To be very annoyed at my neighbours(29 Posts)
This is quite long sorry!
Right we currently rent our house and have lived here around 4 years very happily. Have always been in good terms with neighbours however they are very 'in your face' type people. Our garden is very open plan with their garden and everything you go out if the house they are their striking up conversation with you. We do have a good relationship (e.g we look after their cats when their in holiday and visa versa) however we rarely socialise unless their is a house party or special occasion. We do however find them very over bearing and they really do not take the hint that sometimes we just want our own space and this year we have rarely sat in the garden as they are just so annoying!
A couple if months ago our landlord called and said that sadly, due to a family bereavement and change in circumstances he had to sell the home that we rent. We have therefore had to look for a new home and have bought our first house together and all of this is currently going through and we are due to move mod September.
A couple of weeks after finding out we were going too e I mentioned it to my neighbours in conversation anyway long story short they have decided to buy the house we live in and extend their house into ours if you see what I mean! (Bloody expensive extension IMO but hey each to their own!) they are yet to purchase our house but our landlord had accepted their offer and so they are quite excited and have already started planning the work.
Anyway tonight they had some builders around to look at their house and to plan (and I would assume cosy out) the work. I was not aware they were having these builders around I just heard them in the garden. Around 30 minutes after the builders had arrived I had a knock on my door and it was my next door neighbour asking if she could bring the builders in to have a look in our house as they had been trying to describe the layout and it was difficult to explain! To be honest she really put me and my husband in an awkward position and we did let them however it was highly uncomfortable as I found it so rude and was quite obviously annoyed. I was also feeding my little boy which they could see however in they waltzed, wine in hand, to check it out.
They were in the house about 5 minutes, thanked us and left. We then went out for a couple of hours and when we returned they came around to say how sorry they wee and they should never have done that. They were apologetic however I think only because I was do obviously annoyed. We were typically British and said it was ok and for them not to worry about it however I do think it was rude and completely inna
All you needed to have done was say 'I'm sorry, but it's not convenient.'
Have you met your new neighbours yet??
I'm not seeing the problem tbh. It was 5 minutes.
You could just have said no. Why didn't you?
I don't think you should be very annoyed because:
1 - You agreed to let the builders in. You could have said that it wasn't convenient but they could come back later to arrange a different time (as it was tea time and the family were eating).
2 - They were only in your house for 5 minutes.
3 - The neighbours realised they did wrong and came round to apologise later.
I'm also thinking that this didn't happen particularly late in the day as you went out after for a couple of hours. So, at a reasonable time of day I don't think it was that bad for your neighbours to ask. If you didn't want them to come in all you had to do was decline politely, not let them in and then be visibly annoyed.
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