Me and my SO got into a huge fight today about how he feels like he is doing everything and I am doing nothing except taking care of the baby. It would have been fine if it was a calm discussion, but he was screaming at me in front of the baby and just generally putting me down about my depression and PND and my lack of motivation to really do anything. So after he left to go help a friend fix his car, I thought about things for awhile and I started texting him. This was the conversation:
Me: I am honestly tired of fighting with you. If I am even going to make an effort to better this, then you need to make an effort too because I don't want our son OR your son to grow up thinking it's ok to treat people the way you treat me, because it's never ok no matter what they do. Try being helpful and supportive instead of angry and mean because the way you treat me makes me feel like I can't do anything and so I don't. Why risk getting it wrong if you'll only yell at me for that too? And don't say you wouldn't because you have. So if I make an effort, you need to as well.
Him: you act like I've always been like this fuck this shit I'm not gona do this over text or phone
Me: I'm trying to have an honest conversation here because it is easier for me to write things down rather then say them. Don't get mad at me for trying.
Him: I'm mad because I've given you plenty of time and opportunity.
Me: and you want me to make an effort so I'm making an effort.
Him: This is not the time or how it needs to be handled, now I'm busy.
Am I being unreasonable to think he is just not willing to cooperate with me?
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Firebomb · 06/08/2013 19:55
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