gaps further down the plane but she said no, they'd updated the computer system at the gate so there was no way round it. (This made me feel even worse as I immediately thought, oh god it's so they know who's in which seat if the plane crashes and people die!!). At this point the woman in the seat stood up and said "Look, can't you see that I have children?! Obviously we need these seats more than you!", I was a bit taken-aback but said that I'd actually paid for these seats and if she was really that worried why didn't she pre-book seats so that they were guaranteed seats next to each other. She said she didn't need to, why on earth should she pay extra when she had children, the airline had to seat them together anyway. Followed by large amounts of smugness and smirking.
The stewardess then started tutting, saying the captain would go mad if we missed the take-off slot so we just needed to get into our seats. Oh god. Our new seats. It was my worst nightmare. She led us to the two seats halfway down the plane right next to the large exit doors. No window, just a door to my right with multiple emergency signs (and a bloody key in it with a massive red label on it saying "REMOVE AFTER TAKE-OFF" which stayed in for the whole flight!! (I was too mortified to ask anyone if it should really still be in the lock during the flight!). No seats in front of us so I felt massively exposed (and no seat-back for my crash position!!!), just a big gap then the next row. (Couldn't fault the leg-room though!). Plus a weird gap to my right as the two seats were slightly off-set so the window seat behind me had a bit of a half-gap in front of it. Through this gap, every 10 minutes or so, came a small child belonging to the couple sitting behind us. But the gap was a bit tight so the little girl was grabbing onto my arm-rest/arm to haul herself through, stepping on our feet as she came cackling past and grabbing my DP's knee to fling herself round the corner back into her parents' row. After an hour of this I turned to the couple and said "I'm sorry to be a pain but it's actually really annoying, d'you mind stopping her doing this" and they just looked at me (through the 20 mini wine bottles) and said it was keeping her quiet and it was a long flight for a little child so no, they couldn't.
Arghhh!! Dreadful experience. I felt really exposed and really anxious for the whole flight. Just horrible.
On a final note, the stewardess delivered my DP's pre-booked/paid meal to our original seats and the bloody woman took it and ate it!! My DP enquired as to where his meal was and, after 10 mins of him explaining what had happened with the seats (different stewardess!) she said she'd taken his meal to the original seat and it was accepted! She agreed to bring him a meal, but it had to be the vegetarian option now as they'd run out of standard meals...I was sorely tempted to say something to the woman at the baggage travelator thingy at the other end but by that point I was a bit of a wreck and couldn't be arsed with anything other than a large glass of wine!! (And she was still throwing the smug smirks my way so I didn't want to give her the satisfaction of showing I was bothered...)
I emailed Monarch when we got home and received a template email back saying, basically, tough shit, read the small print, we have the right to move you, this woman had children!! Yep, sorry about the meal but it's easily done as meals are allocated to seat numbers, not names and we have the right to change your meal, that's on the small print too.
We had a lovely holiday but we're off again in October to Turkey, again with Monarch (limited airline choice for date/time from our airport) and I'm utterly paranoid that this may happen again. Wonder if I should email Monarch in advance....or am I just over-reacting and being unreasonable??!
(And finaaaaally! I was pretty upset at that woman. I like to think if that were me I'd at least acknowledge the unfairness of the situation and say to the stewardess to be fair she has pre-booked and paid extra for these seats and is a nervous flyer, couldn't you just ask along the rows if anyone else would be happy to change seats? Or AIBU??!)
I'm a pretty confident, happy-go-lucky person in real life, it's just flying that turns me into a nervous wreck....maybe I just need to grow a pair!!
AIBU?
To be so upset that a woman & her 2 children were given my (pre-booked online for an additional charge) plane seats?
lalalady1971 · 10/08/2013 04:13
OMG, I feel SO sorry for you. I am also a nervous flyer (nowhere near as bad as you) and would have freaked out at the seats that you were given. It is totally out of order that you were moved to accommodate some entitled woman just because she had children, of that age (more understandable if they had been 2 and 3). Even more out of order that she ATE your pre-ordered meal. I genuinely am 
at this and really hope that she is reading this! I'm sorry to hear that you are flying with the same company again soon, as my advice would otherwise have been to avoid them at all costs and to write to the paper with your story. Give them as much bad press as you can. ((((hugs))))
We reserve the right to move any passengers our cabin crew feels are unsuitable for exit row seats. that does not appear to be the case here, unless there is more small print somewhere else I would take it further! and I've read all I can on their website, without going so far as to book a flight! 
I see that their policy is in fact, that all children under the age of 16 must be seated next to an adult.
Ah, thanks guys, glad to hear I'm not just an over-reacting nightmare as the nerves can influence common-sense a bit!
She was a right cow to be fair so I suppose the situation would have been a bit less stressful if I hadn't then had to sit there for 4 hours seething...wish I'd nipped to the loo and caught her eating the meal!!
The mad circuiting child didn't really help either!
They can change seats but I think they said it has to be an alternative premium seat, which these were as people pay extra for the legroom...
I have looked into the Fear of Flying course...but you have to go on a plane!! I know, I know, that's the whole point. I'm ok, have developed my own coping skills so I can get through it, things like visualising all the steps from checking-in to boarding etc etc every night the week before which really helps. Part of me thinks well fuck it, I coped with that dreadful experience so I can get through anything they throw at me now!! Will need to adapt my visualisation in October to incorporate a self-righteous cunt taking my lovely safe seat!
YANBU. Sounds typical of the horrible entitled cunt who posts here tbh.
Napa, they said I wasn't entitled to any refund as the alternative seats were of equal premium value 
(Not for me they weren't!).
Sadly using them again as we were a bit limited with airlines, end of October timings and Easyjet fares were much more expensive...hope your long-haul goes ok!
I think I will email them though, maybe if I explain I'm a nervous flyer and describe the experience I had they'll at least put a note on and maybe be less likely to swap our seats! And I shall raise the unhelpful attitude of the stewardess who, quite frankly, couldn't have been less interested in how I felt. I know they're all stressed and under pressure but they're on the frontline of customer service FFS and it's not like we haven't paid for the pleasure!
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